Confused

[gi****]

You're gorgeous. That guy's an asshole and needs his face rearranged.

[Deleted Member]

Obviously who you met isn't very understanding and whose opinion doesn't matter so pull yourself up and be proud of who you are.

[Deleted Member]

Sadly, there are tons of "macho" guys like him who think they are doms. Doms take care of their partner and do not treat them like this prick treated you. Move forward and find a guy who lights a fire in you and fulfills your every desire

[Deleted Member]

Hey, I really feel for you. That kind of cruelty cuts deep, especially when it’s aimed at your looks and identity. I want to share something that might resonate.
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I’ve also had rough experiences connecting with people from this site -- whether it’s phone, video, or in person. There’s this weird dissonance where people build a fantasy version of you from your writing or profile, and when they see or hear you in real life, you get that look. That pause. Like you glitched their expectations. It’s happened to me more than once -- like I was a “corrupted audiobook” of myself.
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Sometimes it’s accents, sometimes nerves, sometimes not being “hot enough” in their eyes. I’ve even had people comment that I don’t “sound like I write,” like my personality should be wrapped in a sexier, smoother package. It sucks, and it’s hard not to internalize. But I’ve learned this: their disappointment says more about their shallowness than your worth.
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You’re not too much. You’re not a “fail” because someone couldn’t see the full person standing in front of them. You’re allowed to be ***, hurt, and still worthy of connection. Your strength isn’t gone -- it’s just resting.
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You deserve better. And better exists.

[CopperKnob]

"What do I do? How do I move on from this?"
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You block and you forget about him. You don't listen to people here who attempt to make apologies/excuses for his poor behaviour which frankly tells you more about him than anything else.
Carry on living your life as usual.

[Viking_Eyes]

You will kiss many frogs before you find Prince Charming. Best not to dwell on it.

[SnuggleDoom]

You are perfect the way you are, you are enough, and worthy of love. Im sorry you had to experience this, some people have gotten so good at being evil it's impossible to detect when not in person, and they feed off suffering from people they hurt. I didn't read any of the responses before starting to type, but I see now the last line from copper knob, and I agree, but would add that you are now armed with a better ability to detect, discern and discriminate. So use that to stay safe.
Also like broken bones, you will be stronger when you finish healing, and much less likely to break in the same way as before.

[To****]

First thing to know is that was not a dom. That alone should automatically eliminate 50% of your concern because anything this person says has no actual Merit. Sadly this is very common that someone thinks Adam needs to be some rude dick. He figured his job was to put you down and degrade you so that you would feel thankful to be with him. It's a classic ploy. Don't let this get to you personally. Everything he said wasn't personal to you it is a standard script he is probably using with everyone

[Wi****]

Hey princess, so so sorry to hear that! This behaviour says everything about him, his capacity, his level of maturity, his inability to actually lead - and not a thing about you. But I know that doesn't just erase the *** he caused. Be good to yourself now. Because you deserve it and it helps you to not leave this experience behind but the *** it caused. I am not sure how exactly we make it possible to chat with each other but if you'd love to - let's find a way. :) Sometimes talking to somebody else can help a lot. And never forget: Devotion is not inability, it's a choice. It is strength, not weakness. Do not let anybody tell you otherwise!

[pr****]

He's nuts. He's a liar. And you are stunning. PERIOD . I WISH I WAS YOUNGER. AND A BIT CLOSER.
I WOULD BE PROUD TO HAVE YOU AS A FRIEND , LOVER , WHATEVER
HW WAS JUST ANOTHER FOOL .
CARRY ON

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, TooRich4You said:

First thing to know is that was not a dom. That alone should automatically eliminate 50% of your concern because anything this person says has no actual Merit. Sadly this is very common that someone thinks Adam needs to be some rude dick. He figured his job was to put you down and degrade you so that you would feel thankful to be with him. It's a classic ploy. Don't let this get to you personally. Everything he said wasn't personal to you it is a standard script he is probably using with everyone

The guy really shows attributes of narcissistic tendencies

[Deleted Member]

...I cannot see comments again lol

[Deleted Member]

9 minutes ago, callmeprincessplz said:

...I cannot see comments again lol

Close the app and restart

[Es****]

Sending love and some encouragement or enlightenment. My slogan is “Hurt people, hurt people” that person wasn’t in a good place and decided that they wanted to bring you down because of your amazing light✨
DON’T let them!

You are amazing in any way shape or form, I added a little weight last year, and never have I met a man who doesn’t like something to hold on to (sure there are preferences) but you ARE BEAUTIFUL. As a fellow brat. We’ll show him thats he picked the wrong one! Love u, keep shining please :)

[Deleted Member]

Put him on blast to warn others or this narc

[Deleted Member]

Ive reported him to the site.

[OldViking]

 Doms are supposed to look after their subs and check they are okay at all times. You had a lucky escape hun. Imagine if you only discovered his attitude after he had tied you up??? And in any case he should get his eyes checked out because you are sexy gorgeous and cute.

[La****]

Dont let that pos get under your skin and the best of u. You are beautiful.

[Si****]

Sounds like a piece of Sh#t jerk.. Don't let guys that act like that bother you they are just miserable with themselves and take it out on others trying to make themselves feel like there better. But they are just sad, lonely, looser is all. Not worth you losing any sleep or thoughts over!

[Wi****]

Unfortunately, there are those like him who consider themselves Doms.
That's not what I would call him.

Don't take anything he said or did to heart. He was trying to play a part for which he had never read the script.

Face to face is always different than in chat. For me, my first connection has to be spiritual. If that's not there, nothing else matters to me.

But, when meeting someone in person face to face, and neither of you have made a comment, then nothing is written in stone.

If you meet someone face to face, he or she is not your Dom. They are in reality, your candidate.

A prospect that can go either way and it isn't rude or improper to say, " it's been very nice to meet you, but I'm just not feeling the connection.

Don't let people being rude and disrespectful get to you. It has nothing to do with you.

When he said," You'll do I guess. " You should have just responded, thank you, but you won't do for me, have a nice day and leave.

Idiots like that are a dime a dozen. They think being a Dom makes everything about them and that's just wrong.

It means being the leader and looking out for those under your charge and considering what they are feeling, needing and hoping for.

If anyone acts like that asshat did , don't walk..run away and don't look back.

[Wi****]

22 hours ago, callmeprincessplz said:

Thank you so much everyone for your kind words. 😇

Now you know what to watch for and KNOW that it's not you it's him.

[HertsBedsBucksDom]

He's an asshole. Move on. His loss.

Be glad that he showed his true self in the first meeting.

It is best to do video calls asap before a meet.

People's imaginations are powerful things and gaps will be filled by our desires, so a video call and recently taken profile shots shows both parties who you are dealing with physically.

As previous posters have said. Block him and move on and learn from this experience.

It's scary sometimes being venerable and showing the real you. But show who you are early on before you get emotionally involved.

You're a good looking girl.

On to the next !

He will be but a very brief footnote in your life that I promise you will forget about.

There are unpleasant people everywhere. Fact of life unfortunately. So pull up your knickers, stick your chin out and let another fella enjoy your company.

[Em****]

You're gorgeous he's an idiot!

[prettytame]

he’s weird, gross & immature.

[De****]

First off, I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. You should know that not all Doms are like that, and there are definitely some that will treat you well. I completely get what you say about the coldness and lack of empathy. It’s hard to understand how someone you were willing to give submission could treat you this way. Please take time for yourself and feel your feelings. It’s okay to hurt. Give yourself grace and know you are worth more.