Dom/Sub Schedules For Switches

[IC****]

I just had a random thought, and now I’m wondering if any switch types have ever had a dom/sub schedule. Like 1 week you’re the dom the next week you’re the sub or some version of that.

Would it work?

Would it be fun?

It kind of sounds fun to me. You could have fun with getting back at eachother for their dom behavior or something. Would especially work if they’re kind of bratty haha.

But what your thoughts?

[cu****]

I Just think that sometimes you feel more dominant and in some days you feel more submissive. So i think of you have that kind of scedule maybe ***s the Partner to align with that certain role that they are suppose to be. This is Just my Opinion.

[Co****]

This might work if you are in a switch/switch relationship with a flexible partner. I suspect that is a fairly rare situation.

[Sw****]

One weekend every 3 months I switch with my partner. She’s a bottom leaning switch and I’m a Top leaning switch so it works out. And yes, it’s very fun to quote something she said to me in either roll. 😈

[ey****]

I'm aware of folk trying it

I'm not aware of many where it's worked long term

So the week ends and it's your turn to be sub.... but actually... you still want to be Dominant and can't quite get in the headspace.  Falls flat

Or you've been in one role and not really had enough opportunity to play during that period.  So on.

The truth is that most switch couples have to work out what works for them, and a lot of that could be on whether they are "50/50" or Dominant leaning, or sub leaning, or how they 'view' their partner - any other relationships, etc. And a lot is going to be on how it works... at the time.

[Lo****]

Keeping it very flexible might work- a schedule would definitely miss that energy shift.
The bratty part though sounds a bit- no offense!!- like kindergarten …

[ge****]

That’s not even how it works

[bo****]

My opinion is switching is most fun when it strikes that primal cord. Personally when someone properly dominates me and really makes me there bitch it makes me eager to switch after they finish

[Cr****]

Me and one of my partners naturally switch. We even tend to switch mid scenario sometimes. It makes things unpredictable and fun. If thats something youre interested in, try it out. It wouldnt hurt to try 😉 i just find its more fun when it happens naturally

[et****]

Thursday at 09:03 PM, gemstone24 said:

That’s not even how it works

For you

[et****]

While I don’t switch- the idea of switching by schedule: even as someone on the autistic spectrum who likes schedules- sounds horrible. Those who are switches tend to not be able to flip that natural tendency like a switch. Flipping it on a schedule for both seems like it would be problematic. It’s an interesting thought experiment though to get a couple to talk about things that naturally make them feel more subby or dom-like. Etc.

[Bo****]

Thursday at 09:03 PM, gemstone24 said:

That’s not even how it works

I don't understand your comment. What's the "it" that doesn't work that way?

[Bo****]

Anyway, to respond to the OP, when in doubt, FAAFIO = Fuck around and figure it out. If it sounds interesting to both you and your partner, give the scheduling idea a test-drive. One way or another, you'll both learn something and maybe have fun with the experiment. There are no "rules" about how Switching is supposed to work. Every person is unique and every couple (play-partners, lovers) is unique.

[Me****]

Im new to switch scene (sub leaning) in my last relationship, I would switch more during playtime when she would be a bratty Dom (forcing playtime when I don't want it do to stress or anger) where then I would take over positions, please her, edge her etc. Now I feel like I choose who can get which side or both when I'm comfortable with it.

[Sl****]

It CAN work like that and you CAN try to do it. I would say BE FLEXIBLE!! Don't make it an Obligation. If you OR your Partner are NOT wanting to Sub/Dom that night DON'T *** it.
Be aware of what triggers Your & Their Dom/Sub Side. This can help make things more Organic and Natural feeling!
Different people Switch differently. Some people can't Switch with the Same Person. Some people can. Some people it's Unpredictable, other times it's a Switch that's EZ to flip