Timers and tools

[Deleted Member]

Do we like tools for spanking or do we like hands more?
How do we feel about timers for choking and gaging and stuff, is there better things to do with the timer or tools?

[Dr****]

There are times for hands and times for tools. As for choking, you get a feel for it with practice, for newbies I usually suggest having your partner hold your wrist or hold something tight in their hand. If their grip let's go then you let go. Assuming you have discussed it beforehand, of course.

[ey****]

while there are a lot of great toys, for both giving and receiving I like skin on skin - bare hand.

While choking/gagging/etc are very valid and fun activities, I wouldn't recommend them for first timers / newbies 

[Deleted Member]

I need to trust their bare hands before I can trust them with a tool.

[ey****]

oh in terms of using timers for choking/etc

only if

a) the time used is a maximum time

b) neither person involved is using that time as a target, moreso a warning

 

[GreyHogandBrat]

I prefer to start with hands onto clothed backsides. Then the pants come down or the skirt goes up and I bare hand for a bit. The panties were gone before we left the restaurant. Next I use small paddles, crops, canes, quirts and single tail whip, all depending on the target's tolerances. I finish with bare hand with lots of caressing and soft care. Then, let the cuddles begin!!!!

[GreyHogandBrat]

For choking, I use the grip as a timer. Have them grip your arm or hold their hand above their head. When they go weak, stop. Timers are too arbitrary and don't account for allergies, colds, etc. Just because last week 90 seconds was okay doesn't mean 60 seconds won't kill someone today. Safety is paramount for trust.

[gu****]

Really depends on the person and situation.
Most of the time you can do most things with your hands and the right kind of belts and bracelets.😁😇 #trainingRequired #travelLightly only flogger is hard to emulate from feel

Timers might be nice if you know the partner very well as kind of countdown - but i prefer to do it manually