Yo**** Posted February 1 I’m attending my first munch tomorrow and my wife is joining me to help settle my anxiety. What is the general etiquette if you see someone you know from the vanilla world? I’d guess not calling them by their name or generally about their vanilla life is a safe bet, until you know if that’s some they share anyway.
Jo**** Posted February 2 Happens to me occasionally. Just greet them as you normally would and enjoy the munch. As long as you don't tell people outside the munch, its perfectly normal.
Vi**** Posted February 2 Introduce yourself as if they don’t know you or read the room and go from there.
sm**** Posted February 2 The beauty especially about the UK based Munch's that they are all set in a Vanilla venue and normal street attire. It does help with reading the room if you do bump in to someone you know in the vanilla setting. The only thing that should stand out is most have a unique item "a-z" or a teddy etc to distinguish the munch attendee's from the vanilla's, usually explained prior by the Munch organisers. On the other hand, yes it can feel awkward, but the are there also for the exact same reason, they should also realise we were all new once.
ey**** Posted February 2 if you see someone from the vanilla world, then it can feel like a minefield the first thing to remember is they are ultimately there for the same reason as you, and at least initially - it can be as awkward for them as it for you. Depending, of course, on who they are and how well you know them - then it's already a potential icebreaker and someone you know you can talk with - obviously, of course, refrain from real names, or info which 'outs' them unless it's obvious they're already open with it in the group.
Sm**** Posted February 2 As I'm new here, could someone explain what a munch is? Lol. You don't know what you don't know. 🤷🏻
sm**** Posted February 2 (edited) 1 hour ago, SmokeyJ said: As I'm new here, could someone explain what a munch is? Lol. You don't know what you don't know. 🤷🏻 It's a meeting of likeminded fet people, usually in a vanilla "non fet " environment, like a pub, in normal street clothing. One of the best ways for new people joining the scene to get to know people, them you and hopefully making friends. Usually once a month, some have early bird meet and greet for new members so they are not swamped or intimidated by regulars. Also a bit of an ice breaker, where they will introduce you to some of the regulars. Also one of the best places to get yourself known and in time trusted. Bare in min there are no play elements involved, it's akin to a social meeting of friends, you shouldn't t know it was fet related if your looking in. Edited February 2 by smeagol added info
Yo**** Posted February 2 Author Phew, I wasn’t asked to leave so that suggests it went well. First munch under my belt and only 2 years to pluck up the courage. I should have done it earlier instead of letting the anxiety build.
Sm**** Posted February 2 4 hours ago, smeagol said: It's a meeting of likeminded fet people, usually in a vanilla "non fet " environment, like a pub, in normal street clothing. One of the best ways for new people joining the scene to get to know people, them you and hopefully making friends. Usually once a month, some have early bird meet and greet for new members so they are not swamped or intimidated by regulars. Also a bit of an ice breaker, where they will introduce you to some of the regulars. Also one of the best places to get yourself known and in time trusted. Bare in min there are no play elements involved, it's akin to a social meeting of friends, you shouldn't t know it was fet related if your looking in. Nice. Thanks for taking the time to explain it to a newbie.
MistressWhipplash Posted May 3 When you to an after work drink = it's that same social mindset of networking. Nothing.more, except for the topics may include kink.
sm**** Posted May 10 52 minutes ago, VulnerablyYours said: What does Munch mean? IN the UK scene it's just a usually monthly meeting of likeminded kinksters in a vanilla setting, usually a bar etc no kink involved, but one of the best ways for new people to enter the scene, get to know likeminded kinksters in a safe environment. Passing by you would just think it was a gathering of a large group of friends. As they are usually mid afternoon onwards, quite a lot of venues picked, serve food. Epic places for you to get your face known and them to you, as well as being able to ask any of those questions you needed to know as there are usually quite a variety of people with different knowledge and experiences of different aspects of BDSM etc. Always recommend a local munch for anyone making their first tentative steps. You will be made to feel welcome.
Yo**** Posted May 11 Author 17 hours ago, RavishingFreya said: How can I find any in my area? There’s quite a few in your area, a site called Fetlife has more info on events so check that out.
sm**** Posted May 11 18 hours ago, RavishingFreya said: Edinburgh and Glasgow used to have a few running. In FL look in search groups. There are several play type events as well and munch meet ups.
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