ed**** Posted April 22 AM are cool. Surveys have shown that many don't see them in a romantic light outside of their own communities. So you aren't wrong. I think that's changing. So much of what people deem desirable is projected by the film and television industry. In time that'll change given the casting of AM in lead romantic roles. Then there are social media websites, K-pop, etc. Someone else mentioned it above. Keep your head to the sky. Always project confidence. Confidence is the first thing that draws me to Dom. Good luck! 🌞
gi**** Posted April 22 Asian men are sexy and generally speaking are attractive because of them eating so clean and smelling so good. Less hair is an plus. It’s too Asian men are often times known to be shy but that isn’t always true.
Ar**** Posted April 22 I also find Asian men attractive but have heard as a black plus size woman that I don't qualify for their affections
Ho**** Posted April 22 You know what they say about stereotypes....... They're based on history and facts
Wh**** Posted April 22 I saw this, what are you talking about? Seen plenty go for a race as a kink and had Asian. Literally just heard a girl talk about wanting an Asian, I think just yesterday. Don't let your thoughts get to you like that. 👍
Deleted Member Posted April 22 I feel you, as a south Indian there are stereotypes of men from this region being docile, soft and submissive to society. I have fought that but through being able to make friends, go to events and put myself out there things have changed.
Wh**** Posted April 22 1 hour ago, KinkyGoodDom said: I feel you, as a south Indian there are stereotypes of men from this region being docile, soft and submissive to society. I have fought that but through being able to make friends, go to events and put myself out there things have changed. Bro, it's just ignorant people. I mean, may make it easier for you to sort out who's healthier for you, I suppose. It's a shame we find disappointments. Still though, it doesn't define your own value. You get a say how to be and view yourself as well.
Le**** Posted April 22 Id say we all get handed a bunch of cards with trade offs, culturaly , ethnically, family etc As a guy, it's up to you to stack up your cards, it's normal , and probably whatever you feel is holding you back is a real obstacle, but there is nothing stopping you from overcoming it
Deleted Member Posted April 23 12 hours ago, KinkyGoodDom said: I feel you, as a south Indian there are stereotypes of men from this region being docile, soft and submissive to society. I have fought that but through being able to make friends, go to events and put myself out there things have changed. I would have to disagree. I’ve never heard of ppl believing specifically indian men are docile or submissive the complete opposite in fact. I find that a lot of ppl don’t tend to like indian men for a whole other set of reasons and rather ppl view east asians as more submissive
Ka**** Posted April 23 It's a cultural bias, but I agree that it's changing. The last Asian man who hit on me was married, which was the turn off, more than anything
jl**** Posted April 23 I ❤️ an Asian male for play and kinks! They are just super far and very few in the area I live. However I find that I am not the type they are looking for and I'm back to square one
ig**** Posted April 24 I mean I think asian guys as subs/doms are hot tbh, but also I know I'm a rarity due to me being extremely kinky and will do anything that doesn't put my partners health at risk
Ly**** Posted April 24 Brother, don't give up, or put yourself in a box. Use your cultural history as a strength. There are billions of people on this planet, each unique, with their own desires. You will find many people who desire you, I'm certain of it. You do have to make an effort, but you will succeed. Cast a wide net and you will find what you crave. I believe in you! Use more apps, make more of an effort to be social and find circles in real life, and throw yourself to the wild winds of fate, you can do it. Life can be punishing and many times it can feel like you are alone on an island, but with enough determination, you will find a tree with fruit sweeter than your wildest dreams.
ph**** Posted April 24 As a Korean man, dating and hooking up tends to be a double edged sword. But in the southern American states, southern women view anybody that isnt white as taboo. Forbidden fruit. I use that to my advance. The Streisand effect. When they get a taste, they want more, regardless of what stereotypes they feel applies to me. In Germany, I don't know how asian men are perceived, but redneck chicks are generally so suppressed and void of worldly knowledge, hooking up with a Korean man can be an exciting endeavor. I give them what they need and either move on if the chemistry isnt there, or stick around.
Re**** Posted April 24 On 4/21/2025 at 12:06 PM, MaybeforYou said: If you cosplay your main pic and choose a well known anime character, I guarantee your inbox will increase 10x. You’ll be attracting a certain type of kink, but hey…Results are results Ha ha. Also, if you're around 30 to 40, I think adding Pokemon somewhere in there could help, too. Catch them all!
