Molly's BDSM Tips | Small Penis Humiliation | Should I Reduce My Size?

Our BDSM advice columnist, Molly, is back this week responding to one Fetish.com member who is considering penis reduction surgery as a result of his small penis humiliation kink. Read on to find out what Molly suggests.
 

Dear Molly,
My kink is basically small penis humiliation. I totally get off on the thought of women taunting and teasing me about my dick being small. However, it has led me to think about reducing the size of my penis, but I am struggling to find any resources or information about this and wonder if you could help with that at all? 
MCC

Dear MCC,
As you have said, small penis humiliation (SPH fetish) is when a person with a penis is turned on by someone commenting on the size of their manhood. Small penis humiliation can take many forms from just discussing the size and critiquing it, to a berating and belittling someone about it. For some people, it can also include enjoying aspects of cock and ball torture, including chastity devices and water sports, which all add to the humiliation aspect of this kink. As with all kinky things, everyone is a little different in exactly what it is about it they enjoy. 

How do I make my penis smaller?

The only way to do this permanently is through surgery. Penis reduction is a very invasive procedure that is not without risk. Obviously, there is the risk of having an anaesthetic and also post-surgery infection, but there are also other risks such as permanently damaging the penis so that it no longer gets hard (erectile dysfunction) or being left with pain and scarring. 

Besides, penis reduction surgery is a niche area of medicine, so the places where it is available is limited. As a result, this means that it also contributes towards it being a costly procedure as it is not something you would be able to get done through the NHS or even via health insurance, depending on where you are in the world. 
 

Accepting your body the way it is

Having spoken to a few female dominant kink players about SPH fetish, they said to me that it's not necessary for your penis to be small for you or your partner(s) to enjoy this type of play. 

You are the way you are, none of us has a perfect body, and yet our bodies can bring us a huge amount of pleasure if we allow ourselves to enjoy it. I genuinely believe the key thing here for you is not to pursue the goal (or dream) of making your penis smaller, but accept your body exactly the way it is - and learn to enjoy it. 

Whatever your cock size, you can enjoy small penis humiliation by learning to love and accept yourself and knowing what it is you like about it. Being confident in your body and what you like is the way to permitting yourself to truly enjoy this part of your kink, regardless of your penis size.  

Finding someone to enjoy small penis humiliation 

Being more confident about knowing what you like will also help you find someone to enjoy this type of play. You don't mention if you have any partners or not, but if you do, then I encourage you to talk openly to them about what exactly it is about small penis humiliation that works for you and get them to tell you what they like about it. If you don't have a partner at present, then this is a conversation you should be ready to have when you do. Also, be open to exploring other types of related play (as mentioned above) as you may well discover new aspects of small penis humiliation that you or your partner may like. 

If you're finding it hard to connect with a partner, then you might also want to think about finding a professional female Dominant (ProDomme) with whom you can explore this kink. Just like within a relationship, it's essential that you explain to any potential sex worker what kind of things you're into and what things you don't like or want. Not all Femdommes like the same thing and so finding a professional who fits with you means you both will have a better time. It will also help you to gain more confidence and hopefully feel more comfortable with your body as it is - and reduce that desire to alter the size of your penis forever. 
Good luck,
Molly x

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