My bf has second thoughts..

[Ln****]

He never wanted to do it....he was just trying to push you kinky level forward before asking about bringing another woman home!

[Ki****]

22 hours ago, gertimusprime said:

Get him into watching you masturbating but not allowing him to touch. Make it about him enjoying watching you, seeing you enjoy it. It's a form or voyeurism that also has that connection. Without the feelings involved the 3rd is essentially an organic sex toy, your not trying to fuck another guy you're trying to help him achieve his fantasy.

I actually really like this. It’s getting into the what and why of it being intriguing for him. So much of kink really is the mental stimulation. If you two can discuss and safely explore what turns him on about it just between the two of you, you will have a better understanding. Often heavily fantasizing can distill that. Perhaps there are ways that you can tap into his desires without actually involving another person, or maybe fully understanding his desires will make him more comfortable with it. I don’t think you should ever try to change someone or push them to where they are uncomfortable. But the summary answer of most posts comes down to one word… communication. 

[letugetall]

On 4/12/2025 at 11:24 AM, exporing_couple said:

My bf was super into us trying cuckold while I was on the fence. Now that I start to talk to other men and wanting to meet he has second thoughts and wants us to stop being on this app.

Now how do I convince him to get into cuckolding again? Anyone thinks he can convince him?

its a nice fantasy for many men... until it actually becomes real. From all the women I have talked to most men that want to try it can't handle it and the relationship does not last... on the other side many women end up losing respect for the cuck and leave him... It is a tough dynamic to pull off. I made it 7 years as a cuck and a wreck on the highway ended it... I would say if he wants to stop... you will never fully get him on board.. good luck to you

[Th****]

Tell him he has a small pp and you are in charge

[sh****]

Don't ask for threesomes when she ask for another man it's a problem lol

[th****]

Tell him you found a bullcock and it gets to decide not him

[da****]

Tell him you’ll do a FFM. If he goes along first. If you’re right about him, he’ll enjoy the cuck role and forget about the other.

[Mi****]

Could work @darkdave6969, worth suggesting it if they are into it

Hi OP, hopefule that you see this, I appreciate you're looking forward to the opportunity to do this, please just bear in mind some people feel comfortable to discuss at first nut get nervous, it's natural. They may also realise it's not for them and monogamy is important to them, just as someone may try vanilla and find it's just not the same. What we all mistvtry to remember is that most people here are still on a journey as they explore bit also even confidently live Kink, and may have to reevaluate things as they go. The goal is never to find ways to get someone to do what we want to get out of Kink, it's to find someone who is truly compatible for us who gets weak or strong just hearing us talk about our fantasies, and become desperate to act them out. That's how we know someone is right for us. Who knows, maybe they just need to adjust and then will love it once they go through with it. Maybe you aren't the best fit for you (but you guys are happy in each other's lives and they turn out to be a great Bull for your newly cucked future partner 😉). or maybe meeting your partner in the middle and finding a way to satisfy both of you will work. Maybe a Dom that simply gives commands to your partner and expects him to do those things to you, will give him the tingles he needs to feel his power questioned, without wonderin if he'll feel uncomfortable with another person touching you. Lots of cerebral Doms and Sadists you both could have fun with

Just please be patient, ask until you get to what is at the heart of what your partner truly wants, appreciate their desires and ***, and give them all the time they need. Then you will deserve and have them at their very best -
Hope you guys have a great time 😊

[SwitchySlutLover]

It sounds like he struggles committing to the role. I’m sure the idea excites him, but when it comes time to take the plunge, his overthinking gets the better of him. I’m sure he ***s losing you to other guys. If you don’t think that’s going to be the case, you can reassure him could probably play around with fantasies more. More dirty cuck talk and all that. I’m into getting cucked, but i’m currently a bull to a couple. And the way she got around to meeting/messing around with me is by just showing on her date, but telling her man that she was meeting with a female friend for a movie (since he was overthinking everytime she brought up going on dates with other guys too). She later told him that she met with me, he realized he still had her in the end, and she and I have been fucking for months now, and he couldn’t be happier lol. So sometimes, you also just gotta take the plunge.

[mi****]

Don’t, wtf? He’s clearly experiencing doubt and you need to remove “convince him” from your brain and talk to him about how he’s feeling 🤦🏽‍♂️

[Wi****]

Maybe just drop it all together.

