My bf has second thoughts..

April 12

Look for another bf

April 12

You have to be able to respect boundaries and consent, which also means leaving space for anyone to change their minds at any point. Keep conversation going. Maybe he will change his mind back one day. If it has become something more important to YOU, that is a separate conversation, and may mean a difference in compatibility. People change.

April 12

Mind scrolling through some comments there is something a lot of folk have missed

So - there's two things I'd stand by, that some folk duck out when things "get real" and also that anyone has the right to say no, to revoke consent, even on something they'd previously said yes to

but also

a load of comments berating the OP for trying to convince her boyfriend - yep, it's correct it's a no, she should respect this boundary --- but ignores that he is the one that initially pressured her into agreeing in the first place! (which, incidentally, is yet another reason not to coerce or give in to ***)

Edited April 12 by eyemblacksheep
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April 12

It might be time to part ways. You not being able to fulfill your fantasies isn’t good for you either.

April 12

Do not push the issue let it grow on its own

April 12

Sometimes things are best left as a fantasy.

April 12

Tell him not to worry he gonna like it it

April 12

It’s natural for people who are considering bringing another person into their relationship to have second thoughts or doubts.

They are caused by a number of factors, self doubt, concerns that one’s partner might ‘prefer’ the new addition to them and form a relationship with them, performance and inadequacy issues -even jealousy.

You can’t convince someone to do something they don’t want to ….. that would be wrong.

So - perhaps start by thinking about the reasons why you yourself were on the fence.
What were your concerns ?

Then translate those ***s across to your boyfriends’ current situation.

There may be ways to allay his ***s.
The key to this working is honesty… and communicating with each other.

If he can verbalise his reasons for wanting to hold back now, try to find a way of answering his concerns.
Why did you change your mind ?
Was he able to reassure you in some way ?

Why was he keen to try cuckolding in the first place ?
Has that changed ?

April 12

Don't *** it. it could ruin your relationship like it did with me and my ex

April 12

It was a fancy not really his reality

April 12

You could use a chastity cage. Lock him away and tell him you’ll let him out when you get home from your date. And he can clean up the mess. See how he responds to this set of rules.

April 12

yes you need to talk to him and find out what made him change his mind. You camt put a bandaid on it. You nned to fix the issue of concern first.

April 12

yoir bf has to feel reassured that he is #1 even as your cuckold. Understand?

April 12

Gotta just start hanging casual with potential 3rd

April 12

Until it happens

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I wonder if he was calling your bluff. Knowing you would say no, he really didn't want it, but wanted you to day no the whole time. Ask him if that was what happened.

April 12

He's a sub and needs you to take control! You tell him what's going to happen and when. Make it clear that he has no say in the matter.

April 12

To late now, you saw how your bf really saw you and your minds never going back to pretending. Tell him if he wants the delusion of a relationship, then he needs to be okay with you being the version of yourself he truly saw you as or it's over.

April 12

I think he just need to see it happened. Don't stop doing it. My wife was the same . Just recently I got to see what its all about. It's fun really. Hopefully you get what you want

April 13

My be you shouldnt be talking to guy both of u should just pick one an do the thing to her cuz maybe u talking to guy got him uncomfortable or my be he don really no what cuckold means see I will let you have a nother man as long as I'm in it to not u just doing your thing an me watching I got to be involved

April 13

Are you willing to risk your current relationship for a new kink? If not, tread carefully.

April 13

Yeah you need to find out what changed for him let him know that he's always the 1 and only that the others are just toys to you and he's the one you come home to and spend your life with.

April 13

I was going to say the same. Not knowing what changed his mind or gave him second thoughts, all I can go on is my own experience. In which case I would say your assurance of him still being your love and your #1