Switch thoughts

[thefootslut]

So, need some advice I guess, or maybe reassurance! My most of my adult 45 years on planet earth I’ve been unashamedly a sub. However, recently I go through periods of say, 6 months, where I completely flip the other way around and all I want to is dominate. And then, back again after a period to being a sub. Now, is this something anyone else has experienced? It’s almost not an on off switch type thing, but more my mindset almost changes for a time, and then changes back again! What is going on!?

[El****]

Everybody's relationship with their kinks and sexuality is different, and evolves in its own way. Being a switch is just as much someone who can easily be both as it is someone who can only sub for a single person. Some people are a dom one month, but need the security of being a sub the next.

[ta****]

I go through this too. Sometimes I can feel it sort of shifting bc of circumstances either in relationships, life or work where I have to "step up" or carry more. But a lot of times it's just cyclical!

Kink is a spectrum. Switching has it's own spectrum! That's why it's important to have a partner that understands switch behavior and how to redirect a switch or generally navigate and support that part of you.

It's not a bad thing 💕

[La****]

Its called being a switch… people ability and the time period to able to turn it off and on is different. But when you can be both and comfortable with being both, then youre one. It’s important to understand diction. Which explained your situation. And no. I never experienced what happened to you.

[at****]

I haven't, but I'm open minded

[Deleted Member]

As a man I am supposed to be a leader, protector,faithfully love and honor, be honest, guide the lost and absorb the blows of life. Fight for injustice and help those that lack the strength or ability to to stand up for themselves. But sometimes I am the one who becomes broken, lost, ***ful and needs the love attention and reassurance I am a good person and mean something to others. It's the way we are created and everyone goes thru it. Some days I am thriving and others I am just existing.

[thefootslut]

On 9/11/2025 at 4:16 AM, Lady_King said:

Its called being a switch… people ability and the time period to able to turn it off and on is different. But when you can be both and comfortable with being both, then youre one. It’s important to understand diction. Which explained your situation. And no. I never experienced what happened to you.

Great reply, and very true as well