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Any tips for finding a Dominant who’s willing to have nonsexual scenes?


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Yes. I am not sexual most of the time but there to be the Dom. There are days where I need the sexually feeling and some not really. Just have to communicate that a bit how you're feeling that day.
As an asexual switch we do exist, my recommendation is going to local events and meeting people in the community. Also Fetlife is a good tool to find events
Most doms and dom types unfortunately do need that sexual side.....HOWEVER!! As a true "Pleasure Dom" I actually get more satisfaction from getting my partners off than when I do. I have a few play partners that are non sexual because I still get my release if they do.

My recommendation would be to try to find a true pleasure dom.... that is the hard part. We are very rare....
If you’re primarily interested in a masochistic experience rather than a sexually submissive one you will potentially have more luck connecting with sadists than with dominants.
I would recommend staying what you are looking for in you negotiations.

Then asking for reference to make sure the person you are playing with follows thru on what they say.

I currently have 3 platonic impact partners. Most kinksters are true to there contracts sins A consent is sexy and B you will see your reputation follow you for ever.
I mean, I'm open to it, and I was assured most old school operations aren't about sex like that at all.
Honestly it spares personal energy if urgent isn't about sex.
I hope you find this
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Hey Kuro. Fetlife more than fet may be a better fit. I do feel this site is more on the sexual. But if you continue here, make that well-known on your profile and vet them publicly.
Cropp unfortunately FetLife is being over run by scammers and only fans.

I really only use FetLife now for events and munches.
Fetlife is actually way beyond sexual and more like a porn site than anything.
Many Ds interactions are Discipline, Punishments, Rewards, Tasks, Exhibitionism, Disinhibition, Discussion, Mentoring, Artisan nurturing, Salutations and forms that may evoke sexual stimulus but are not sexual at all in conduct. Many vanilla people get more sex than subs in classic forms.
I recommend finding a dungeon with service tops! I attend a dungeon that I’ve seen sexual activity at… maybe 4 times? In a year? The vast majority are strictly impact/rope/wax/rough body play with no sexual contact. Between friends, lovers, everyone in between. So yeah. Dungeons!
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