My**** Posted June 20 I think this boils down to communication. I’m sure someone’s already said this, but it might be a good idea for them to discuss beforehand
Kr**** Posted June 21 I see two issues, each Dom is trying to establish dominance over the other and they are wanting to see which one you are going to chose over the other. If you are lucky when it's over you will only have one Dom to deal with or worst scenario you will be looking for new dorms. Good luck and I wish you the best. You are in a no win situation, if you don't show your dominance and set them both straight. In a Dom/ sub you actually have the power. You decide how it's going to go and don't let them.
BB**** Posted June 21 My thoughts is. Give each their own day. Like this day one Dom gets to have full control of the scene. And the next time the other Dom has control of the scene. I know it doesn’t sound realistic because what Dom wants to sit back seat to another. But if you ask me a real Dom knows patients and also knows that being an Alpha also means being intelligent and knowing how to compromise and when to compromise. Especially for the sake of a sub partner. Aggression and head butting in that situation is no no and a turn off and not at all what the involved parties are looking for. If they can not get along with your said rules or find a way to work. Then these two are not for you. Just my thoughts.
Da**** Posted June 21 Someone needs to be in charge. I like to share. But I make the rules for them to follow so she’s happy. We can all be Dom but what I say goes. There can be only one! lol
Ma**** Posted June 21 Its i fight for power, id they are paying attention to you, they should see exactly what you need and come together
Co**** Posted June 21 They need to talk, you can be f**ked, spanked, give head, while being tied up, it shouldn't be a competition really. Or maybe one then the other? Have the patient one direct you with the impatient one. They can even co-operate, discuss what they're about to do to you as if you're not there if that's the vibe 🤷
Sp**** Posted June 21 Yes you have at least one Non-Dom or inexperienced Dom in your mix. Generally they should coordinate, work together not oppose each other. It is most likely the impatient one that wants to use you right away. I recommend a discussion. “This isn’t working. You pair need to communicate. Work together. Or I will need to replace one or both of you” One needs to take primary role and one a secondary role in each interaction, even if they take turns doing so. Otherwise the whole pleasure for you concept is gone because you’re always focussing on their head butting
ki**** Posted June 21 When you get pulled into two directions , you’re not going anywhere. And that could affect your trust in your doms. If you feel like keeping this dynamic, I suggest the three of you role play the scenes and meet halfway on the practices. Sometimes 3 is crowd indeed.
de**** Posted June 22 Have the one that wants to tie you down show up first and do his bit so the other can show up and use you
Dyl-8138 Posted June 22 Yeah well I don't even know how you get this type of relationship from the start I'm jealous.
Mi**** Posted June 23 They need to write the scene on advance. It gives a clear structure you can negotiate with, and allows them to put everything together that they want to do, without missing anything.
ar**** Posted June 23 Doms typically thrive in an situation where they have absolute control. Having two Doms at the same time will takes mutual agreement on process and coordination in sharing. Ideally, it would be easier if you had a another Sub with you to occupy half of the attention. That way your Doms won't necessarily have to put a plan together every time and they could switch you guys out depending on the activities. 🤜🤛
wo**** Posted June 24 Dom’s want to Dom be in control that’s why one top has to be in control the other assists 2 Dom’s one sub rarely works how would you cope if one wants you to shave and the other mot to one Dom 2 sub’s or a switch would work better
Ju**** Posted June 24 Some should be able to work together to achieve what they want while also ensuring your great experience. They are not gelling and it will definitely continue to take away from everyone’s experience. I would have a convo with them and let them know you think everyone would have a better time if they could work together better. How many times have you all played together? If it is more than 2-3 times, they should have worked this out by now.
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