I'm a dominant character in a relationship but would not yet call myself a Dom.
I want to better myself to be a better partner for sure, and I do like to take control in sexual matters especially. I think I still have a lot to learn and gain confidence before calling myself a Dom.
I like bondage a lot and am looking for a person or persons to practice rigging with.
I would like to meet some people local to myself, I just don't have the time to be driving miles to meet no matter how special you are.
Lastly I am heterosexual, I'm flattered by the messages from guys but respectfully, males are just not my bag.
I have changing desires and fantasies, my biggest desire is to meet someone meaningful and get lost in the darker side of sex and sensuality.
Personally I'd just break it down as there are separate issues here.
1) Mental health
2) emotional damage
4) kink/sexual preferences.
I'd probably recommend dealing with them in that order too although 1 & 2 can be interchangeable, i. e Mental health can be partially a symptom Read more… of past emotional abuse and family issues.
Unless you give the first two some horns to get a hold of and wrestle with until tamed, I wouldn't even consider a relationship, you're simply not confident or strong enough to have a healthy relationship.
Once relationships form, allow those to solidify before becoming overly intimate, the very nature of intimacy can leave you vulnerable. Again you need to deal with and start conquering your first (for want of a better word) weaknesses before introducing more.
Allow things to progress slowly and naturally exercising restraint and discernment, trust your alarm bells and act on them accordingly.
Lastly address and introduce your kinks, once strength and trust are developed. Communication, trust, respect, responsibility are the foundation for a relationship, no point building a house and furnishing it on a shit foundation. Houses also take time to build and shortcuts lead to structural weakness, impairing longevity.
I wouldn't use anything elasticated period, as things get hot body parts swell and you may find they become hard to cut off.
I don't use bondage tape but maybe try that. Having said that, breast bondage with rope is quite easy imo.
Well good you told him to do one but if he starts quoting scripture just remind him what the bible says about loving his wife as Yeshua loves the church, sacrificially and setting aside his own life for his bride.
Well I have been using a Sold State wand with the DV8 electrodes a short while now and have to say they turn the cheap wands made for the beauty industry into usable tools.
I have the red devil and Devils hair just now, they are way more powerful than glass electrodes. The red devil is probably my Read more… favourite, using it parallel to the skin it good for sensation as the surface area gives a less sadistic feel. However using the tip really helps bend a person to your will, its an effective way to get someone to spread their legs for instance.
The devil's hair is versatile though and is nice to use alongside impact play.
Using a Solid State wand is still going to be frowned upon by the vintage restored brigade which I still find odd. People don't get precious over cheap or expensive floggers, canes, paddles or rope choice but that's a different discussion.
For those who have bought a darsonval wand off ebay, I'd highly recommend looking at these electrodes, I shall certainly be getting more!