Popular Post Ki**** Posted July 20 Popular Post Has the DaddyDom roles changed or is it still up to the individuals involved about how it works. I'm curious about others who consider themselves as DaddyDom's or women that have had a DaddyDom. My first few experiences as a Daddy were more of a nurturing role and mentor with the benefits of teaching women how to enjoy sex and please Daddy. Lately it seems like everyone who is looking for a Daddy, wants financial assistance/support. Would love to hear from those with experience on both sides!
Do**** Posted July 20 I can’t comment about those wanting DaddyDom roles, but male subs looking for a female Dommes are often being asked for financial contribution from Dommes. It seems to be just scammers rather than genuine Dommes. So I’d suspect that these scammers are trying to get *** from DaddyDoms as well as male subs.
Pa**** Posted July 20 Roles evolve, but I think the core of the DaddyDom dynamic is still deeply personal, rooted in structure, care for each other, discipline/punishment, and emotional safety. Financial support may be one part of that, but it’s not the whole. Some littles crave nurturing without *** involved. Others seek stability that includes it. What matters is clarity, communication, and of course, consent, not assuming one version is the “real” one. Talk to everyone openly or share what you are specifically looking for in your profile. If the Little Girl has barely anything in her profile, I wouldn’t engage.
Da**** Posted July 20 I myself as a Daddy Dom have noticed a dramatic shift change in the dynamic. Yes it seems a lot want to have a sugar daddy for monetized gain. You're not wrong on any point. I have noticed it especially amongst the younger generation. If you have the monetary means to be a sugar daddy then more power to you. Unlike me who wants a connection with my babygirl instead of just shelling out ***. I did buy things for my former babygirl, but it was basically things that we used as a couple in our playtime. Nothing extraordinary. She seemed happy with what I bought her. I would also pay for meals if we went out. Again nothing extraordinary.
Se**** Posted July 20 I'll be the first to come out and say it. It seems like there's a societal rule that if the younger "subs" are seeking an age gap of 20+ years, they want the ***, not genuine love. I'm not old enough to have that problem yet since I'm 35, but I find a 10 year or less age gap is ideal if you seek genuine affection, no strings attached
Fe**** Posted July 20 Those women are looking for a different type of daddy, aka a sugar daddy. Thats a daddy that doesn't always involve sex or discipline but more so spoils the girl in return for her giving time and attention. Now those aren't considered "doms" its a life style, yeah but not a dom. I think personally a lot of it is the younger women not being properly educated on the differences between the two.
Ar**** Posted July 20 Some may try to blur the lines, but ultimately there is still very much a clear difference between a Daddy (or Mommy) Dom and a Sugar Daddy (or Mommy).
Th**** Posted July 20 1 hour ago, KinkDaddy78254 said: Has the DaddyDom roles changed or is it still up to the individuals involved about how it works. Some of what you described at the end of your OP sounds more like sugaring, where they're looking for a Sugar Daddy and not a Daddy Dom. There are specific other sites for that and it's not allowed here, I'm pretty sure. All roles are customizable and should be specific to the individuals involved to various degrees. There is however a distinction between the role of *a* Daddy or DaddyDom and someone using the title of "Daddy." Roles and labels are a good starting point for explaining and communicating but everyone should also have discussions on what that looks like for you specifically and/or what you're looking for from someone within a role or style of dynamic. Caregiver/little dynamics with Daddies often aren't sexual at all. There are also less common and more creative options. Dominant littlest and middles with a more service oriented type Daddy is also a thing. Think something like Veruca Salt's character in Charlie and The Chocolate Factory or a pampered prince(ess) type who gets whatever they want and doesnt have rules. You can always describe your personal style in your profile in an attempt to save some time and pre screen people along with (what should be obvious) reading profiles before messaging others.
Cb**** Posted July 20 I would never imagine asking my Daddy Dom for ***, that's not his role, he is there to nurture & mentor.
Th**** Posted July 20 13 minutes ago, FeralMuse said: I think personally a lot of it is the younger women not being properly educated on the differences between the two. I do think this is a decent part of why. Just casually observing from social media and whatnot there seems to be more open discussion on sugaring vs what actual D/s is. It's seems to be increasingly common for the majority of people to not understand the difference between a D/s and BDSM play, regardless of gender or self identified role. Which can be really frustrating for those who are looking for D/s dynamics and relationships.
