I'm unsure

[Do****]

Try meeting people with a smile on your face. The sweetest gift is when you see someone without a smile, give them yours. It's free. Very successful tact IMO. If you are unhappy, fake it until you make it.

[pr****]

This forum talk is for me not her.

[pr****]

I need to understand what happened to the community after my 20 years vanilla, cause its less open than it used to be which is really hard for me to process. We all have our own things but when certain members of the community are basically being gate keepers for thought, how is that even close to the kink community? I know too many equate their sexuality to their whole persona, and so if anyone suggests that maybe they should ask about individuals instead of broad generalizations.

[To****]

I think its normal. If you have a dominant presence people will.always respond

[Gi****]

Sounds like a lot of snap judgements not just yours. I understand the experience of having people react intensely around you personal power. I used to think it was my fault but it wasn't. Perhaps this polarizing energy of yours is a blessing. However in the interest of outside perspectives I will say reactiveness is a choice. Others may be reactive toward you but how you or your company use that energy is still a manageable dynamic and something you could use to breakdown barriers if you practice the right interpersonal skills. I appreciate your comment on seeking to know individuals. Trying to separate an individual from their sexual persona is important and it sounds like you have a good outlook on it.

[Te****]

Not everyone is witty or snappy enough to respond to that. Even those who are tend not to like it. Yes, in my opinion it is an issue. It’s incredibly arrogant, you’re effectively selecting for people with very low self-esteem by doing this.