My bf has second thoughts..

[Al****]

I say nah. That's going to ruin your relationship completely

[To****]

This actually is a very common problem not just in this community but in general. We all have fantasies that are super exciting in our minds but realize the fantasy is unlikely to be as enjoyable in real life. Kink is no exception but has much larger ramifications than simply saying I dream of buying a Ferrari and now that I have one I can't fit in the damn thing and it's really uncomfortable. In general the fantasy leaves out all of the other consequences of the actual event including things like jealousy, insecurities Etc

[Ki****]

Common problem along with 3somes! It's all good for some until it's game time, and somebody backs out or somebody gets jelly!

[Deleted Member]

Now he’s about to become a real cuck

[oa****]

Might just need to have a conversation about how trying new things your relationship itself won’t change might even get stronger

[ga****]

I would set it up, maybe he is just nervous of what will happen and how you will look at him afterwards. Remind him that you love him and you will always be his each night

[co****]

I think I could it takes a special male Like me , I am a switch , so I can be dominant or Submissive And also super Respectful

[ce****]

Excuse my ignorance. I feel that trying anything with your partner the best is to make sure your both in the same page. He might have wanted to try out of curiosity and somthing clicked that he was not in to it. Respect each other so you can both try other new things together with our regrets to have even tried in the first place.

[Lu****]

He probably worries that he won’t be enough for you anymore. Try to take it slow and talk openly about how you two feel each step of the way. You might want to include some aftercare to not make him feel neglected

[Th****]

Yeah if the right intentions are present, make sure he is completely feeling like he is yours , and not becoming forgotten.
And get the right people involved who share the same values and energy.
Not someone who wants to destroy or steal you would be good idea too
Let the journey be created for you all

[Mu****]

Definitely don't push too hard. My ex and I tried it once and she completely neglected my physical and emotional needs and it messed me up for a long time, even after asking her to stop she continued seeing other men behind my back. It took me years, but now I'd be down to try it again with the right person, but you need LOTS OF COMMUNICATION. Like, almost nonstop communication with him. If he's not into it anymore, then he's not into it. Like the others have said, make sure he doesn't feel like he's less of a man for you. He sounds similar to me tbh. Make sure he knows he's still wanted and loved, that he's enough for you, do NOT neglect him. If he asks you to bail on a date with another man to spend time with him instead, make him the priority. Do NOT choose another man over him (unless he's into that). Maybe even start small with cyber stuff only (phone sex, sexting, trading pics/vids) and go from there. And don't forget to communicate, communicate, communicate! Hope this helps :)

[ja****]

My wife neglected left me for someone else. Not a good feeling. It started with a “we do this together” then she said “I found a girlfriend” her girlfriend hated men, and at the drop of a hat byebye to me. Take his feelings into account.

Once she made a profile, 5+ matches a day, all begging for sex. I’ve been on the apps for 6 months and have less than 10 matches total. Usually people ghost quickly(I don’t even bring up sex).
You two live very different dating lives. Take him into account, it makes you feel less than human on these apps, especially when you see the difference.

[Deleted Member]

My ex girlfriend managed it by introducing me to chastity cages

[Deleted Member]

*** is ***. Full stop. Do not put your kink above your partner.

[lo****]

A man who gets cucked will never forgive you if he’s not down for it so tread lightly

[ve****]

So…….. maybe…… if you guys find a couple and switch…. He’d feel included? Maybe start that way. You get to see him with another woman, he sees u with another man, and maybe that’d be easier for him to handle because ur not the only one getting f**ked basically. I also have seen people say respect him and forget about it desires and kinks. I couldn’t do that because we only live once. Sex is great!!!! Deep desires will eventually be acted on with or without the significant other. Yea…..

