do**** Posted October 15 Great post. You summed up the issue perfectly. Imo there are several factors that answer your question. But the major one is people have always been a commodity, to buy, sell, trade, and build countries. Unfortunately, but true. Factor in capitalism, instant gratification, lost morals, forgotten ethics, and lack of accountability for self, and more , and you have the shit show we see today. One must protect their peace. Find like minds and build your own community until the tides and times change is my suggestion.
He**** Posted October 15 I invested 2.5 years with someone in here, flew to Germany twice to be with him. Then one day he decided to ghost me. I was disposed of. I tracked him on a *** site, created a new profile even role played with him, I asked him as this other person when was his last relationship, curious to see what he'd say. Totally denied he'd had any relationship since before covid. Found out later that the one before me had covid, and didn't even know if she'd survive it.she was also disposed of, ghosted because of me. So obviously he just good from one to another and likes to destroy people along the way. It took me a long time to get over, it felt like a death to me, and since my husband had died from a heart attack, it felt the same. I will never go into another DDlg relationship because of it. I'd rather be alone than used.
Ca**** Posted October 15 32 minutes ago, Hels1920 said: I invested 2.5 years with someone in here, flew to Germany twice to be with him. Then one day he decided to ghost me. I was disposed of. I tracked him on a *** site, created a new profile even role played with him, I asked him as this other person when was his last relationship, curious to see what he'd say. Totally denied he'd had any relationship since before covid. Found out later that the one before me had covid, and didn't even know if she'd survive it.she was also disposed of, ghosted because of me. So obviously he just good from one to another and likes to destroy people along the way. It took me a long time to get over, it felt like a death to me, and since my husband had died from a heart attack, it felt the same. I will never go into another DDlg relationship because of it. I'd rather be alone than used. That's a significant investment in any situation. I'm sorry you had to endure that. Some people are truly heartless, and society just won't let us get rid of them for the good of community. There's no excuse for that behavior. At the very least, be up front and honest about what someone means to you. There's unempathetic ignorance, and then there's selfish evil. I hate that those people exist.
ra**** Posted October 15 It sure does seem like it. But when you think about it, genuine connections are rare, and even those don’t always result in something long term or meaningful. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but at the end of the day, the majority of the people you meet aren’t meant to be in your life permanently. You have to learn how to make healthy attachments with the understanding that the other person may not be around as long as you want them to be. Yeah, it’s kind of sad, but we all only have enough bandwidth to give to other people, so you have to learn not to take it personally and be selective of not only how many cups you’re pouring into on a daily basis, but how much you can pour into each one.
BigPeppyDaddy Posted October 15 Unequivocally. There is always another swipe or match to be made, so people feel easily disposable to us. Couple that with everyone assuming each other is a bot, and you can see why the internet can feel so lonely
Su**** Posted October 16 6 hours ago, SerendipitousKeeper said: Me too, more than once. Now in fairness I don’t use this as a dating app per se, but I do believe that relationships with real meaning ought to be/are a possibility on here. I do not see it as a casual/hook up site - fine for others if they do but just be honest about that from the get go. I'm trying to use it to find like minded people and then maybe something will come of it .. but that seems to be difficult..
Ca**** Posted October 16 23 minutes ago, Subkitty7714 said: I'm trying to use it to find like minded people and then maybe something will come of it .. but that seems to be difficult.. Well that IS certainly the idea of the site. Gotta wade through the coal to find the diamonds.😉
Officer_DaddyDom Posted October 16 You aren’t wrong, you hit so many points that are the truth. I’m starting to question is kink, fetishes and BDSM can have a long lasting and happy relationship. I genuinely seek love and someone to spend the end of time with while being into the all the kinks/fetishes and BDSM, but, people are so against a single partner that wants it all and look for whats the best next thing. Hence why I get frustrated and give up for weeks if not months trying dating. I sometimes wish I had stayed vanilla as to be in a loving relationship instead. There is another theory of mine, western society doesn’t value relationships and family as European, middle eastern and Asian cultures. I was born in Europe but live in Canada. I see family back home that have happy relationships, *** and function as a nuclear family. Here in Canada it’s all about what’s better and who can I swipe in next, do they make good *** and are they attractive.
Officer_DaddyDom Posted October 16 Just now, Officer_DaddyDom said: You aren’t wrong, you hit so many points that are the truth. I’m starting to question is kink, fetishes and BDSM can have a long lasting and happy relationship. I genuinely seek love and someone to spend the end of time with while being into the all the kinks/fetishes and BDSM, but, people are so against a single partner that wants it all and look for whats the best next thing. Hence why I get frustrated and give up for weeks if not months trying dating. I sometimes wish I had stayed vanilla as to be in a loving relationship instead. There is another theory of mine, western society doesn’t value relationships and family as European, middle eastern and Asian cultures. I was born in Europe but live in Canada. I see family back home that have happy relationships, *** and function as a nuclear family. Here in Canada it’s all about what’s better and who can I swipe in next, do they make good *** and are they attractive. Apparently this app blanks out the word “m o n e y” with ***
La**** Posted October 16 It all started when the technology era and social medias getting out of control. Add that with the worsening of capitalism, that drives the mindset of modern human with treating other human beings as just some sort of statistics and ‘unreal’. We’re out of touch in reality and socially. The numbers on your social media is becoming the new currency, and you see hundreds of new people online than in real life. This happens, bcs the society ripping off the genuine human experience out of humans. It gives the wrong idea that you can always find ‘another’, while it trapped you on the loop. How to navigate? For the time being, I think the most effective one would be: setting strong boundaries and not settling. Be strict with your principles and focus on what you want and need.
ni**** Posted October 16 1920, General Motors. Yes GM the car company popularizes the term “planned obsolescence” realizing that people weren’t buying as many cars as they would like. 1920. It’s not a new thing, at this point we’re bread to believe everything is 💩 and we should have to buy multiples of everything. Nonsense. Everyone talks about the environment but we’re still living in GM’s disposable dream. Build a future that last forever ❤️.
jo**** Posted October 16 Im in the same boat, I been disposed off plenty of times. If you would like to continue this conversation you can message me on here if you like.
Ca**** Posted October 16 9 minutes ago, joliet526166 said: Im in the same boat, I been disposed off plenty of times. If you would like to continue this conversation you can message me on here if you like. I think we all have, Darlin. Everyone seems to be on the same page concerning this topic. At least now I know I'm not the only one concerned about it. Awareness is the first step, the next one(change) is more difficult. As Ghandi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world."
ja**** Posted October 18 Society has been made this way. The divide between one another is greater than ever
Ca**** Posted October 18 2 hours ago, jacehendrix said: Society has been made this way. The divide between one another is greater than ever And the ensuing conflict will be ***ier than ever
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