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[Caspen-5454]

What is BdSM blackmail? 

[FETMod-HG]

We have allowed this topic for educational purposes, however as per our terms of use, BDSM blackmail is not permitted here at FET.

 

 

[to****]

I’m assuming (I know very little about this topic) would be taking footage of a session and using it to threaten said person / out them to their friends? And I guess people get off on the threat, but it’s a very dangerous line to cross in my book

[showmeurtds]

What is the definition?

[fu****]

I mean it's blackmailing the person as a *** or to extort them for *** or your own gratification
Personally I think its f**ked up idk how anyone would get off to this besides the ***r but idk I'm new

[Fe****]

Getting off on giving information to people who use it to *** you to perform specific acts or whatever

[GH****]

Could be fun

[Surferdaddy]

1 hour ago, topspur30 said:

I’m assuming (I know very little about this topic) would be taking footage of a session and using it to threaten said person / out them to their friends? And I guess people get off on the threat, but it’s a very dangerous line to cross in my book

That would be just about the perfect definition

[si****]

2 hours ago, topspur30 said:

I’m assuming (I know very little about this topic) would be taking footage of a session and using it to threaten said person / out them to their friends? And I guess people get off on the threat, but it’s a very dangerous line to cross in my book

This sounds like a perfect definition of it. Which is why people should NEVER send pictures they wouldn’t be ok with one day somehow ending up on instagram. Once something is sent, you have no control over it. Even if the person you sent it to is you me partner for life and they would never do anything, there are other people that might use that picture

[do****]

Anything that has blackmail in it is a crime a serious crime. Any kind of blackmail is a federal offense

[si****]

If you are getting blackmailed at the moment. Firstly I am really sorry. I know the feeling, and it is horrible, I threw up so many times while going through it from stress.

Secondly, if you are and you have someone you can talk to about this, then lean on them for support. I didn’t have that, and I wish I did.

Thirdly, if you can’t find a solution to this alone (I had to pay £300 and hope to god that that will be it - luckily it was), go the police for help

[ma****]

Highly illigel now so I would be super careful and anyone who tells you they will expose you is commiting a federal offense contact the FBI if this is something on going

[de****]

I agree, notify the authorities. I’m sorry your going through that . Also, if your afraid of them outing you need to realize that that’s really all the power they have over you. Normal is relative to what you are used to and sexual preferences are simply that; preferences. If they out you, all you have to do is report that person and turn the tables on them see how that goes. Wish you the best of luck

[pe****]

3 hours ago, madeone1313 said:

Highly illigel now so I would be super careful and anyone who tells you they will expose you is commiting a federal offense contact the FBI if this is something on going

This! 💯

[Qu****]

Bdsm blackmail is a form of cnc play. Stricts boundaries would need to be established before this kind of play happens with a trusted & known partner. The idea is the top would use information to make the bottom do something. Could be pictures, video, or even information about the bottom.

[an****]

Scammers feed on *** to pressure people into paying. Do not engage or encourage them. If possible, collect the payment details, report everything to https://ic3.gov, and then ignore them. They usually just move on to their next victim.

[Er****]

Important note on legality. Even if you agree to blackmail as bdsm play, it is still illegal, and that means any contract you make with blackmail as a feature of the contract is automatically void in the eyes of the courts. You have some legal protection if your dom actually follows through on the threats, but the judge would have discretion on what kind of relief you would be granted (and that could mean he decides its your fault, and youre basically screwed). The extreme danger involved here is why so many people are speaking out against it.

[jpb]

Happened to me last week, fortunately i realised the signs very fast, blocked and reported, her profile is now blocked from the site, crazy thing is after i blocked her, she somehow tracked down my dad, made up a story that i was suicidal and she needed to contact me, i have no social media, my dad lives in a different country, how they found him i have no idea, all this happened within 48 hours of her first message, she facetimed sent pics but i have no doubt it was a scam, never send ***, personally cyberplay is not an option as not worth the risk they are filming, report to the app, they deleted my ond within 48 hours, and if they dont stop report to the police, and send tne scammer the police report. Maybe the most effective method is when you are talking to someome new and they ask things like “do your friends know you like this life style” say yes and that you are proud, takes away the power of using shame or embarresment. Lots of support in this community

[jpb]

Im seeing a lot of this, in the last week i have had 4 “crushes” sent, all now have their accounts blocked, i think we need the app to do more to prevent

[ra****]

To my clueless misunderstanding, i thought that was a clever way scammers call a sextortion scheme

[pi****]

They also produce fake documents from real documents and pass it off as real. I had that happen to me too. Then they make multiple email addresses. Find your email address and would not stop emailing you

[on****]

Do comments get deleted here? My comment got deleted, it seems and I have no idea for what reason.

I can make a post on how to recognize fake profiles, but I don’t know if it will get removed for some reason 🤷‍♂️

[FE****]

3 hours ago, only_hands said:

Do comments get deleted here? My comment got deleted, it seems and I have no idea for what reason.

I can make a post on how to recognize fake profiles, but I don’t know if it will get removed for some reason 🤷‍♂️

As far as I can see, none of your comments have been deleted on the thread.  I would however warn you, that your answers here need to stay on topic.  i.e. directly relating to the OP's question otherwise they will be removed.

[Deleted Member]

It’s where u get sued for blackmail but u take the court summons and smack ya girl in the face with em and she says yes daddy

[PF****]

Im no professional but I feel like it's using the knowledge of your kinks or the evidence of your kinks in a way to cause you harm but not for fun.
For example, when I tried to have the sub talk with my ex husband he used it as an excuse to *** me outside the bedroom because "if I like that stuff in the bedroom then I like it outside too" "can't have it both ways, you either want control all the time or not at all" and now as we are working through this divorce it is being used against me in our custody battle because someone with these kinks shouldn't be a parent