Popular Post Fr**** Posted June 20 Popular Post Hello, fellow kinky people! I have an odd issue of having two doms that both like to play with me at the same time. The issue is that they seem to bump into each other a lot in what they'd like to do to me. Like one would want to tie me down while the other wants to use me right away. Is there a way I could have it so it's more fluid and not butting into each other all the time? Any suggestions would be a great help!
FR**** Posted June 20 This is honestly going to be rough for you because Doms in general so not prefer to give up ground. Hence the title. But realistically if you want it to be more fluid they will have to come to a compromise in who makes the choices first and they will have to take turns doing this. And unless they collaborate on what they want to do, which won't be easy, you will consistently keep hitting this wall.
Dan-Dan2430 Posted June 20 I’m going to have to go with the most obvious answer, but communication before hand, especially if it’s a regular thing, if they communicate with each other. Then you, even maybe take turns no pun intended 😂. But if they are into different things then maybe they could split the time. But also you tell them I’m sure if you explain it to them, they will figure it out. That’s my 10pence anyway I’m sure there’s far more expert opinions to mine. Have a great day
gu**** Posted June 20 Normally - if I act on someone with multiple doms - we doms hash out which of us takes the lead for the moment, while the others support the lead-Dom. This might stay for a whole interaction or even switch up to multiple times, depending on what we do - but inter-domme-communications is the key to having fun. 🤭😉 If that doesn't work out, I would suggest to then either get their communication worked on or just take separate turns of playing with you.
xr**** Posted June 20 Pre-thought and planning on both doms need to happen. They need to get together and come up with a plan that outlines the evening and events. This will insure you get the most enjoyable time as both doms will/should be in sync.
Ki**** Posted June 20 Start with one, have the other join or take over at some point. I've always noticed it works better when there is one in charge at a time
Wi**** Posted June 20 They should figure it out themselves, that's not something you should have to worry your pretty little head about
no**** Posted June 20 Make a plan of what is wanted by not only them but you. Find what kind of scene wants to be played out and coordination from there. If you have two at once or is going to make for some confusion. However, you should be in control of what happens at all times. Especially, if they have different approaches to play. They will have to coordinate between themselves and if it be where one take lead and they alternate
Pa**** Posted June 20 sounds like amateur work. they should adore you enough to navigate and negotiate the scene without bothering you with details or interrupting your subspace.
YouDreamDom Posted June 20 If you’re not living it 24/7 with either of them, than I feel it could only help and enhance y’all’s playtimes. I mean again doesn’t seem like you live 24/7 as either of their subs so when it’s not play time there should be no problem with a little communication between everyone involved so all needs are meet. I get that for some it might take them out of the scene, so I usually suggest like making 2 text groups between all. Label on “ Let’s Make A Script” and one “insert text name here”. Put all sexy flirty pregame sexting in IC and plans in OC.
ge**** Posted June 20 Have I missed something? Aren’t you their toy? Maybe as their property, you, should do as you’re told and assume your position, then they could communicate… with each other! 😳
Ch**** Posted June 20 Doms can often act like a bunch of gorillas trying to be the boss. . Maybe they need to chose an order, one at a time. . Or if they can team up then you are in for a world of ***, they can give you two orders to follow then punish you for not being able to do both of them. Tagging in to keep the intensity going much longer than a single Dom would be able to do. . It might be tough now but the possibility for intense play makes it worth the effort.
YouDreamDom Posted June 20 1 hour ago, gentle-old-man said: Have I missed something? Aren’t you their toy? Maybe as their property, you, should do as you’re told and assume your position, then they could communicate… with each other! 😳 This guy obviously didn’t read actually it seem. Not very gentle sounding of a response . Her problem is the two doms are having trouble communicating between themselves. From her post it could be seen as she’s just laying theee naked and Dom1 starts to pull out the straps and is gets busy strapping a hand down thinking “well the dom so this other guy is most likely just gonna follow my lead”. All the while Dom2 is already butt naked and hard and starts to turn her around so she’s in doggy which pulls her arm Dom1 was working on making him look up as Dom2 is about to enter her and Dom1 quickly whips his strap hitting Dom2 with a mild smack stopping him just shy of penetration. Dom1 Says “wtf bro we’re gonna die her down are you daft?” Dom2 Shakes his head in disbelief looking up at him with a puzzled look. “I’m sorry w…t….f was that?” And I assume they go on arguing for a good but all the while the lady has scooted to the back of the bed rolling her eyes and spreads her legs saying to herself “ Never leave a man to do a woman’s job” Then the camera zooms in to her face and she looks at the camera and winks and the words “Ladies, if your doms are not up to your standards. Your fingers still got your back” -end of commercial-
ey**** Posted June 20 You need to tell them it isn't working that you are happy with the general arrangement but the play, as is, isn't working for you - and give feedback on what would. And happen what would is the two actually taking some time to get on the same wavelength to improve the experience for themselves as well as you.
