Are fantasy and reality connected ?

[Co****]

I've thought about this, and I've come up with this. I think it's only a letdown if your reality deviates from your fantasy. I think if the right two people meet, each with their separate fantasy, and that fantasy turns into reality for both. That's it right there. Shangri-la!

[Wm****]

In life, reality isn't real. The only thing that's real is you being where you are, doing what you're doing in this very moment.

[Wm****]

So if and when you're able to play out your fantasy then yes that's reality. Am I making sense?

[Do****]

There are many ways fantasy and reality can vary. On a basic level you can find the chemistry between the two people is not what they expected, and so the experience was not as enjoyable or powerful. Sometimes the other person doesn’t engage in the way expected eg trying to top from the bottom and so it doesn’t go how we hoped or intended.
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Sometimes when trying new play it can be better than you dreamt to experience it in person. Far more powerful and enjoyable. Sometimes you think ok I’ve tried that now and don’t need to do that again! Sometimes you try for something complex like FLR (Female Led Relationship) to encapsulate the D:s dynamic and find that it’s more tricky than you expected, or the other person is not able to engage in it in the same way you are.
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It’s possibly naive to ever thing life won’t be disappointing when compared to dreams. But we must also recognise that it can also blow the dreams out of the room!

[Gi****]

I don't believe a relationship is sustainable if fantasy and reality are not connected. Frankly I need to be able to share fantasy to keep curiosity from interfering with connection. Does every fantasy play out perfectly in reality. No, I mean how could it. You are living not directing. However I do find sharing a fantasy, describing it, is like a process of manifestation where you speak your intention and then with your partner(s) create some actionable outline of what you are desiring. Bring combined skills and fantasies that align to the experience.

[cu****]

Yes, they are absolutely connected however it is important to be grounded in reality and stable to a point in order to provide others a safe and somewhat sane environment to help them fulfill and maybe even live their fantasies full time. Of course, the universe will put everything it can in your way to achieve this. However, once you can find the right partner and the trust is established and you can manage it as a day to day lifestyle, you will have a need for it every single day for the rest of your life.

[Ap****]

With the right connection, fantasy and reality can have a tremendous overlap (with the understanding that the fantasy is physically and safely possible). And even if not completely fulfilled, it gives you direction to get pleasure from reality.