[pr****]

I was in this spot when I first started getting into cuckolding. I ruined a relationship with my uncertainty. I tried it later and loved it. In my experience it was the initial act. Once it happened it was exciting jealousy not mad or insecure jealousy. Just make sure you reassure him plenty. Maybe just take it slow he will come around. This kink doesn’t go away! 😅 Ask him about his concerns and reassure him. It sounds like you really want to do it. You can try it on the side first, or just wait it out for him to be comfortable. I was a mess at first. I was so back and forth because mentally as a man and cuck your torn. You realize you shouldn’t like this but you just can’t help but to like it. It’s almost shameful? If you have any more questions just ask. Good luck. 🙏🏻

[Le****]

Maybe try suggesting finding a woman who will get you where you need to be with toys or a strap on. Explain that you really want to try having him watch but you realize seeing another man be the first next person to get you might be a little hard for him. Suggest it be a very butch woman. And then let him find her and be the one to do the direct communication with you giving your input on responses and the entire interaction. This will give him the security of knowing you aren't being stolen away by someone new and it will let you both dip your toe in the cuck pool. Either make it clear to the woman that this is a one and done, or make sure she too is in a loving relationship and is just looking for some extra curricular activities. As long as the communication is coming from the uneasy party, they will have a sense of control in a situation that could stimulate a little feeling of the opposite. Always reassure beforehand and check in with your partner during (nonverbal communication should be discussed prior) with aftercare being offered only between you two and if the 3rd wants after care, both of you offer it together. This way the "family unit" is rein***d and becomes a single entity if needed for aftercare for the 3rd. Best of luck to you both!

[Mi****]

June 1, verynew_subgal said:

So…….. maybe…… if you guys find a couple and switch…. He’d feel included? Maybe start that way. You get to see him with another woman, he sees u with another man, and maybe that’d be easier for him to handle because ur not the only one getting f**ked basically. I also have seen people say respect him and forget about it desires and kinks. I couldn’t do that because we only live once. Sex is great!!!! Deep desires will eventually be acted on with or without the significant other. Yea…..

Okay first part, brilliant could easily work, swinging could be an easy intorduction. But if you're not interested in respecting boundaries and appreciating how others feel in the situation then I got to say the second half is dogshit. "Have seen people say respect him... ...but you only live once". Who the hell do you think you are? If I haven't misinterpreted your way of writing, then you're certainly not a responsible member of the community to recommend people just do what they want. Some real irresponsible, trashy people turning up on this app recently. I got to reiterate what's been said here. No means no. A boundary is a boundary. Do not put your kink above your partner. He changed his mind? You decided you still really want to? Then the healthy thing is to say it, end it, and then go find someone who does, way too many people out there are into what you're into to mess around somebody who isn't because it guarantees you some company, makes you feel big. Those are two core pillars of this community, clear communication and respect for boundaries, be better than that.

[ra****]

Well you could always say, you ran into me, an old family friend and invite me around to dinner a few times before one of us breach the subject, maybe as I go to leave, you hug and kiss me and I cup your ass cheeks in front of him very suggestively, then leave you to talk about it

[Deleted Member]

You could just respect the man. Out of all the people that ive known that were into that or had open relationships none of them are together. So maybe actually take the time to learn why you want it so badly.

[Girliegirl]

On 4/12/2025 at 8:37 PM, Dogg79 said:

My advice to him would be to drop you immediately.
He's decided that it's not something he wants to pursue, and you're on here asking a bunch of strangers how to convince him to do it because YOU want to do it. You clearly don't give a f*ck about him.

I 100% agree with this!! Plain and simple, you wouldn't be trying to get him to do something he doesn't want to do. 

[sm****]

Start smaller it's obviously overwhelming him and he is not admitting it,try a woman like others have suggested but most important is discussing it with your partner first of all.

[lt****]

He maybe ***ful of losing u

[th****]

I'd say he he probably created a false image in his head of what it would be like by watching porn. Once the reality of it sets in where it's just you having sex with other men. And that's supposed to be the plus for him? Consider making it more of an even playing field where you guys are more of a swinger dynamic and you both get benefits from the opening the relationship. Cuz cucking is femdom to begin with. A lot of femdom doesn't end up that good for the male. And reverse cucking doesn't really work the same.