me**** Posted September 26 I have a compromised immune system, am in a relationship with a partner who wants to begin having sex outside our partnership, and need help navigating safety in sex. What kinds of sex result in a no risk health situation for me?
ri**** Posted September 26 Honestly, im no authority but if it were me, no intermingling any saliva, ***, sweat, tears, or uh….nectars of love.😬
jo**** Posted September 26 I kinda hate to break the news but if i hear this sti/stds are not the firsf concern. Other virusses spread easy as well. You need to make better plans for things like the flu, covid and common cold. Still be careful with stds and use condoms, no oral without one i would say. At the same time what risk are you willing to take
Ti**** Posted September 26 No risk at all is to find a clean person who is not interested in extracurricular activities. Condoms work for the most part but no guarantee, it could break, or just come off with no regard for safety in the heat of the moment. So if they’re planning on doing more than dry humping you should take every precaution necessary to protect yourself.
li**** Posted September 26 Considering that you can't really control the kind of practices he's going to be involved in, it seems like he's putting you in a very *** position. Why are you doing the work of finding out how to stay protected from stis? He's the one who should be concerned about it, not you.
ri**** Posted September 26 Please remember there is no relationship or amount of material possessions that are worth risking your health over. A poor person with good health & an overdrawn bank acct is immeasurably wealthy compared to a billionaire with syphillys.
li**** Posted September 26 4 minutes ago, joeri010 said: I kinda hate to break the news but if i hear this sti/stds are not the firsf concern. Other virusses spread easy as well. You need to make better plans for things like the flu, covid and common cold. Still be careful with stds and use condoms, no oral without one i would say. At the same time what risk are you willing to take I kinda hate to break the news but stis can cause cervical cancer in women.
jo**** Posted September 26 2 minuten geleden, liliththedivine said: I kinda hate to break the news but stis can cause cervical cancer in women. Might be because live un Europe but dont all women by now get vaccinsted against that?
li**** Posted September 26 6 minutes ago, joeri010 said: Might be because live un Europe but dont all women by now get vaccinsted against that? It doesn't protect against all HPV types.
tw**** Posted September 26 I have a feeding tube so basically cleanliness for sure stay away from people who are sick unless on medication and protection
Th**** Posted September 26 There is no guarantee in anything. You are at risk no matter what. You cannot guarantee what the other person is like or how they are protecting self or not. Safety should always be above everything else. Especially with you being compromised this puts you at a greater risk. I sense, maybe I am wrong, that you are not truly for this. Just know nothing is worth risking your own health.
me**** Posted September 26 Author I’m navigating a new cancer diagnosis and trying to figure out how to maintain our physical relationship while also protecting my health during surgery recovery and potential treatment.
CopperKnob Posted September 26 Not only does it only protect against 9 of the HPVs but it only started being offered in the UK about 10/15yrs ago so, there's a huge cohort of the population that cervical cancer remains a risk for. OP, the only way of ensuring 0% risk of STI's is abstinence considering that several are also contracted by a variety of medical procedures, not simply sexual activity so it doesn't matter how frequently someone tests or whether they use condoms.
CopperKnob Posted September 26 8 minutes ago, ATLPRINCE said: you can get prep shots Which prevents against ONE STI and is not available to everyone
AT**** Posted September 26 2 minutes ago, CopperKnob said: Which prevents against ONE STI and is not available to everyone there are many providers that are doing it for free
CopperKnob Posted September 26 6 minutes ago, ATLPRINCE said: there are many providers that are doing it for free That's not what i said. It's not available to all for factors other than cost.
ChocolateRopeBunny Posted September 26 Personally there's not a ***n or puss in the world that would have me risking my health just to say I'm in a relationship. You may want to take a look at why you would put their sexual gratification before yourself first
Pa**** Posted September 26 What about what you want? If you are in a dynamic and you don't wish for this then seek to renegotiate on the basis of your terms
jo**** Posted September 26 3 uren geleden, liliththedivine said: It doesn't protect against all HPV types. Oh i have been informed wrong then. (Honestly didn't looked into it for years either)
ey**** Posted September 26 the first thing is to remember that no matter what your partner does (or says they're doing) is this increases the risk to you. How big of an issue this is depends on both your risk profile and your level of trust. Some people have mentioned vaccines and two things I think when I see these is that (1) these do not cover every possible infection (2) vaccines tend to help you fight infection rather than be a magical ***field - how does this fit with your immune system (3) and also to speak to medical professionals about your specific circumstance on if vaccines are even possible or practical with your condition If you did go down this route - it might be better for your *partner* to take vaccines as one of the protective measures they should take. The other protective measures your partner should take is (a) using a condom with both other partners, and, now with you (b) getting regularly STI checks (c) asking proof of STI checks from potential partners (dated within the last 28 days) While this helps mitigate the risk you have to return to the original question - you said "no risk" to yourself - I am sorry, but this is frankly not possible The question then becomes a case of what is more important, that your partner has sex with others, or respects your risk profile?
Ot**** Posted September 27 The only safe sex is masturbation. Period. All sex and intimacy carries with it some risk. Condoms do not protect against all things. You can get HSV 1 by sharing a drink with someone else, let alone kissing. Let alone RSV, Covid, flu, or colds which are quite easily spread. Can you mitigate risks? Sure. Ask your partner to get on PREP and to start taking DoxyPEP. Use barriers (condoms and dental dams). Learn how to have safer sex conversations.
Deleted Member Posted September 27 10 hours ago, merryn said: I’m navigating a new cancer diagnosis and trying to figure out how to maintain our physical relationship while also protecting my health during surgery recovery and potential treatment. You got a cancer diagnosis and now they want to begin having sex outside your relationship? Baby, that’s a huge red flag. There is no possible way for you to have “no risk”, especially during immune killing cancer treatments. This is honestly just irresponsible, for all the reasons everyone else listed. You deserve better than this.
GeneGrey Posted September 27 It’s best that you consult your primary doctor about this issue. This is a health issue and it shouldn’t be discussed on the forums. You’ll get the best help with your doctor not here.
Simpledaze Posted September 27 GeneGrey, is correct this is something that is meant to be private and shared with Partners appropriately. From my point of view (emphasis on my point of view) When Fets are shared between a couple it's meant to strengthen the relationship... not throw it up in someone's face health issues because that's what it will unfortunately do( once again my opinion). It shows a blatant disregard to your happiness and safety all beit the condition is probably temporary, the fact that he's willing to jeopardize YOUR HEALTH should be huge concern for worry.... sorry for grammar mistakes I'm using talk to text and this has me kind of fired up😡🤬
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