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Help for a new Dom (dynamic changed after the sub went for a solo playdate)
The wife and I have been enjoying an active sex life for many years. We're swingers, and have begun to start exploring the power dynamic.
She is submissive, I am dominant. She loves praise and being dirty (e.g. she loves it when I praise her for being a good whore).
Recently she went away for 5 Read more…nights to NYC to visit an old friend, and on the last night she [with permission] played with a single male whom we've played with before.
It went well.
However.
She admitted to me that she feels as though she got the better half of the deal there. I was at home with the kids, she was out partying in NYC getting laid. This has led her to feel a little less submissive to me.
She mentions that because she was in charge of the sexual experience in NY (the male was a gentleman, as he should be), she's having a tough time accessing the willing sub again.
I had suggested: of course she got the good part of the deal, and that she should be grateful to me. And her gratitude should involve her doing [x, y, z].
She seemed to feel as though this was a good way of framing it, but I'd love to dissect this a bit with knowledgable folks.
I also worry about how much to involve her in me figuring out what to do about this. I worry that my inexperience might further impede my Dom persona in her eyes.
Please let me know thoughts/comments/tips/tricks/etc, thanks!
She is submissive, I am dominant. She loves praise and being dirty (e.g. she loves it when I praise her for being a good whore).
Recently she went away for 5 Read more…nights to NYC to visit an old friend, and on the last night she [with permission] played with a single male whom we've played with before.
It went well.
However.
She admitted to me that she feels as though she got the better half of the deal there. I was at home with the kids, she was out partying in NYC getting laid. This has led her to feel a little less submissive to me.
She mentions that because she was in charge of the sexual experience in NY (the male was a gentleman, as he should be), she's having a tough time accessing the willing sub again.
I had suggested: of course she got the good part of the deal, and that she should be grateful to me. And her gratitude should involve her doing [x, y, z].
She seemed to feel as though this was a good way of framing it, but I'd love to dissect this a bit with knowledgable folks.
I also worry about how much to involve her in me figuring out what to do about this. I worry that my inexperience might further impede my Dom persona in her eyes.
Please let me know thoughts/comments/tips/tricks/etc, thanks!
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Id assert my dominance, hard. Fuck her like shes never been fucked before. Choking, bondage, step on her face while fucking her ass, Make sure she knows why im the dom. But those are Read more… things I do with my sub so gotta do your things.
That boys a plaything making sure your ranks alpha and he was simply a tool YOU used to pleasure her body which belongs to you (if that last bits your dynamic, if not i strongly recommend it)
In my mind id have goals:
Show her why youre the dom, give the 100% experience.
Completely envelop her with your domination, make it the entire world in that session so it feels like nothing else exists outside that session.
Own her. Own her body. Own the experience she had. Own the pleasure she had as your own. Tell her it pleased you that she so obediently went and did all of that.
Talk dirty and fuck her hard while making her talk about the sex she had FOR YOU.
Gotta take this advice though as my dynamic not being your dynamic, so you might need to tweak the wording. ❞
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Id assert my dominance, hard. Fuck her like shes never been fucked before. Choking, bondage, step on her face while fucking her ass, Make sure she knows why im the dom. But those are things I do with my sub so gotta do Read more… your things.
That boys a plaything making sure your ranks alpha and he was simply a tool YOU used to pleasure her body which belongs to you (if that last bits your dynamic, if not i strongly recommend it)
In my mind id have goals:
Show her why youre the dom, give the 100% experience.
Completely envelop her with your domination, make it the entire world in that session so it feels like nothing else exists outside that session.
Own her. Own her body. Own the experience she had. Own the pleasure she had as your own. Tell her it pleased you that she so obediently went and did all of that.
Talk dirty and fuck her hard while making her talk about the sex she had FOR YOU.
Gotta take this advice though as my dynamic not being your dynamic, so you might need to tweak the wording.
I think the main thing a sub wants (my personal sub feel) is u are safe. sex is just the fun part