Re**** Posted April 24 On 4/22/2025 at 8:24 PM, misshallee said: I would have to disagree. I’ve never heard of ppl believing specifically indian men are docile or submissive the complete opposite in fact. I find that a lot of ppl don’t tend to like indian men for a whole other set of reasons and rather ppl view east asians as more submissive I think stereotypes often have counter-stereotypes. Neither are accurate or true, which is unfair, but they exist together. East Asian men are simultaneously stereotyped as shy, quiet, and asexual (the Hollywood image), or as "good relationship material" or "provides semen for mixed babies" and one time as a "good to run one of my family's shops "... but also stereotyped as kinky freaks (thanks JAV porn), domineering, and sexist. I used to think that the former was the only stereotype, until I looked at this site, and figured out that maybe 1/3 of the women I dated were bisexual, into porn, and kind of kinky. I'd already done stuff that was "off limits" to people self-identified as kinky, and I thought I was vanilla. These women were stereotyping me as open to being kinky. At the same time, I've had some situations where I've been rejected for my race, been objectified as asexual. I've been rejected a few dates into what I thought was a developing relationship. They thought I was a BFF and not sexually attractive! Some women were pretty freaky, too. They just didn't want to be freaky with me - which is okay. One didn't like me being open about sex. One said they wanted me to be like a girl-friend when they talked about their sex life! Another had a racial bias and only liked white or light skinned Latinos - and unfortunately, this was the first openly sub person I'd met, and used she me for cuddling, I think, to feel dominant and in control. (That was not okay - it was racism - but we did fool around, to test the waters. So, at least she tried.) I think it's a little easier to match up on a kink site than a regular dating site. At least it has been for me, even despite all the bogus profiles here. The asexual stereotype won't operate here . On a regular dating site, I was looking for hookups, and did find someone, but I had to write software to swipe for me, and swiped left on over a thousand profiles, and contacted maybe 100 people. Her profile didn't indicate it, but she was bisexual and had some kink experience.
Re**** Posted April 24 BTW, I have two sex manuals to recommend, to lift your spirits. The Kama Sutra, of course, and a book by Jolan Chang which is a compilation of material from old Chinese sex manuals.
Re**** Posted April 24 On 4/22/2025 at 6:52 AM, Arealblkgrl said: I also find Asian men attractive but have heard as a black plus size woman that I don't qualify for their affections Don't believe the lies! There are Asian guys who like Black plus size women. I'm one. TBH, I don't know a whole bunch of Asian guys, but the only guy I know who doesn't like Black women, and also doesn't like thick or fat women, is kind of an incel, and mad at Asian women, and has a grudge about white people, and is weird about his height. So, I'm thinking, dude is eliminating like 90% of eligible women. Who is left? Shorter skinny Latinas?
Re**** Posted April 24 On 4/21/2025 at 4:51 PM, Dottie2Hottie said: I agree, there is a stereotype involved when it comes to Asian males. As I know I'm guilty and it's wrong, I think it stems back to what we're taught about being feminine and masculine. Different races harbor different traits, and we base our standards on those... so I have a question for you, what would you want me to know about an Asian male that may be something we overlook, besides personality, because I mostly base my attractions on swag and attitude. Definitely. It's not simply the belief that Asian men have feminine qualities, but that some Asian physical qualities are classified as feminine. (I think this is related to European and American imperialism dominating the East. To feel correct in dominating Asia, Asia needs to be regarded as feminine. Look at some of the comments.) Furthermore, if an Asian guy is forward, they are sometimes regarded as "coming on too strong", and face rejection. I don't think we should stop being forward, though. There's no easy resolution to this problem.
No**** Posted April 25 Personally when it comes to men, I find Asian men more appealing than most. I'm fortunate enough that I haven't experienced much racial stereotypes, not many Indigenous stereotypes around any more, but i hate that there's any stereotype because of race.
Deleted Member Posted April 27 Hey don’t be upset. I for one am insanely into Asian men. Ask my fiancé, he’s Filipino.
Deleted Member Posted April 28 As a Black woman in the USA, I completely understand you. I'll tell you as others have told me, go where you are loved, desired, and appreciated. I didn't see you mention where you are or the type of people you've been encountering, but maybe casting a wider net may help. Also, sometimes, we tend to internalize the stereotypes that exist of us, so you may also want to keep that in mind.
Ba**** Posted May 4 I've met many girls who have said many things about their Asian Boy Bands. Believe me, the love for Asian men is real, it's just about finding the right person/people!
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