Chastity - The Dom's Persepctive

[Curiouschimera]

I'd be very curious to hear about women's perspectives on male chastity. That might be by using cages, using denied orgasms, disallowing orgasms or simply ignoring his appendage all together. 

Is it something that excites you? Do you find sexual pleasure in it? Does it make you feel like the focus is on you? Or is it just something men find gratifying?

[La****]

I LOVE chastity. In fact, my male subs need to be okay with wearing one. Its a big factor point for a male sub to be able to continue the connection further with me. Yes it is excites the shit out of me and I find pleasure bcs of it.

[Deleted Member]

I don't get any sexual pleasure it at all. I just love to never let men get anything they want. 

[Deleted Member]

its training for me, they either get better at letting me enjoy them in my merciless hands or they dont and we adjust till they can. The ones who really enjoy giving up control and desires are the ones worth training

[sl****]

It is definitely worth it. Discipline, focus, and restraint.

[Deleted Member]

It’s the discipline for me, and disallowing organs, it typically keeps them on their toes.

[Th****]

I wouldn't say I get sexual pleasure from it, though I enjoy utilizing chastity. 

For me, it's definitely about the power and control and I like how it serves as a reminder of ownership in my absence. 

[Ca****]

Previously been in two cuckold relationships, both my gf insisted i was in full time chastity as they claimed it kept me controlled and focused on my tasks . The bulls also loved knowing their fucktoy bf was in chastity.

[Deleted Member]

When it was still a hypothetical, the fantasy of it excited me. I had the idea of it being part of long-term committed relationship.

After a weird situation with one person, I'm now key-holding for a different person and it's a different experience: I'm enjoying the concept on an intellectual level, but am getting more of a physical charge from the sadomasochistic side of our play. That may change over time, but if it doesn't I'm fine with it.

[Mz****]

I’m willing to investigate chastity but it does nothing for me.

[Mi****]

It can be a very powerful dynamic between two people but 💯 commitment on both sides is used in an FLR or long distance dynamic . Regular check ins on both sides to make sure each other is doing ok . Also I think you wouldn't hand your wallet to a stranger so be careful who cages your cock . In the wrong hands it can be detrimental . For long distance Dom/sub it can make you closer but also as a Mistress it can be time consuming if done correctly. For example tease denial ruined orgasms you need to know what your doing ot alot of research to mark sure you do .
Not all subs want this but very submissive subs find this the ultimate in servitude to leave Mistress to completely control all orgasms and locked away till needed .

[Deleted Member]

I use chastity on both men and women.

I began it on myself to understand what it does to the body, heart, and mind, as I do with all of My implemented rituals and sadistic tools. I have been chain orgasming for 25 years straight, so it was a challenge to prevent myself from going over the edge, but I discovered a substantial amount of power and control in denial, both for the self and in relationships. I found I craved sex less often. I used to value myself based on how others perceived and wanted Me. With chastity, I realized I was far more valuable than a moment's bliss in orgasm, and I found I became more desirable when I did so. Now, I wear my sexuality as an additional adornment that draws the intrigued toward Me. They can tell I don't need them, that I am self-sufficient and content, and this is attractive to a majority. We desire want, not need, a partner, not codependency. That takes the weight off the relationship, to not expect nor need in order to be fulfilled. Both sides can be free to be themselves without having to fill a role.

Chastity is a form of Tantra. The Dominant manipulates the hot and bothered chaotic energy and funnels it into a productive direction that serves the relationship or separate lives, wherever such creative power is needed. When we are in a space of desire, we are far more motivated. We see ourselves as capable, our problems feel smaller, everything feels better, and the closer we get to orgasm, the more all those feelings heighten. Feeling invincible, in euphoria, sensing like one might orgasm just from breathing or being touched, this is the epitome of being alive, to be a walking orgasm on the brink of self-destruction that leads to inner and outer revelation.

So, what if someone can have all those dopamine hits around the clock, sustained and managed? It becomes a weapon of constant manifestation. Our pineal glands, the walls they create, are lowered when we are in a heightened arousal state. This is where our judgment, our shadows, our detriment plays on repeat. When I put a slave in chastity, I am empowering them above his or her or its own self-sabotaging cycles and I am doing this in a fun way, our sexuality, which is rooted to all of our weaknesses and strengths. Many fetishes tend to develop because our souls crave balance. I may put a slave in chastity because he or she is chained to their own instant gratification, or perhaps, I wish to give them discipline, self control, the chance to run their own life. Or perhaps, he or she has depression or anxiety. In chastity, I can mold around those feelings, help the submissive conquer and thrive above such hardships in the aware and awakened state that arousal brings. It is a place of reprogramming, this serves Me, as the Dominant, greatly.