Th**** Posted July 20 57 minutes ago, DommeDelight said: I can’t comment about those wanting DaddyDom roles, but male subs looking for a female Dommes are often being asked for financial contribution from Dommes. It seems to be just scammers rather than genuine Dommes. So I’d suspect that these scammers are trying to get *** from DaddyDoms as well as male subs. It's not always a scam, tributes and financial exchange or control have long been part of things in legitimate ways. Traditional tributes are more akin to someone giving a gift as a token of appreciation for someone hosting a dinner party or similar. Some forms of financial Domination are to help someone who has difficulty budgeting or has an impulse spending problem. That's not to say that there hasn't been an increase in scammers and financially focused people who have a gross misconception of what being a Dominant entails and little to no respect for the lifestyle. If someone is primarily focused on financial gain I really wish they'd just do the work to educate themselves and go the ProDomme route properly. There's a market for educated and skilled pros.
Ha**** Posted July 20 I’m a strong, independent Black woman who owns her home, makes good ***, and doesn’t shrink. That’s been a turn-off for a lot of Dominants. Not because I’m not submissive, but because I don’t need them in the ways they’re used to. I’m a brat with a soft side, but I won’t pretend to be less to make someone feel more. It took time to find a Daddy who saw all of me and still wanted to lead. If you’re a Dominant frustrated by submissives asking for financial support, ask yourself if you made it clear that isn’t part of how you show up. That kind of ask usually comes from something unspoken. What’s your vetting process?
br**** Posted July 20 As a submissive serving a Goddess, there no set rules.. You need to establish clear relationship goals, no two relationships will be the same. We are all individuals with our owns needs, wants and desires...
RedFoxUK Posted July 20 Like so many things in life, it's subjective and personal, and open to interpretation. For me being Daddy isn't a role, it's who I am. It comes naturally to me to be caring, considerate and supportive (emotionally rather than financially). I want nothing more than to make my little girl the best she can be, to help build her confidence in herself and her abilities. I do enjoy an intimate level of contact, but that definitely isn't the be all and end all of a DDLG relationship, far from it. Sadly far too many think being called daddy, makes you a Daddy but, as far as I'm concerned, there is a world of difference. And Sugar Daddies are a whole other ball game, if you'll pardon the expression.
Ki**** Posted July 20 Must be the economy + people learning kink from online spaces instead of having any IRL friends to talk to. Lots of misguided tiktocs going around while actual bdsm educator content gets censored out. Same thing encountered with younger male little/slave/subs LF mommydomme wanting a literal mother to move back in with taking care of ALL their needs. Whereas I as Dominant want power exchange - not existing power imbalance. Servitude from submissive and not being a slave to a bratty bottom. Then again there is no set rules, just what participants feel comfortable with. Just like how OP includes sex in their play while I generally do not. Neither is right or wrong. But communication is a must, as I mentioned so many strange posts going viral online making people curious but unfortunately it's always the most outrageous stuff that goes viral, not educational or thoughtful posts
ks**** Posted July 20 Unfortunately that’s how a lot of “littles/subs” are nowadays but it also goes the same for these “daddies/dominants.” I can’t even give a number to how many fakes end up in my dms just looking for someone to bone and not actually take time to get to know. It’s more complicated with littles especially when one is in headspace..not everything is about sex and *** but everyone is always so out for their own personal gain rather then actually love and connection :((
Do**** Posted July 20 I lucked out into a throuple as Kitten's DomSir, and her (now-ex) fiancee was our cuck. No finances are a concern, as he supported the alternative relationship. He and I are also drinking buddies. My situation is unique. As for the roles: Every D/S union is a journey into the edge of boundaries and fulfillment. How each plays their role is up to their individual dynamic personality.
ni**** Posted July 20 Honestly it depends on you but for me. A daddy Dom is mostly what you said however I make it clear what I'm bringing to the table in that sense so it's never an issue or question like happyfatlady said make your stuff known immediately not everyone sees a daddy Dom the same way anymore
Birble Posted July 20 5 hours ago, brenbee said: Everyone wants to exploit men for *** on here unfortunately Not * everyone * 😔
Birble Posted July 20 5 hours ago, DommeDelight said: I can’t comment about those wanting DaddyDom roles, but male subs looking for a female Dommes are often being asked for financial contribution from Dommes. It seems to be just scammers rather than genuine Dommes. So I’d suspect that these scammers are trying to get *** from DaddyDoms as well as male subs. There's soooo much scamming going on. It makes it so much harder for people looking for genuine connections - which is doubly frustrating as we're on here to make finding like minded ***ps easier!! (as opposed to vanilla sites and *hoping* your date is kink flavoured)
Birble Posted July 20 Nurturing / mentor / teaching - they're exactly what I'm looking for in a DaddyDom. Obviously every relationship has different additions as well, but they are indeed what I personally consider to be the core ingredients.
Jo**** Posted July 20 The role changes and evolves and should be for both parties to communicate thier needs within the dynamics. While I agree with some of the financial aspects of traditional relationships. Find dom etc is a specific neice and I woidont say is dd/lg
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