What do you do?

[Mi****]

I don't know if this will help, but after losing the one I was craving with every ounce of my being, and my heart, just kept beating after I wanted it to stop, I developed this creed to live by, it's okay to hurt, it's okay to grieve, but it's time to be you, and show her what she lost.

I don't beg. I don't chase. I lead.
I speak once. I act without hesitation. I don't repeat myself. And I won't stay where I am hidden.

Read it, get what it means, and live it.

Don't beg her don't chase, make her wonder why your not, lead with your head and your heart by giving her a real reason to miss you. Speak once if she reaches out and mean it. Act intentionally, once you decide to act, stick with it. Don't repeat yourself, EVER, and if she can't accept your new self, she didn't deserve you in the first place.

[Ni****]

Mate going through the same heartbreak. Advise is work on your inner self and let go. It's hard but if they left and avoiding you, delete all contact and social media and practise a 30 day no contact rule to stop the dopamine high of thinking of them. Have fun and keep busy doing other stuff like prayer, meditation, working out or travelling.

[Sa****]

Finding many comments VERY helpful for navigating the “after” of the loss of such an intimate dynamic and relationship.

[Ha****]

I understand. And the answer sucks. You find other people to talk to & you get therapy. I know from serious experience.

[Deleted Member]

I know if someone wants to be in my life after they walk out they better show up and talk I won’t play them kinda games anymore I’m to old for cat and mouse bull crap

[Deleted Member]

I also go to therapy it’s always helpful In many situations I’ve found myself in I’ve realized I only matter to others when it’s convenient to them so I’ll make time for those that make time for me

[Ne****]

I can relate to what you're saying in so many ways and levels. I've however had difficulty trying to trust/connect with one that I feel secure and kind of safe to bare my innermost conflicts. Not that I feel my story is above or more relevant than any others ( we all have a progression), I've had a very unique evolution. What I need is extremely particular, my comfortable place is in respects demanding on whoever shares my time. I have met many that could potentially be everything I could ever need and/or desire in a connection, however due to my quirks and what not, I've always found myself unwittingly over compensating due to my understanding of my potential intensities. Emotionally challenged Im aware of myself, the one I believed I could be all, everything and more for, for the better of both of us. I found myself lost and completely overwhelmed with how to show she was more than anyone could be to me. I've struggled ever since her, and she always back into my subconscious thoughts.

Not even sure what the initial situation here was, as like always I've wandered off topic and lost my original thoughts lol.... Our alternative subconscious turmoils, is where and how we all find ourselves here. Wearing it in its entirety on our sleeves is a journey into our supposed addressing of apparent traumas

[Deleted Member]

Yea if she ment what she said she wouldve shown it it by showing up and doing them actions I get time but no contact is bs

[Deleted Member]

And not lieing when I ask or flip out over a question those are signs of something hidden and then to watch it keeping my mouth closed for the longest time till I just had to say it and turns out I was right my guts are never wrong first time I kept my mouth quiet for that amount of time u know someday maybe she won’t be so stuck in ego cuz I let her inside where I don’t let others in but it’s not my choice in the matter I got no say

[Deleted Member]

It is what it is it’s alway easier to run back to what’s known than to go with what’s unknown risk is unknown but it could be the best that ever happened it takes 2 to fight it takes 2 to grow together

[Deleted Member]

If it was a break up on one side and no particular reason. Then I would suggest for you to write a message whether it’s a traditional paper and pen or phone call whatever you prefer and just have a normal conversation to see what went wrong and if it’s just a mutual break up bring closure to it and try seeking some distractions to help you get over. 

[ma****]

I am sorry to hear that do what best for you

[kn****]

Weve all bn hurt you pak it in and move on

[th****]

Honestly, I would move on my friend. I know it’s extremely difficult. I just had my heart ripped out the other day.

[Ki****]

All you can do is move on. It could be considered harassment if you try to contact her after she ended things.

[Deleted Member]

Im sorry for ***. She was very lucky to have someone care so much.

[Ge****]

You know, there’s an old-fashioned saying. The best way to get over a woman is to get underneath another one. Take a blue pill call an escort, and be safe and have fun.