[Deleted Member]

There is no convincing, only consenting. If you were my partner and kept trying to convince me to do something I didn't want to do, I would leave the relationship. A fantasy and reality are different things. Be careful.

[Be****]

Your username says it all. You two are exploring and he has found his boundary. Accept it and reel it back in. Or if you really want to go this route know that it could be the end of your relationship.

Boundaries are very important. You have to respect your partner. Does not matter if it is a one night stand or a 15 year relationship.

Sounds like you already know the answer to the question you are asking.

[no****]

Yeah best thing to just end the talks but that's totally up to you just talk to your partner don't ruin a relationship for some fantasy

[St****]

You have a serious choice to make. Which means more to you your relationship or pursuing something you have discovered an interest in.

It’s literally one or the other. Sorry to give you the bad news. Either give this up, or you’re looking to find another relationship. This will absolutely break the two of you and quickly.

[Deleted Member]

What he doesn't know won't hurt him. If you want to try out a few men, do it on the download. Give him time, he'll probably want to try it again.

[ky****]

Ok so there's a lot of details that I'm missing, but I can try to give you a good place to start...

So diving head first into exploring a new kink rarely is a good idea, especially when a 3rd party is involved. Kink has risks, and thus has to be chosen responsibly and consciously. So let's slow down...you both should first determine why each of you were interested in cuckholding. What needs do each of you have that would be fulfilled in a session? From there do your research. Reach out to cuckhold couples and ask questions. You could also look into similar kinks such as Stag/Vixen (simply, cuckholding without the *** aspect)

[sn****]

Well if he’s a cuck, he doesn’t get to make that decision. Maybe he’s testing you and really just wants you to do the foot work and *** him into being the little cuck he truly wants to be

[sn****]

I’m 1/2 kidding btw. Don’t listen to me

[Yo****]

You shouldn't have to convince your partner. If he doesn't want to, then he doesn't want to.

[DarkArts1066]

13 hours ago, Yohanan said:

You shouldn't have to convince your partner. If he doesn't want to, then he doesn't want to.

I don’t think the OP is necessarily looking to ‘convince’ her partner. She states right at the beginning that he was ‘super into’ the idea, and he has now changed his mind.

It seems to me that she is looking for clarity around why that happened, given that she was intitially on te fence about it, and now their opinions have changed diametrically ?

It’s understandable to have changes of heart, and to want to explore the idea fully, before practicing it.

[ey****]

37 minutes ago, DarkArts1066 said:

I don’t think the OP is necessarily looking to ‘convince’ her partner. She states right at the beginning that he was ‘super into’ the idea, and he has now changed his mind.

It seems to me that she is looking for clarity around why that happened, given that she was intitially on te fence about it, and now their opinions have changed diametrically ?

She does say 'convince' in her first post, mind.   But it still feels like the missing context of when he was super into it, but she was on the fence - which feels like he may have led the pressure, and then when the reality sets in has found, actually no. When it becomes real

 

What *is* frustrating in some ways, mind.  The OP has been online but hasn't clarified anything, thanked anyone, told anyone to f**k off... duck eggs.  Come on - how are these thoughts shaping?

[DarkArts1066]

26 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

She does say 'convince' in her first post, mind.   But it still feels like the missing context of when he was super into it, but she was on the fence - which feels like he may have led the pressure, and then when the reality sets in has found, actually no. When it becomes real

 

What *is* frustrating in some ways, mind.  The OP has been online but hasn't clarified anything, thanked anyone, told anyone to f**k off... duck eggs.  Come on - how are these thoughts shaping?

I agree. Some feedback would be helpful - both to those who have offered an opinion, and to the OP themselves, in the form of a continued discussion perhaps ?

She does use the word ‘convince’ - you are correct, but I’m not sure that is the intent….unless She is actively looking for one of us to cuckold him into accepting his role as the cuckolded party - which would be inherently wrong in my opinion, and therefore I am trying to ignore that as a possibility !

[cu****]

Uff da. Tough sell

[ky****]

1 hour ago, DarkArts1066 said:

I agree. Some feedback would be helpful - both to those who have offered an opinion, and to the OP themselves, in the form of a continued discussion perhaps ?

She does use the word ‘convince’ - you are correct, but I’m not sure that is the intent….unless She is actively looking for one of us to cuckold him into accepting his role as the cuckolded party - which would be inherently wrong in my opinion, and therefore I am trying to ignore that as a possibility !

I'm talking them through it privately