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How u keep it real? ( if you are in a relationship)


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I guess communication is key. Decide what rules you are both going to live by.
I don't feel you guys should even be on here at all if you need to ask this question.
That's not me being mean but it reads as if there could be a doubt or worry of lies or deceit. If so a dating and fetish community platform may not be the best idea if there is not 100% trust for each other.
Apologies if I have it wrong, but I'd personally not be on here if I needed to ask this question.
All I can suggest is a couple profile, share log in info and access. The moment either of you refuse or start deleting stuff.. it's maybe time to leave the site and have a good chat about how to proceed.
Personally my wife and I have separate profiles but are linked. And as others have said communication is the key here. She knows what my likes and dislikes are and I hers. Also we know each other’s limits and the rules we have set for one another.
Communication. Openness to the others needs and understanding that some people are just not that open to your own needs. Once you find someone that is, it's amazing!
Probably should've had that figured out before you did then went into one with full disclosure...?
Bad_girls_pussy
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I was just curious it has nothing to do with us being insecure. I find it really cool the honestly openness and love it takes to be open with someone to that extent I know for us it was scary, there was some shady things that happened but we came to the conclusion that we both are into this we just didn’t know how to tell each other that. So just Jen that’s all I was asking for. But I agree if the trust isn’t there then this isn’t the place. 

 

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Bad_girls_pussy

If u all don’t mind I wS curious on what each others reactions where when u talked about it the first time? ( I think that it’s girls that are the first ones to say what they want first) am I wrong ? Member I’m a woman typing this so I’m curious 

If you both are into this kind of lifestyle then you need to sit and talk together. Find the do's and don'ts. Sure it'll be awkward at first but you'll feel a lot better after you've said something. It will most likely be alright by the sounds of it with the 2 of you. But if things do not go well, don't be discouraged. Just a new chapter.
Regular in person checkins and space to make adjustments as you explore. Most importantly, no shaming (outside of a play context I guess)
One other thing especially if I an individual I mostly interested in one party or the other is we request you to view both profiles and make an assessment. Even message both. We talk every evening. Not always about this but we both work and I cannot talk often at work.
Bad_girls_pussy

What are your levels of discloser?

He doesn’t have a profile on here. But we have implicit trust in one another. We both know what is acceptable communication with others and in what setting - in person, at clubs, online publicly or in DMs / messages. We also have an open phones policy (mostly for me when im feeling insecure) and I am frequently showing him things on here, including messages I get, if they’re interesting or I want help replying.
I have a separate profile from Daddy but we are both here & have been for years we have total trust & honesty & boundaries all set in place aswell as rules & I respect my Daddy & vice versa we have nothing to hide as if you do then no point in being in a relationship in my opinion let alone a dynamic,I mean that with the upmost respect,you need to say what your both after etc as openness is what’s needed & you state that’s some shady things that happened but you both come to the conclusion that you both are int this you just didn’t know how to tell each other right there that statement makes me go Eh?!
You would both need to be on board 100 percent for it to progress 😊
Good communication and trust is key. Without it, you're asking for feelings to get hurt and trouble
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Ya just don’t sweat the small crap, use that jealousy as a challenge
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