I also get off on watching a submissive beg for release. I enjoy the suffering, the noises, the faces, the way the body contorts when it needs and wants. I love observing the wallowing, the pitiful little scene take place. It is intimate, I feel connected to the very base of My little pleasure whore. All their self-criticisms disappear and I get to see the raw form, and this is the greatest gift I can ever receive from My bottom, his or her deepest truths given to Me in the throes of ecstasy, that very ecstasy also offered upon a silver platter for Me to devour.

[Do****]

I love chastity cages, particularly when in service. It stops the sub being distracted by his hard on. Keeps him focused. And massively turns him on. That ache!!! Love keeping one locked up using a remote access key pod for as long as possible. 24/7. That level of control to keep them locked up all day every day without even being present. Love it! A naked subby doing housework or DIY whilst caged. Not knowing if or when I might take it out to use it and then pop it straight back in again afterwards. I love that a sub gives over control of their (often) most favourite part of their body to me.

[ja****]

June 12, DommeDelight said:

I love chastity cages, particularly when in service. It stops the sub being distracted by his hard on. Keeps him focused. And massively turns him on. That ache!!! Love keeping one locked up using a remote access key pod for as long as possible. 24/7. That level of control to keep them locked up all day every day without even being present. Love it! A naked subby doing housework or DIY whilst caged. Not knowing if or when I might take it out to use it and then pop it straight back in again afterwards. I love that a sub gives over control of their (often) most favourite part of their body to me.

Chastity, for me, feels like a leap of faith a quiet, turreted form of devotion. It’s not about games or ***, as it often seems to be for others. Instead, it’s a conscious choice, a private struggle that reemerges with each urge for release.

Every time I feel that pull, I’m faced with a decision: do I sacrifice the days of restraint and clarity I’ve earned for a moment of pleasure? Do I give in and let lust unravel what I’ve patiently built?

That’s why I engage with chastity carefully, almost reverently. I flirt with the edges of it but haven’t yet committed to the full leap. Because for me, chastity isn’t a game. It’s a test of alignment, of discipline, of values. And I’m still deciding how far I’m willing to go.

But yes its fun for the dom to have this kind of control and its amusing for her, but fewer dom would tale that leap of faith also.

[ja****]

June 3, MistressJem1 said:

It can be a very powerful dynamic between two people but 💯 commitment on both sides is used in an FLR or long distance dynamic . Regular check ins on both sides to make sure each other is doing ok . Also I think you wouldn't hand your wallet to a stranger so be careful who cages your cock . In the wrong hands it can be detrimental . For long distance Dom/sub it can make you closer but also as a Mistress it can be time consuming if done correctly. For example tease denial ruined orgasms you need to know what your doing ot alot of research to mark sure you do .
Not all subs want this but very submissive subs find this the ultimate in servitude to leave Mistress to completely control all orgasms and locked away till needed .

It is funny how several “mistresses “ walks around in keys around the neck showing off their victory, however in my opinion a chastity sub, is a victorious sub, he won his battle against lust, temptation, and most importantly his mistress, yet he chose her to hold his key.. I guess I am being overly dramatic about it

[ja****]

June 12, DommeDelight said:

I love chastity cages, particularly when in service. It stops the sub being distracted by his hard on. Keeps him focused. And massively turns him on. That ache!!! Love keeping one locked up using a remote access key pod for as long as possible. 24/7. That level of control to keep them locked up all day every day without even being present. Love it! A naked subby doing housework or DIY whilst caged. Not knowing if or when I might take it out to use it and then pop it straight back in again afterwards. I love that a sub gives over control of their (often) most favourite part of their body to me.

I really need your advice on something, please let me message you

[ja****]

6 hours ago, barranquilla211 said:

I am 22 and inexperienced how do I find a dominant girl

Well if you are willing to pay 💰 there is plenty of girls who could dominate you, however if you are looking for the real ones! I suggest you remove your profile picture, put a regular profile picture, read about bdsm literally as much as you can, and don’t let any one fool you and the real ones will find you, not the other way around.. I’m saying this with love not out of disrespect. You are young and it’s easy to be a bait.

[Salacious67]

Chastity for me is such a turn on physically in terms of being restrained and also mentally in that I’m handing over control and the reminder and feeling of being caged is such a turn on mentally knowing that I’ve committed to my Domme and showing subservience to her and knowing it pleases her is excites me too, and have check-in with each other whether that be me asking I’m I fine to take it off for a particular reason and then being asked have I put it back on afterwards and checking in so see if I’m ok feel exciting and comforting while helping to build that connection..sometimes the build up, anticipation, denial and teasing along with the mind games are just as good if not a better sometimes than physical orgasms and can certainly increase the pleasure of orgasms physically when it comes to it..pardon the pun!

[bo****]

Chastity cum is so fun

[SayMaam]

Every dick belongs in chastity

[Rainydaye88]

I feel like the real answer is both. For me, it's the act of commitment that is the turn-on. It becomes a turn-off when someone is so free to give their key to someone just so that they have the gratification of being caged and not caring who it's given to as long as it's a femdom. Any femdom. It feels cheap at that point. I fall into a very romanticized view of keyholder, for sure.