Stereotypical disadvantage

[cu****]

In my experience, Asian male are not the most desired when it comes to kinky relationship. This may be due to the stereotypical and racial factors in one's mind that shift their preference. The likelihood is that, those who appreciate Asian male quality are not in the kink scene or people who are in the kink scene don't prefer Asian male, but rather male from a race with strong and significant masculine indication. As a result, the kink niche for Asian male is extremely marginal compared their counterparts. There maybe a stereotypical disadvantage for Asian male in the kink scene. Do you have a similar thought, I agree / I don't give a damn/ I disagree/ maybe? share your thought :)

[UK****]

It could well be true or it could well be perception.  For example, I wouldn't have even considered Asian males to be any less dominant than males from other countries.

[ma****]

Asian women have more class be grateful 😂

[Deleted Member]

It's all how ya carry yourself. It's the attitude my friend.

[Li****]

I understand what you're saying, and in general, I agree. But I would like to bring up the recent popularity of the Chinese app Red Note / 小红书
With the influx of American women and then women globally, the mainly female app started to attract male Asians as well.
let me tell you, Chinese thirst traps are 🧑‍🍳🤌
Based on what I have seen, I would expect a spike in the interest of Asian men romantically and sexually

[Fr****]

People are stupid. There’s nothing wrong with or un-masculine about being Asian.

Might be a selection bias on your part or maybe it’s a thing, people are horribly shallow on here. It’s not the sort of ignorance you should let define you though

[mo****]

I appreciate the beauty of Asian men , and the goal would be to find someone that embodies that and is looking to explore different avenues of kink. That would be delightful

[Deleted Member]

I love Asian men! In my country it's pretty much impossible to meet any tho, cause they keep themselves within their own community and refuse to interact with non-Asians

[yo****]

Join the club it happens to every types. I am Mexican. I like white women and some do like brown skin but a lot don’t.

[In****]

I doubt that's true.

Kinkiness or sensuality usually flourishes when it's a safe environment. I am sure many Asian ppl (referring to East Asia) are openly kinky in their respective regions (their safe zone). It may take a while to find the same comfort when moved to another country until they blend in. In South East Asia (India/ subcontinent region), kink/fetish was taboo, though Kamasutra originated in that land. Each scripture and sxx position are so kinky. It's rarely talked about in public or even in a closed social gathering.

Kinkiness is independent of region/race. But, it has cultural influence, which varies with one's social life.

[Deleted Member]

I think people have some messed up biases and pigeon hole groups of people. Asian men are so gorgeous and versatile and sexy …I wish I had easier access to more of them. I think you can learn so much and break out of normative boxed in dating and sex from dating men from such amazing cultures

[Deleted Member]

I can’t say whether you’re right or wrong. And being Latino I cannot put myself in the Asian perspective. But what I can say is this… We are all the sum of everything that led up to our very present moment of existence, everything we think and do. For better or worse. Much of this is a matter of perspective. I believe someone commented that already too. Ultimately what we perceive is based on what we believe is true.

Anecdote: I grew up in an area of the US where if you weren’t Latino, you were Asian. Korean, Vietnamese, or Filipino, to be specific. A friend and i were talking the other day about how culture and cultural perceptions go thru cycles. He mentioned how back in our primary school days (roughly 20 years ago) he used to hate when his mom would pack him kimchi in his school lunch as other kids would hassle him about it. Furthermore how in later years, he claimed, it seemed like many women didn’t want to date Asian guys. This would’ve been late 2000s, maybe earlier 2010s.

Now this guy, present day, for lack of better words is a player. Always picking up women, spitting game, playing games, etc. He was saying how now all these years later it seems like more women than ever are interested in Asian guys. We then had a laugh about how overpriced boutique-y kimchi is sold at all the grocery stores with a strong upper middle class white demographic.

Now, that isn’t exclusively kink related but it speaks to the bigger picture of how we view and interact with our reality. Don’t let a couple of superficial shallow experiences dominate your perspective. Hell, using similar principles as your argument, I could claim that it’s difficult being Latino and sub within kink. We all have a unique path ahead of us which is largely out of our control. Be happy, eat well, love often. This was a long tangent so if you made it this far I appreciate it. Hope this helped at least somebody in some way.

[Deleted Member]

My comment keeps going away 🤬

[FE****]

35 minutes ago, YONAYONA said:

My comment keeps going away 🤬

It doesn't go away, all comments in the Kink Academy need to be approved by a moderator.  They go off into a queue.

[Ma****]

If you cosplay your main pic and choose a well known anime character, I guarantee your inbox will increase 10x. You’ll be attracting a certain type of kink, but hey…Results are results

[cu****]

These are all very good points and prespectives, and I do believe living outside of ur own cultural comfort zone is a bit more complicated to adapt attitude and align with certain prespective, and I have that feeling since I moved to Germany... but there are so many nice words and wisdom here from yall

[Mi****]

I couldn't care what race a man is as long as he's submissive

[de****]

Her ethnic background doesn't bother me...her mindset, submission as he imagination might

[Deleted Member]

If you want something and aren't getting it, you're gonna have to start making some difficult changes to achieve your goal. You got this broski

[ke****]

No man is desired unless he has *** , my guy join the club I'm not even gonna throw the race card out there , we all face extreme challenges as men in these times, just learn yourself and seek God I'm not having the best of luck myself it is what it is you'll survive i know it stay strong 💯

[Ch****]

I disagree because I think that Asian men are very attractive. I don't see men from other races as more masculine or desirable. But I've heard there is racism in thus vein and I'm sorry if you've experienced this.

[Fe****]

There is a bias towards familiarity in every culture. In order to find people outside of your culture attractive usually requires spending with people outside of your native culture. Some form of exposure, in person, media, etc. Here in America, it's really easy to stay insular. So a possible goal is to be around people who are already exposed. Then you'll meet someone. There is a small amount of Asian males (who are not submissive) at the club that I hang out at. They don't have a lot of problems getting partners but for a few of them it took a little longer. So I think it will probably be easier for you to go to a venue regularly. Then it'll be easier.

[Do****]

I agree, there is a stereotype involved when it comes to Asian males. As I know I'm guilty and it's wrong, I think it stems back to what we're taught about being feminine and masculine. Different races harbor different traits, and we base our standards on those... so I have a question for you, what would you want me to know about an Asian male that may be something we overlook, besides personality, because I mostly base my attractions on swag and attitude.

[Lo****]

I LOVE Asian men, because those with a “strong and significant masculine indication” gross me out

[Lo****]

36 minutes ago, freshstart780 said:

No. Lots of women love p**siferous men. Just stay in your lane and don't pretend you're dominant.

Your ego’s weaknesses are showing