DID and BDSM

[jj****]

13 hours ago, CasualPlay said:

Right?! And that's not even taking into account all the fake profiles and scammers. But that's pretty much everywhere. Men tend to be more sexually adventurous thanks to the "Puritanical" society raising girls to be even more ashamed of their sex drive than men. When we no longer need to troll around on the Internet to sate our deviant minds, maybe things will change. I'm not holding my breath. There are SOOO many changes that need to happen before we can worry about the little shit like this.🫤

wtf like why are you even here then? If you have nothing useful to say… go away, dude

[jj****]

Yall younger folks are leading the way. I can’t say I’ve ever met someone who had a diagnosis of DID. As a person with PTSD, I can attest to the importance of making sure your partner understands consent and boundaries. I would imagine it’s a pretty common occurrence for you to meet people who have also never met someone else with DID. They probably won’t know how such a system works in advance, but most people should find it easy to adapt if they understand consent.

you will want to make sure that they aren’t the sort of person to say “I don’t know why you’re talking about this when there are bigger issues in the world”, eg, someone who doesn’t listen or take their partner seriously.

It can be exhausting to explain your condition over and over again, so I’d recommend you bookmark a link to some page with info that you find applicable to you to share with someone who expresses interest.

[po****]

14 hours ago, CasualPlay said:

Agreed. Why does everyone need a separate label for everything? Can't we just speak plain? Can't we just enjoy everything? Do we HAVE to do this according to factory presets? It takes all of the fun out of it, if you ask me...

Why are you so determined to remain so deliberately ignorant? A simple google search can give you a base to starting to understand someone else, since humans are nuanced creatures. A “system” is the personalities that exist within someone who has trauma induced Disassociative Identity Disorder (DID) which used to be called Multiple Personality Disorder.

It’s a condition where the psyche compartmentalises or “breaks” / “splits” due to a traumatic experience/s and creates different “alters” or “personas” to help the victim deal with said trauma and other day to day functions.

It doesn’t take much to a. Learn and b, show some understanding and compassion for people, and perhaps the reason you don’t get many hits on this app from females/women is because of your lack of empathy and emotional intelligence shows when you reply to discussions like this trying to centre everything around you 💀

[Ca****]

5 minutes ago, potatogem said:

Why are you so determined to remain so deliberately ignorant? A simple google search can give you a base to starting to understand someone else, since humans are nuanced creatures. A “system” is the personalities that exist within someone who has trauma induced Disassociative Identity Disorder (DID) which used to be called Multiple Personality Disorder.

It’s a condition where the psyche compartmentalises or “breaks” / “splits” due to a traumatic experience/s and creates different “alters” or “personas” to help the victim deal with said trauma and other day to day functions.

It doesn’t take much to a. Learn and b, show some understanding and compassion for people, and perhaps the reason you don’t get many hits on this app from females/women is because of your lack of empathy and emotional intelligence shows when you reply to discussions like this trying to centre everything around you 💀

Lol due to my upbringing, I'm better versed with the human psyche than most with degrees, as well as a dark empath. I in no way said anything ignorant or offensive, or tried to center ANYTHING on me. I don't understand why so many seemed to take offense to my agreeing with someone else and offering an explanation based on my experience. Perhaps I used words that were too big...

[ey****]

Sorry a bit - I've not really commented because I don't know a lot about DID/systems/etc and it's been interesting to read comments and perspectives - it's not something I could contribute on.   (I did initially read DID as Damsel in Distress, oops, but reading the thread helped me understand)

However... there are folk harping about ratio's and I do know about those.    Largely, they're not true.   In some territories, maybe, this site is one for example that started in Germany, came into the UK, then US, and has tempered in some European markets. Folk outside these regions may be under represented.   Though, men in particularly do tend to exagerrate.     What most folk would find is being involved in kink communities - like going out to munches/events/etc numbers are a lot more even.  And that may well be because thirsty online men do not attend, and women sick of thirsty online men do.   

Of course, from what I've read here about DID I can get how kink spaces might be very difficult for someone with DID and so I can totally understand difficulties and frustrations. 

[La****]

I am a system as well, and I have very similar struggles. Mine comes from one of my blips (we like that instead of alter 😝) she is very much our protective one, and she struggles with touch. SHe wants it very much, but once she gets it, there is a complete disassociate. I have my Sir Beasty, aka Daddy, and he has tried very hard to always check on who is in the front. Now he usually knows. They are out there. There are people that will want all of your system. They will be willing to learn.

Sorry, I am very much rambling. I never thought to see if there were people thar had DID out in the community. Thank you for your post, and if ya all ever wana chat just to have someone, please feel free

[Bo****]

Thursday at 09:23 PM, prettyageplayer03 said:

yeah, no. the majority of men are just disrespectful asf as a woman that’s been on here for over a year and this also isn’t even my first account. there’s plenty of active women on here

I don't disagree with how disrespectful and gross men can be on here, but I'm not sure you're coming from the same perspective being from another country.
I had a casual stroll through 100km+ of all the major cities in Australia (being from there) and the amount of actual kink accounts that aren't either bots or vanilla folks trolling for easy hookups (both men and women mind you) are far and few between. My own personal experience has mirrored this as well. I've had a decent amount of conversations, and most people are simply LAPRing.

[Ka****]

Damn Fr? That’s.. not very exciting to hear if I’m honest.