Need help

[Resh]

I want to ask about an issue I am facing right now, it's mostly about the moral confusion, me and my is in mistress slave relationship for the past 1 year, but so far into this lifestyle we got know ourselves better than ever before and constantly realising about ourselves, so for last 2,3 months my wife was showing some sort of sub behaviour, we were confused at the beginning then understood she could be a switch all along and needed to explored both the sides. But in fact I am myself unable to make a Dom or Master on my own because of my personality traits.. but doesn't want to leave mine in bother and confusion, so we decided to find a Dom that can be acceptable for both of US. She lead the way in search for her Master, tried in many dating apps and friend circles but subtle. Could not find any suitable one.. then one day I had to leave for my work for couple of days out of town. So I asked my father to have a sleep over for few days as I am out of town and she will be alone in home. So he agreed. It was so smooth for first 2 days. She was making calls and doing our roleplay over the voice and all, everything was fun and same even though we are afar. But on the 3rd day I noticed some time gaps in her calls and changes in her behaviour towards me, I was missing the commanding power from her, I couldn't bare the fact that I might be loosing my mistress and I was so confused and lost, then I asked her next day what happened, are you going through your submissive episode.? If so I can understand and I am with you on this. She was hesitant at first then she told me the reason, because my father was a tough guy since he came into house he organically taking control on almost everything, from daily routine to cooking and dish washing and every bit of stuff that needs to be done in home, he was demanding of off her. But she took it the other way like she was like this is what I wanted for so long, someone to take control over me.. So she wanted to invite him as her Dom if I am ok with it. So, this is my dilemma I don't know how to respond to that, because I don't know if I am making the correct decision, if I said No, I myself doubt myself maybe  I am saying no because I don't want to loose my mistress even for a portion, but that would be me being selfish denying what's rightfully her choice.. if you guys have any input if that might slightly helpful, I am grateful... Thank you so much...

[Re****]

Oooohhh yea, Id say no to having your Father, maybe use him as an example and do as he did in the mean timen look for someone else. Inviting him in to play, that's kinda wierd.

[ma****]

I’d say you guys need to be on the Jerry Springer show.

[Re****]

Buddy you have no reason to be confused. Having your father into this will make everything much worse, keep family out, end of story!

As for her submissive side, the best you can do is actually try to dom her, by now you know how it looks like. If not, a stranger would be much healthier for you.

[Da****]

This will not end well for anyone. | Including any family member from either side is a bad idea.

[ey****]

saying "no" is the right thing if you're not happy with it.

it may be you need to work out a solution you're both happy with - but, a regreted 'yes' will be worse in the long term

[Da****]

3 minutes ago, Resh said:

Thank you for your kind response.. so you are suggesting I should look for a solution that doesn't include my father.. Talking her out of it could be little bit heavy but I would definitely try my best..

For this instance, stick to the family member aspect, since it could forever harm your relationship with your family, that's even if your father would agree to the proposal, which is hopefully unlikely. | Also now that this was almost real, you may need to examine if your hesitancy of saying yes was related just to it being your father or if that could be your reaction to anyone and have another conversation once you figure that out.

Edited September 3, 2025 by DarQxKnight

[To****]

Dont walk on a thin line. Even if you have a 24/7 kink lifestyle, it seems you are blurring between your kink role and role as a husband. Despite the power dynamics, you guys are “partners for life”. Communicate with your “wife” and discuss what the ideal or healthy form of relationship would look like for the both of you. Set your priorities right. Goals and actions should follow based on this.

[Li****]

My 2 cents:: I respect yr dynamic, that you 2 built a fluid pwr exchange w good communication..as a submissive, her needs come 1st, yes? She's asking you to be dominant at times..do it for her, be demanding to please yr master, as it were..its a subtle role, but she's earned it..n you hve a domineering father to model it on, so it won't be difficult for you to navigate..I think the layers of this are enticing..to serve by being served

[Deleted Member]

You, sir. should practice being assertive, and she will follow. Play a role... tell her what she will do and punishment for anything otherwise. The dynamic will take place naturally.

[NickFromCenla]

I have an initial question but don't necessarily want to post it here. If you will email me i will ask you [email protected]

[Re****]

8 hours ago, Resh said:

Thank you for your kind response.. so you are suggesting I should look for a solution that doesn't include my father.. Talking her out of it could be little bit heavy but I would definitely try my best..

Yes, you risk them running off with out you, and it would be really wierd to sword fight your daddy. Either become more dominant or find someone else neither of you is related *** or legally. All in all best option is learn to become more dominant, even if it's in baby steps.

[he****]

You're good Resh. You definitely can be a Dom. It's a mind set. If you're comfortable with another man doing that by all means go ahead. But I'd think about it first. That's your woman. Be possessive, she's yours mind body and soul, get into that headspace and it will definitely help you be a Dom she needs. Nothing wrong with 2 switches

[In****]

Never mix family. Either learn to be more controlling yourself, even if you have to fake it till you make it, or find a dom that’s not related to you. You do not want that drama.