Leaving my Dom

[Lu****]

We've been together a good few months though we've only met up once. The beginning was a bit of a "honeymoon" phase I guess, he's shown a complete lack of interest recently no matter how much I try to spice things up or just talk things out. I've told him about how I feel I'm not sure what he wants from me and I'm just feeling uncertain if I'm doing good or not. He told me not to worry and if I did anything wrong he'd soon tell me but honestly it felt more like he was just trying to appease me so we didn't have to talk it out.
He works a lot and we live about 2 hours from each other, we both knew this from the beginning and it's something he brings up a lot and I always wonder why he even wants a sub of his own instead of just playmates if he can't commit. I've always said I'm absolutely happy to make the trip to him as my schedule is more lax and I've always been understanding when he's tired.
I often feel he only has me because I'm the only one available right now as he previously spoke about how before finding me on here he struggled to find someone. I feel the moment he finds someone closer he'll drop me in a beat.
He'll only message when he's at work and on his days off he doesn't message at all and if I message first he'll either not look at it or reply incredibly uninterested.
It's Thursday and we haven't spoken since Saturday (he went on holiday Monday and won't be back for 2 weeks), I sent him a message just saying good morning and I hope he's having a good time then I saw he changed the timer to delete messages after 24hrs (I don't know if he knows I get notified as well when he does that) but he hasn't read or replied to me.
I've been thinking about leaving him just before he went away but I feel kinda bad because I don't wanna dampen his holiday, so do I wait two weeks till he's back or just go for it?
Sorry this has been long, I just needed to get it off my chest, I just don't wanna feel like this anymore😔
Any advice is appreciated♥️

[Pa****]

please look at my top 10 list of red flags and tell me if any applied in your experience?

[Th****]

For me a dynamic is a two way street. I wouldn’t wait to end it. It’s obvious from your post that you’re giving 95% and he’s putting in the remaining 5%. There should be a better balance in at least the communication and it seems it’s been lacking on his part. I’d say end it now, his holiday be damned. But that’s just my (not so) humble opinion

[Assinvader]

So just last week I met a newbie of here for a sochal meet. She and I both agreed to meet again for fun next few days passes and I ask her on ***am what days she wants to meet. ( I need to know 2 weeks or so before as how busy I am). She just blanked me for two full days even when being online on that messenger app. Also she's take ages to reply when I needed to know stuff etc. Anyway after I got blanked again I just called it off. If the other person is not interested or can't be bothered then neither can I. Although it's not a relationship it's still a bit of a mutual commitment so there should definitely be mutal interest.

You can always tell if someone is not interested just as you have even if you don't see them. I won't meet anyone going forward who is not as interested in meeting me as I am them. At least with me I have the decency to tell people I'm not interested if their is no mutual or kinky connection.

But I agree with you just end it and be patient to find someone else who will be interested. Even if people are busy it takes nothing to text or call now and then 🤙

[Bo****]

He's messaging you to pass the time at work. Not worthy of you. I'd end it yesterday.

[Lu****]

22 minutes ago, TheDomfromAmsterdam said:

For me a dynamic is a two way street. I wouldn’t wait to end it. It’s obvious from your post that you’re giving 95% and he’s putting in the remaining 5%. There should be a better balance in at least the communication and it seems it’s been lacking on his part. I’d say end it now, his holiday be damned. But that’s just my (not so) humble opinion

It sucks because in the beginning it's something I really liked about him, compared to other guys on here he was really good with communication and like you said it's very important and a good indicator for me😅 and I appreciate your very humble opinion, thank you😂♥️

[Lu****]

12 minutes ago, Assinvader said:

So just last week I met a newbie of here for a sochal meet. She and I both agreed to meet again for fun next few days passes and I ask her on ***am what days she wants to meet. ( I need to know 2 weeks or so before as how busy I am). She just blanked me for two full days even when being online on that messenger app. Also she's take ages to reply when I needed to know stuff etc. Anyway after I got blanked again I just called it off. If the other person is not interested or can't be bothered then neither can I. Although it's not a relationship it's still a bit of a mutual commitment so there should definitely be mutal interest.

You can always tell if someone is not interested just as you have even if you don't see them. I won't meet anyone going forward who is not as interested in meeting me as I am them. At least with me I have the decency to tell people I'm not interested if their is no mutual or kinky connection.

But I agree with you just end it and be patient to find someone else who will be interested. Even if people are busy it takes nothing to text or call now and then 🤙

Sorry to hear it didn't go well and I 100% agree with you, to be honest if this was me like last year I would've waited miserably till he ended it but I'm trying to be more comfortable and forward with these things. I'm definitely not gonna rush into anything after this! Thank you for your reply♥️

[Lu****]

24 minutes ago, edc88 said:

He's messaging you to pass the time at work. Not worthy of you. I'd end it yesterday.