Deleted Member Posted June 20 First of all, I would ask this: are you talking about two dominant partners, or are you talking about two people whom you are in D/s dynamics with? If it’s the former, conversation and negotiation are critical. Everything you do with either of them, or both of them, should be fully communicated and consensual. If they are not willing to engage in this kind of negotiation, they are probably just a consent *** waiting to happen. If it’s the ladder, I think that’s the biggest trouble right there. As a dominant, I would never allow my submissive to be in service of another dominant. One cannot effectively serve two masters. If you are in this kind of dynamic with both people, and they are both OK with it, that really gives me pause.
ge**** Posted June 20 1 hour ago, YouDreamDom said: This guy obviously didn’t read actually it seem. Not very gentle sounding of a response . Her problem is the two doms are having trouble communicating between themselves. From her post it could be seen as she’s just laying theee naked and Dom1 starts to pull out the straps and is gets busy strapping a hand down thinking “well the dom so this other guy is most likely just gonna follow my lead”. All the while Dom2 is already butt naked and hard and starts to turn her around so she’s in doggy which pulls her arm Dom1 was working on making him look up as Dom2 is about to enter her and Dom1 quickly whips his strap hitting Dom2 with a mild smack stopping him just shy of penetration. Dom1 Says “wtf bro we’re gonna die her down are you daft?” Dom2 Shakes his head in disbelief looking up at him with a puzzled look. “I’m sorry w…t….f was that?” And I assume they go on arguing for a good but all the while the lady has scooted to the back of the bed rolling her eyes and spreads her legs saying to herself “ Never leave a man to do a woman’s job” Then the camera zooms in to her face and she looks at the camera and winks and the words “Ladies, if your doms are not up to your standards. Your fingers still got your back” -end of commercial- Dream, Sir, isn’t Friendly their sub? She calls them “two Doms”! Your third sentence says almost verbatim my conclusion… D-s or DsD or Dss, whatever the situation, is ALL about communication… Yes? It doesn’t sound like either communicate with her or between each other…
ge**** Posted June 20 21 minutes ago, VelvetJazz said: First of all, I would ask this: are you talking about two dominant partners, or are you talking about two people whom you are in D/s dynamics with? If it’s the former, conversation and negotiation are critical. Everything you do with either of them, or both of them, should be fully communicated and consensual. If they are not willing to engage in this kind of negotiation, they are probably just a consent *** waiting to happen. If it’s the ladder, I think that’s the biggest trouble right there. As a dominant, I would never allow my submissive to be in service of another dominant. One cannot effectively serve two masters. If you are in this kind of dynamic with both people, and they are both OK with it, that really gives me pause. Absolutely… if it’s the latter… it’s a threesome…
Fr**** Posted June 20 Author So people were wondering about if it's a dynamic or a relationship I am in a relationship with both of them and the dynamic is generally in the bedroom besides a few things hope that helps
Ma**** Posted June 20 Well, negotiating mid-scene is definitely a no no. Its not fair, not everyone's hormones and emotions are not in a rational gear, so there isnt any chance for a good clear discussion. . That is why negotiations for a scene, need to be done BEFORE yall get to the bedroom. And then stick to that plan, and keep within those boundaries. . If the rope rigger wants to do a thing, then he definitely needs to speak up, BEFOREHAND. And have his plan recognized...maybe even helped by the other. . If YOU want to experience a scene, and not just get used right away, then YOU need to speak up, before you get to the bedroom, and have them make a plan, so that they can work together. . In the abscence of a plan, i think primal-user dom has his way.
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