Popular Post Mi**** Posted July 27 Popular Post Over the last three months, my life took a turn I didn’t see coming. I was involved with someone who, on the surface, seemed free—but in truth, she was already under another’s control. Watching her submit to someone else, obey him, and defer to his rules—while claiming she wasn’t truly his—lit a fire in me I hadn’t expected. It exposed something inside me I can’t unsee: I’m not meant to be soft and waiting. I’m meant to lead. To own. To command. That experience cracked me wide open to the world of dominance and submission—not in theory, but in reality. It made me realize just how deep a Master’s influence runs. Since then, I’ve been reshaping my life, learning everything I can, and preparing to step fully into that role with intention and integrity. So now I’m here—building my foundation, preparing my home, and seeking the one who’s meant to kneel and thrive under my hand. My question to you is this: When did you realize you were meant to lead—or meant to serve? What moment woke you up to who you really are in this world?
No**** Posted July 27 When I first met my Dom. I wasn’t looking for it. Didn’t know anything about the kink lifestyle except for the very basics. Still together 2 years and 8 months later
Am**** Posted July 27 Wonderful story. Hope it leads to everything you want. For me, was when I gave birth to my daughter and then my husband leaving us when things got too difficult. I changed my life, took control of everything and everyone around me, got bigger and better in every way and haven’t looked back. Been 20+ years now transforming how I see myself and how others see me. I wouldn’t change a thing.
No**** Posted July 27 I’d recently left a completely sexless marriage so was ready and open to a new experience
ni**** Posted July 27 I think always life affirmining events shock us into realising our true desires Mine was becoming a widow. After many years in a practically sexless marriage it seemed i had suppressed my kink for most of my life.
PL**** Posted July 27 My awakening was 26 years ago, my experience created the most amazing part of my sex map. I knew this was who I was, a submissive who wanted to be understood well enough to be pleased and to please.
Di**** Posted July 27 Misterfats, you a 55 yo man yeah? You care to explain your point in layman’s terms? If you don’t mind? I gather it says you girlfriend still has an ex and you want it all, some interaction occurs, and tug my taters!, you have a kinda hatred for that whole goddamn mess huh? .. 55? Couple things I think I could learn from you, but I’m vested in what happens next. Sammy Hagar can’t drive no 55. I have only actually heard that song one time on the radio. Isn’t that so weird? It’s a bad song, David Lee Roth MF. Is he dead? Like a tanned man? Very sexist and honestly you just got to, he’s not Ted Nugent. That’s the best I can say. Who I really miss is Jason Molina.
Le**** Posted July 28 I’ve always been into things that are kink adjacent; tattoos, fishnets, leather and latex… mostly aesthetic stuff I guess but I had never identified as a dom, sub, or switch. My last relationship ended in November (kind of abruptly) and we had talked about all kinds of kinks and fetishes we wanted to try but when it was over we hadn’t done any of it. Which is why when I was ready to date again I found my way here and believe it or not it was when I met up with someone from this app for the first time. She gave me control in a way I had never experienced before and I instantly knew it was what has been missing from my life.
Deleted Member Posted July 28 Wow. Sounds like you really understand and believe in the beauty of Dominance.. "kneel and thrive" sounds perfect. So many men enjoy being dominant but don't always want to put in any effort to help their submissives thrive...
Deleted Member Posted July 28 I've had a servants personality as long as I can remember. I LOVE to please people. Take care of them and it lights a fire deep inside when I know that they can count on me. Its a driving ***.
Mi**** Posted July 28 Author No, actually not my girlfriend, woman I was very attracted to, and thought she felt the same, only to find out, her master was allowing me to be led around for his amusement.
jw**** Posted July 28 One month ago I woke up but I sometimes want to fall back into my old ways and I know I cant and it seems as I search for a teacher I keep getting scammed for ***
La**** Posted July 28 I woke up about 3yrs ago. Read every scrap I could find, joined dozens of chats, and learned as much as I could. After about a year of that. I have started putting what I learned into practice and enjoying every minute
Mi**** Posted July 28 Author 8 hours ago, jwdarkplace said: One month ago I woke up but I sometimes want to fall back into my old ways and I know I cant and it seems as I search for a teacher I keep getting scammed for *** That's horrible, I'm sorry your dealing with that, and not being able to find a teacher. But sometimes being your own teacher can work wonders.
To**** Posted July 28 10 hours ago, LasrinPrime said: I woke up about 3yrs ago. Read every scrap I could find, joined dozens of chats, and learned as much as I could. After about a year of that. I have started putting what I learned into practice and enjoying every minute Hey, any suggestions on good places to look for information?
Pa**** Posted July 28 6 hours ago, Misterfats said: That's horrible, I'm sorry your dealing with that, and not being able to find a teacher. But sometimes being your own teacher can work wonders. Very true, and there is a ton of ethical and highly educational books in varying formats, even after over 2 decades im still learning almost dail. It is a dauntingly large journey but well worth educating yourself on
La**** Posted July 29 Social media was a great place for me to learn. That and Google. Cross reference everything.. follow every rabbit trail you find, don't be afraid to learn or ask when you don't understand. Find a mentor, same role as you.
au**** Posted July 29 Yesterday at 06:43 PM, PaxDominatus said: Very true, and there is a ton of ethical and highly educational books in varying formats, even after over 2 decades im still learning almost dail. It is a dauntingly large journey but well worth educating yourself on I’m submissive but enjoy the firm hand from my dom
Fu**** Posted July 31 It's truly different for everyone. For me, i was in a dark place in life. I found someone who was exceptional at being a sub. Taught me how to find my dynamic as a Dom. Loved every second of it. Since then(almost 15 years ago) I educated myself. Submerged myself in the lifestyle. Now, I educate and mentor. It's awesome. I am also a Dungeon Master. Please, please, PLEASE.....Do NOT educate yourself on social media. Most people THINK the know everything and try to influence just the idea of domination. It's MUCH more than that.
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