That's what I thought😅 thank you♥️

[Bo****]

23 minutes ago, Lucien985 said:

That's what I thought😅 thank you♥️

I'm also very sorry that you've experienced this. You look amazing, seem to have a great personality too. Try and keep your head up. ❤️

[Assinvader]

44 minutes ago, Lucien985 said:

Sorry to hear it didn't go well and I 100% agree with you, to be honest if this was me like last year I would've waited miserably till he ended it but I'm trying to be more comfortable and forward with these things. I'm definitely not gonna rush into anything after this! Thank you for your reply♥️

It's fine most don't im used to it and I'd argue a lot of men are used to rejection more so than women . My point is that some of us rather people say that than waste their time. I know I'll find people who love me and I also know I'm to much for a lot of women lol. Also if I've been talking to people for like weeks and their doesint seem to be any interest of a meet up then I just send them a thank you message and remove them. Harsh but as you probably know a lot of time wasters in this lifestyle x

We all have limited time and need to keep the circles with ones that share a mutal connection and not time wasters x

[MsTakeU]

He only messages you from work because he’s married. Did he ever disclose that to you?

[Wi****]

Dump his ass. It sounds like he is married or in a full time relationship.
If not, why didn't he take you with him?

That would have been the perfect time to really get to know you.

[or****]

Don't try to *** it to work when you know in your heart it's just delaying the inevitable. I'm just now going through kind of the same ordeal buttttt I was being led on for almost a year. Please don't make the same mistake I did, it is not worth it.

[No****]

It is what I call the miner-jeweler syndrome. Either he doesn't realise he holds a gem, or he cannot appreciate it anymore. In any case, it is not your role to educate that man.
Leave and find someone who wants to play all the time. It's in the eyes, always...
...and never settle for less than what you wish for. This is not vanilla lifestyle. You're not happy, get out. You don't owe him and certainly don't have obligations that tie you down. No pun intended.

[Deleted Member]

All good words and well spoken from MEN that are true D’s and appreciate the dynamic.. your answer is in your very own words...

[No****]

il y a 1 heure, Cunnilinguiste said:

It is what I call the miner-jeweler syndrome. Either he doesn't realise he holds a gem, or he cannot appreciate it anymore. In any case, it is not your role to educate that man.
Leave and find someone who wants to play all the time. It's in the eyes, always...
...and never settle for less than what you wish for. This is not vanilla lifestyle. You're not happy, get out. You don't owe him and certainly don't have obligations that tie you down. No pun intended.

...no pun intended🤣

[Lu****]

2 hours ago, orlando59530 said:

Don't try to *** it to work when you know in your heart it's just delaying the inevitable. I'm just now going through kind of the same ordeal buttttt I was being led on for almost a year. Please don't make the same mistake I did, it is not worth it.

Thank you and I hope you also find someone better who genuinely appreciates you♥️

[Lu****]

1 hour ago, Cunnilinguiste said:

It is what I call the miner-jeweler syndrome. Either he doesn't realise he holds a gem, or he cannot appreciate it anymore. In any case, it is not your role to educate that man.
Leave and find someone who wants to play all the time. It's in the eyes, always...
...and never settle for less than what you wish for. This is not vanilla lifestyle. You're not happy, get out. You don't owe him and certainly don't have obligations that tie you down. No pun intended.

Thank you♥️ I appreciate the pun😂 and I like that analogy!

[my****]

I agree with the he’s married post from above. I will say, I do typically have more time to converse while at work because when I leave work I have a lot of projects to do at home. Especially in the winter months when daylight is at a premium. I am typically available from 7 until 9 most evenings because I like to spend about an hour winding down watching tv to get ready to sleep at 10. Whenever I’m talking to a girl I usually try to explain that. If I’m playing with a girl my away time is usually her task time. It makes it very easy to strike up a conversation about what she did for me while I was away.

[bi****]

rgeardless of his marital situation - if you're not getting the minimum from this relationship then its time to either improve it, or move on. It seems like moving on is your best option here though, you don't have to spoil his holiday by telling him now though, leave now, tell him later. When he's at home :)

[Do****]

He really seems to be with someone else, and using you as a bit of private entertainment. That’s how I’d read this. And I’d depart!

[crazy4u2]

He's obviously got someone else and really doesn't have the guts to tell you.  From this moment forward, I wouldn't tell him anything.  I'd block his number and have no contact with him what so ever.  If shows up at your house don't answer the door and don't say a word.  In other words "Ghost" him.  You're an attractive, intelligent woman.  Find someone who will be there for you.  You deserve it.  And remember, No contact. 

[Jo****]

Clear that energy out and make room for something better. Ain’t nobody body got time for that. Especially in this economy.

[Lu****]

Yesterday at 02:14 PM, JonRain954 said:

Clear that energy out and make room for something better. Ain’t nobody body got time for that. Especially in this economy.

Amen🙏😂

[ju****]

Hi there, im sorry for any rough times you may be going through, but I can assure you, you will not have an issue finding whatever you are looking for cuz I think you're absolutely beautiful I love looking at your pics I think you're very beautiful and hot and I wish I was closer to you than 6,000 km. I'd ask you to go for an ice cream with me who wouldn't want to go to for an ice cream with a beautiful woman I wish I wish I wish I wish I wish