Tasks and communication

[ly****]

First of all I love you actually do the picture thing everyday that is such a hard thing to get subs to do and I'd die for it lol. Second I used to use free photos to see what she liked it helps getting to know your sub. Lastly an unwanted h*miliation is not cool but just say I dont like being h*miliated like that a good dom will understand

[Mr****]

First, this borders on "relationship advice," so here's the obligatory "YMMV."


That out of the way: establish a "speak as equals" metric. It can be time-based (certain time of day / day of week / day of month / etc. based on what can be tolerated). Do this, and at that time have a clear discussion that, first, this is a "speak as equals" discussion and that you require him to work just a bit to be at your level during it. (This should not be your responsibility to state, but it is your need to be met and "should" is IMO a dirty word falling short of reality, so it'll likely need to be said directly.)


Vent those feelings in a prepared and mutually respectful way. As true as it is in a vanilla dynamic, a lack of preparation might result in you firing the whole magazine of "latent trigger" ammo at him and ultimately accomplishing nothing. Also please note: "mutually respectful"—in these conversations, you are to hold the position that you are not allowed to accept *** or berating of any sort, even if it is the type that you like, because (and I'm not saying this is your Dominant but) some individuals will opt to avoid any discussion of change through strategic employment of misdirection. Per past submissives, few things scramble the mind more than the thought of wanting to be ravaged by your Dominant—so protect your headspace here, at least.