Vetting People

[Co****]

If you’re at the point where you guys are exchanging risky photos, but your verification request is too much, that’s a red flag.

[Deleted Member]

Seems very sensible to me.
If they are who they say they are it shouldn’t be offensive.

[lo****]

No not at all

[mo****]

Perfectly acceptable.

[no****]

You are correct to may fakes ,!!

[ol****]

Yeah this should be fine no scammy people don’t mind doing this

[Deleted Member]

I always ask them to take a picture of themselves holding up a piece of paper with my name and the current date on the paper. I offer to do the same in return.

[th****]

28 minutes ago, Kfunnbunn said:

It’s not weird at all. It’s very common practice on regular/traditional dating apps. I get asked to do it on here all the time and I happily oblige. If someone isn’t willing to share a pic to verify they are real that tells me everything I need to know. I’d say move on and find the dozens and dozens of other men who are willing to put your mind at ease.

Oddly enough it’s women who won’t send us the verification

[W0****]

Nope

[Dr****]

Nah ask them if anybody who is real shouldn't have a problem for a non-sexual photo verification thing. I can get asking for weird or sexual nudes etc cause there are pic collectors out there. Honestly I get asked to verify my face my size yadda yadda I just say ok what you need me to do and do it if it's a reasonable request. But usually only if they are meeting up soon like having an actual date scheduled. But once they prove self once or I prove I'm legit .... I find it to be rude if a person keeps asking for more over and over that's just weird and pushy and shows they need self improvement on trust issues.

[Nu****]

100%

[si****]

When would be a good time to ask for this or send one? Because even a regular selfie also can be used against you. Especially if you keep face pictures of the profile.

I don’t like sending or uploading selfies where my face is visible because it can be used to search on the web or create fake pictures. So what would be a good middle ground for verification?

[Deleted Member]

If it’s an issue to get someone to send a photo…. end that shit there… obviously they’re shitty.

[wa****]

It’s so crazy for us men out there with fake profiles and people hustling and scamming. I don’t waste much time on these motherfuckers. I very quickly go to. Let’s have a quick video chat and immediately they go quiet. That’s a very quick way to find out what’s up. Ask him to do a quick video chat and if they dodge it make excuses say their phone’s not working right etc. etc. you get a very quick answer doing that I have multiple of those a day it’s in shame how many fucking fake profiles are for us men out there you women get it too, but it’s way worse for us.

[Gi****]

Very safe, good call i think

[ce****]

Nope.

[On****]

After over 5 years on multiple dating apps I have seen countless scammers and catfish acts, I absolutely do this but will slip a request into to include something from the conversation. 👍

[Deleted Member]

Absolutely. This app is full of so many bots I’m about to give up

[Ho****]

I've had some odd reactions when I said no to them picking me up in their car from my home the first time we meet. One even took it for granted he'd sleep on my sofa as logistics would mean he couldn't catch the last bus home.

People don't just have to be honest, they also have to be bright enough to understand it isn't personal that I need to verify they're for real, no matter how long we've chatted and how strong my gut feeling that they're safe. Any more than a bank demanding tour password means they're actively accusing you of fraud.

The good guys either offer proof/precautions to save me having to ask, or are surprised when I hesitate because they *are* honest and immediately say "Silly me, of course."

I still don't 100% trust my own judgment, for a long time. That's on principle - I treat me like an impulsive, naive daughter that I'm being protective of. My gut instinct is a pretty reliable but I use another "authentication" method with it.

[Be****]

It's completely appropriate and a must. All parties should be willing if they are authentic and genuine.

[Or****]

I would cease comms with them then. Scammers(of one form or another)

[SO****]

nope its normal but some people like me may not want to share its face for privacy. Yeah trust is hard sometimes for both sides

[ni****]

It's the almost perfect way to check for fakes. Not weird at all, keep going.

[Le****]

Not at all. A live photo is great for many reasons. I can understand having a bad hair day or no makeup, but at some point, a live photo is necessary. The custom request just makes it real.

[Lo****]

Nope I think that is absolutely fine. You can do it in a nice and kind way without compromising complete identity if needed (no faces).