What is CBT Fetish and What Does it Have to do with BDSM?

CBT is well known to psychologists, but it has another far kinkier meaning as well - BDSM CBT or Cock and Ball Torture. Our own Sienna Saint-Cyr shares her experiences of cock and ball torture as a mistress, and what you should know. 

BDSM Cock & Ball Torture & RACK

Just the words 'cock and ball torture' would send many men shuddering. Testicles are sensitive. Even as a woman, I know this. I remember the first time I kicked a boy in the balls on the playground for trying to kiss me. He never came near me again. The thought of intentionally inflicting pain to such a sensitive spot isn’t for the faint of heart.
 

To start, BDSM cock and ball torture is a part of RACK or risk-aware consensual kink, anytime torture or torture devices are involved, we are taking a risk. In order for acts to be consensual, all participants must be aware that they are risking injury. Precautions should be taken, just as with any kink.

Inflicting pressure and pain to the cock and balls can be intimidating because it’s dangerous. Therefore, I’ve compiled a list of common cock and ball torture methods below. Whether you’re new to genital torture, have a CBT fetish or looking to increase the intensity, there are plenty of options!

Devices of pleasure and pain for CBT fetish on display. Image: from barb_ar via Flickr Creative Commons

Cock and ball torture terms you should know

• Ballbusting: Inflicting pain to the testicles. This can be done by slapping, kicking, scratching, pinching, and/or punching the balls. Ballbusting is often the easiest to take part in because it involves other body parts and no fancy torture devices. For this reason, ballbusting also one of the more common.
• Torture Devices: Any toy that causes pain and tortures the wearer would fall into this category. So ball crushers, urethra stretchers, shock devices, pinwheels, spiked cock rings, clamps, spiked cages, ball weights, and so on. As always, do your research and use with caution. 
• Ball Stretching: This is often done with a clamp or any device that can stretch the testicles. Sometimes ball stretching done to cause pain, but ball stretching is much more complex. But it doesn’t have to cause pain. A small amount of stretching can bring more pleasure during an orgasm.
   

  

   
• CBT Locks: A cage for the cock and/or balls. The cage generally locks and the key kept by the Mistress or Master (or Dominant). Cock and ball torture cages can get uncomfortable when the cock is erect, which many tell me is part of the fun!
   
• Sounding and Urethra Devices: A metal rod or plug inserted into the urethra to cause sexual pleasure. Sounding rods and plugs are often tapped on, creating a vibration to travel up the urethra. 
   
• Electro Shock Play: Using tools like a violet wand on the cock or testicles. By using a violet wand, a device created initially for hair growth, now a kinky torture tool, you can adjust the output to prevent damage to more sensitive areas of the body.
   
• Needles: Needles can be inserted into the cock. Often in a row along the shaft, longer needles can go through the meat of the cock, some through the tip of the penis, but these are generally thin medical grade needles. They can also be used on the testicles.

How popular is CBT fetish?

Ballbusting and the likes might sound like something out of a horror movie. Just my simple inquiry made my husband gasp. However, cock and ball torture is so popular that every time I open a kinky profile somewhere online, I get roughly three to five emails a day from men asking for it. Just looking for cock and ball torture devices online will pull up site after site, tool after tool. This is because CBT fetish is popular. And not only amongst the kink community.

Why is this possibly dangerous CBT fetish so popular?

So what is the draw, beyond those who enjoy a little humiliation and pain as pleasure? I think for many, CBT fetish is a way of feeling like more of a man. Boys grow up hearing, “Grow a pair” or “Get your balls out of her purse.” I loathe these sorts of toxic comments as they are designed to shame men who respect a woman’s opinion and ignoring his feelings of fear, nervousness, or sadness.

While all of us have our moments of being shamed, men go through a rigorous ‘men must be tough’ brainwashing scheme that begins in early childhood. Even for parents who try hard not to expose their children to that toxicity, the reality is society will inflict it soon enough.

I’ve been told this leaves men feeling like they must meet specific standards in order to be men. It’s for this reason that some men love cock and ball torture. Even non-kinky dominant men, because any man that can handle his balls being put into a torture device is tough as fuck.

For Mistresses like me, taking part in cock and ball torture can be therapeutic. Sure it’s fun to inflict pain when you’re a sadist, or when your subby little man is begging for it, but women can also work out their own societal issues. Being in charge of a man in a male-dominated society means a power shift. It can be hot as hell and healing. It’s symbolic. The man’s balls represent masculinity while the woman has them in a vice, squeezing the fuck out of them.

Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, most things relating.

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