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I am NOT looking for a partner, sexual or anything like it. I don't have anyone to get advice from about my marriage and the kinky part so I am here. My husband and I are very devoted to one another and do not share. At all. Not even a little.
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where can't i get a good one sure to not break???
and where do you get your BDSM gear?
Thanks for the lube tip! We have used a few kinds so far, currently have the brand oasis and it seems to work but it was expensive for how much you have to use! Sheesh!
on the positive note, last night pushed the bounds of dom/sub more than normal and that was a big plus. Now I have to figure out Read more… how to get him to fully submit (this goes back to my previous post). He likes to be the sub but there's something in him that always makes him fight back. He submits but every once in a while has to prove his "power" or something. I've gotta break him 😂
Idk what's wrong with me but I am hoping to be able to do this again tonight.
is it ok to do it so soon again since last night was the first time???
Thanks for the tips!
i got buzzed last night, not wasted but feeling pretty good. I'd also smoked a lot of weed first. I guess this is why when he tried he was able to go all the way first try. It started to burn but I didn't say anything until the burning was too much and he said him too. Turns Read more… out the lube was like icy hot!😳
We cleaned that off off and went for another bottle and as y'all mentioned used lots and lots of it and to our surprise he was able to work all the way in and started going and while he was cautious and never went full force he was able to enough to finish and with a lovely little toy I was able to finish twice while he was in the back.
again it must have been the combination that loosened me up because toward the end I really enjoyed it and it never hurt too bad past the point of entrance.
i think we are trying it again tonight 😂 I was afraid that I would wake up sore tomorrow with all I read about anal and considering how fast and hard my husband was going at it, but I feel 100% (apart from the lack of sleep 😂)
short story:I need tips on making anal less painful and more pleasant for the first time.
Long story: As recommended I found a "submissive check list" and had both my husband and myself score Read more…each one 0-5 on receiving and giving. Any one that scored a 4 or higher, unless one of us gave it a zero which meant it wouldn't happen, and wrote them all down on little slips of paper and put them in a container. Each night we draw two and will act them out. A lot of new things!
one such thing is anal on me. I have never done this and am quite frankly terrified and excited at the same time. I know what an "accidental poke" feels like and it scares me for an intentional one. But the thought really excites me.
so I put the cards in thinking it would be a while until anal popped up since it was only one slip out of 100. Nope. Third night. So tonight I learn what all anal is about 😳🤠
but like Ike I said I have never done this so please any pointers to minimize the pain and maybe even enjoy it a bit?
If you got a store like our Walgreen's or CVS pharmacy you have two of them one called Boots and the other Superdrug you will find Astroglide there. Any gel from any of those manufacturers is okay, like I said it doesn't need to be expensive. The only thing to remember is more is better and stop if it hurts.... ➦Deleted profile quote Annalina-4957:❝Any lube recommendations for the UK please? TIA❞
If you got a store like our Walgreen's or CVS pharmacy you have two of them one called Boots and the other Superdrug you will find Astroglide there. Any gel from any of those manufacturers is okay, like I said it doesn't need to be expensive. The only thing to remember is more is better and stop if it hurts....
We discussed some things last night. I was surprised with what he was willing to "consider" with just a little encouragement from me. We now have a shopping cart with some new things (one being a cage).
i don't know if it was the discussion we had before or the ropes though but last night I tied Read more… and blind folded him and almost right away he started to feel uncomfortable. Claustrophobic he says. So I took it all off as soon as he said the word and it got awkward for a bit but once he was feeling more comfortable we went back to it, only I skipped the rope and used cuffs instead. He says he feels like a "little b****" for having to take a breather. I tried to encourage him but used that when we actually got back to it and now the awkwardness is gone.
we are going to introduce a cage, non sexual dominance And a couple other new things. He has told me where he wants to draw the line and I'm alright with that, I might just get really close to that line sometimes!😂
Anyways...
when it is non sexual dominance what is a good beginning? How long do you play out the role, in public too? What are some subtle ways we can go about that?
when non sexual dominance was brought up it reminded me of a couple I barely knew a couple years ago. I was always confused by their relationship but now I think I get it. They were mid 30s and he called he "Ma" or "Ma'am" every time. When they would eat he would serve her everything and would never sit down. We all made assumptions why he wouldn't sit down but now I think it's a dominance thing when I think back on how they were together.
i don't want to humiliate my husband but I do get really excited at the thought of control!
i wouldn't even know where to begin...
But shouldn't I get his permission outside of sex before taking that step? I can ask again but I doubt he will say yes
We have and I tried to introduce a new instrument and even though it wasn't large at all there were some difficulties that left him pretty scared with anything but finger. Oops ?
It is not often that I do this though
He says Pegging is too far for him
Pretty much.
we have been together almost 10 years. We started this new stuff two years ago and it's been the same since.
I bring up new ideas and they are laughed off or "too far". He is very vague with what he wants. All I have to go by is me "in charge" "teaching him a lesson" and a little pain Read more… and bondage. That's literally all he will give me. So that's all we do. It's great and all but I feel like it has become too routine
Now at this point I'm kind of Read more…stuck in a rut. My creativity isn't there and I don't know where to take this next.
where we are: it's pretty much always the same. Tie him up, put on the nip clams, do a little scorching biting and or spanking, most of the time with the blind fold and candle wax. That's pretty much the extent of it. I will choke him during sex a little but those are my only moves.
so I read stories and look in forums and find things that I bring up to him and he's put off by it. I can tell him to shut up and if the mood is right call him a b**** but anything more he loses interest. Same with the physical stuff. He says he doesn't want the "extreme" stuff. He says it not like he would or would not like it but that it is completely out of the question because it's "too far". Moral code or society standards idk.
so I'm kind of stuck. I feel like I have done all of the beginner things and maybe there's a whole lot I don't know in the beginner world but I'm looking for more to add. Maybe move on to intermediate or just add more beginner but all I ever find is extreme. Does everyone just start balls to the ball??
so I'm here for help to spice up and enhance these moments with my husband.
thanks ?
i don't know if it was the discussion we had before or the ropes though but last night I tied Read more… and blind folded him and almost right away he started to feel uncomfortable. Claustrophobic he says. So I took it all off as soon as he said the word and it got awkward for a bit but once he was feeling more comfortable we went back to it, only I skipped the rope and used cuffs instead. He says he feels like a "little b****" for having to take a breather. I tried to encourage him but used that when we actually got back to it and now the awkwardness is gone.
we are going to introduce a cage, non sexual dominance And a couple other new things. He has told me where he wants to draw the line and I'm alright with that, I might just get really close to that line sometimes!😂
Anyways...
when it is non sexual dominance what is a good beginning? How long do you play out the role, in public too? What are some subtle ways we can go about that?
when non sexual dominance was brought up it reminded me of a couple I barely knew a couple years ago. I was always confused by their relationship but now I think I get it. They were mid 30s and he called he "Ma" or "Ma'am" every time. When they would eat he would serve her everything and would never sit down. We all made assumptions why he wouldn't sit down but now I think it's a dominance thing when I think back on how they were together.
i don't want to humiliate my husband but I do get really excited at the thought of control!
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