The FetLife App and Site: is it Worth a Login?

On 5/1/2024 at 12:19 AM, EskelaTheHuntress said:

Nothing with value is free ... Equivalent exchange is a law of universe  ;)

Having to pay just to know who hit like is extremely greedy. At least Fetlife knows where to draw the line for capitalizing. 

On 12/11/2023 at 12:00 PM, LadyV said:

Fetlife doesn't do anything to reduce the rampant misogynistic abuse and sexual harassment of it's woman and AFAB userbase. 

 

Unsurprisingly, being constantly mistreated and harassed tends to make the women and AFABs leave the site or go inactive in large volumes. The gender/sex skews winds up with Fetlife being about 70-80% horny, lonely, straight men. 

 

Fetish.com also doesn't appear to do anything to reduce it's rampant misogynistic abuse and sexual harassment of it's AFAB userbase.

 

Unsurprisingly, same deal. Most of the women and AFAB profiles here are scammers or dead for literally the same reason. Women and AFABs don't want to be here when we get treated like shit constantly by idiotic and abusive thirsty men. So I'd guess Fetish.com is about 90% horny straight men getting nowhere after harassing all the women into leaving. 

 

Why does Fetlife have a slightly better percentage of women and AFABs by my estimates? Probably because Fetlife, despite being run by sexist idiots, does have a better forum community and better event listings. That's enough to make the endless harassment a little more tolerable (but not by much...most women and AFABs still don't bother with bdsm related sites and men's behavior on those sites is definitely the reason).

 

You're looking at a, "these are both shit sandwiches," kind of situation but at least one of those sandwiches comes with an olive. 

Me encanta , por eso es que llegan a colombia y les sacan hasta el alma , Ellos creen que una mujer que acepta verse con ellos sin tributo previo va a ser una buena cita , pero lo que resulta siendo es una cita con la muerte .

On 4/21/2023 at 11:04 AM, Sooneroutlaw said:

This shouldn't be a pay site . It would be better if it was free 

Nothing with value is free ... Equivalent exchange is a law of universe  ;)

La verdad apesta . te dan puntos y cuando reúnes suficientes para hacer el canje por dinero  . Misteriosamente  cambia tu contraseña y pierdes el acceso . Luego ya no puedes entrar hasta que el perfil se pierde . aunque esté verificado . Sumado a eso , muchos de los usuarios no leen  el perfil y se ponen groseros cuando les mencionas que deben tributar si desean que veas o supervises su cámara. Una vez pagué la  membresía y de nuevo , misteriosamente   luego de dos dias , me aparece un correo diciendo que yo ejercía la prostitución y que mi perfil habia sido cerrado por  masivas denuncias , LO cual es  fail , no creo que eso fuera cierto y si lo es , fué por negarme al encuentro con cuanto mugroso dice ser sumiso . El tributo e s un filtro , quién se niega a tributar , en mi caso . No tiene la intención de servir , yo entiendo que existe mucha bruja scammer , pero no es el caso. Yo trabajo  como webcam , y en todas mis mazmorras virtuales , el sumiso sigue ordenes y tributa antes de entrar . 

34 minutes ago, u-662840793ddf6 said:

I have tried to get on but it won't let me

 

You have to create an account to get access

I have tried to get on but it won't let me

2 hours ago, LadyV said:

Fetlife doesn't do anything to reduce the rampant misogynistic abuse and sexual harassment of it's woman and AFAB userbase. 

 

Unsurprisingly, being constantly mistreated and harassed tends to make the women and AFABs leave the site or go inactive in large volumes. The gender/sex skews winds up with Fetlife being about 70-80% horny, lonely, straight men. 

 

Fetish.com also doesn't appear to do anything to reduce it's rampant misogynistic abuse and sexual harassment of it's AFAB userbase.

 

Unsurprisingly, same deal. Most of the women and AFAB profiles here are scammers or dead for literally the same reason. Women and AFABs don't want to be here when we get treated like shit constantly by idiotic and abusive thirsty men. So I'd guess Fetish.com is about 90% horny straight men getting nowhere after harassing all the women into leaving. 

 

Why does Fetlife have a slightly better percentage of women and AFABs by my estimates? Probably because Fetlife, despite being run by sexist idiots, does have a better forum community and better event listings. That's enough to make the endless harassment a little more tolerable (but not by much...most women and AFABs still don't bother with bdsm related sites and men's behavior on those sites is definitely the reason).

 

You're looking at a, "these are both shit sandwiches," kind of situation but at least one of those sandwiches comes with an olive. 

👏👏👏 Agreed, all of this. Fetlife does seem to have better ratios of actual kinksters vs. Tourists and people who are only looking to get laid and have it in their head that BDSM & kink = some sort of no effort sex free for all. 

Fetlife doesn't do anything to reduce the rampant misogynistic abuse and sexual harassment of it's woman and AFAB userbase. 

Unsurprisingly, being constantly mistreated and harassed tends to make the women and AFABs leave the site or go inactive in large volumes. The gender/sex skews winds up with Fetlife being about 70-80% horny, lonely, straight men. 

Fetish.com also doesn't appear to do anything to reduce it's rampant misogynistic abuse and sexual harassment of it's AFAB userbase.

Unsurprisingly, same deal. Most of the women and AFAB profiles here are scammers or dead for literally the same reason. Women and AFABs don't want to be here when we get treated like shit constantly by idiotic and abusive thirsty men. So I'd guess Fetish.com is about 90% horny straight men getting nowhere after harassing all the women into leaving. 

Why does Fetlife have a slightly better percentage of women and AFABs by my estimates? Probably because Fetlife, despite being run by sexist idiots, does have a better forum community and better event listings. That's enough to make the endless harassment a little more tolerable (but not by much...most women and AFABs still don't bother with bdsm related sites and men's behavior on those sites is definitely the reason).

You're looking at a, "these are both shit sandwiches," kind of situation but at least one of those sandwiches comes with an olive. 

HELLO THERE. MY SLAVE NAME IS ''MSLUTSLAVE."  TO ALL OF YOU SUBMIISIVE MALES LIKE MYSELF WHO TRIED FET LIFE BDSM WEBSITE I THINK THAT THIS WEBSITE IS VERY TERRIBLE. IF YOU ACCIDENTLY VIOLATE ONE OF THEIR POLCIES THERE IS ONE GUY AND ONE GUY ALONE WHO CAN DECIDE YOUR FATE. THIS JERK PLACED ME ON A VERY PERNAMENT TIME OUT OR A PERNAMENT BAN. I THINK THAT THIS GUY THINKS THAT HE IS ON A POWER TRIP BY TRAMPLING ON OTHER PORR SUBMISSSIVE MALE SLAVES LIKE MYSELF. WELL I DO HOPE THAT SOMEHOW THIS GUY GETS A TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICNE.

I have been looking for a Dominant roleplay Nurse for Exams and Enemas.  I am a slim submissive boy who luvs controlling females.  Age is not an issue and I welcome mature older females .   Must enjoy medical fetish roleplay.

This shouldn't be a pay site . It would be better if it was free 

I stated in my profile here that I'm a poster child for FetLife!

I found it to be more connected with others on the site . More local events and possible connections to meet up at coffee shops and such. Also local rope classes for beginners.

Well i have been on Fetlife for a few day's and what i experienced was that there are a lot of trolls who attack you from the moment you enter. No fun for me there. On fetish.com all people ignore you when you are new. I can't find out if i can delete a picture again after i have upload one, and i see no option to delete my profile if i don't like it anymore. So i keep a bit of distance with fetish.com. So far i have experienced nothing that is worth money.