kinky Christians

[Ka****]

I'm just wondering if I'm the only one who feels somewhat conflicted with my Christianity and my kinks. I know that I would never openly discuss my kinks in church but I can't deny my kinks just because of my religion either. Is there anyone else out there that shares this dilemma?

[li****]

Absolutely I completely understand

[ar****]

Before I answer I would have to know the kinks? LoL. As long as it's not hurting anyone or anything and it's not disruptive then why not?

[Go****]

I'm not Christian, but I would think as long as it's not anal it shouldn't be a source of conflict. That being said , not even sure why anal is a problem. I get the whole OMG it's gay thing people are afraid of, but whatever you do and with who is between you and your chosen deity.

[Deleted Member]

Hi myself, share this dilemma a lot given my kink is pretty deep with the sin of gluttony and lust . So I think about it pretty much every day. Most times I feel like it’s just something I have to take to the grave with me.

[Deleted Member]

I know I struggle with this too. Hooked on depictions of sex as an adolescent I was less successful meeting and having girl friends. I became very withdrawn and later as a married Christian, I still seek the open and free lifestyle of kink.

[Gr****]

Let it flow as a breeze say it is going to be good 💯 to feel like a stuck side is on auto

[Av****]

It doesn't bother me. In my last relationship my ex and I went regularly. We liked church, like the community, liked the work we did, but I also liked going knowing my girl had her buttplug in under her dress. I don't think its one of the sins because it was a mechanism of exploration and deepening trust between the two of us.

[fi****]

100 percent every last one of you is roasting in hell lol you know what the book says.. don’t play stupid people. there’s no in between sin is sin don’t cry when you feel the heat on judgement day see u all in hell :)

[sc****]

Not at all. I'm Lutheran and very in my own skin about all of it. DM me if you'd like to hash it out, I've managed to become pretty comfortable in reconciling with my kinks and spirituality.

[Coupleforplay]

Ironic how ghostface say’s don’t play stupid but puts the most stupid comment.
No where have I read that enjoying sex is a sin. The bible doesn’t go into detail about what you allow yourself to enjoy or not. Only holier than thou types put the restrictions on it. Pray for guidance, if under prayer and guidance it feels wrong, it is. If it doesn’t feel wrong and it isn’t crossing the sins, then it’s not wrong. Don’t worry what people think, let the pure of heart judge you.

[UK****]

I don't follow any religion. Can I ask what specific kink/bdsm activities are considered a problem by Christianity?

Do other religions have the same issues or are these specific to Christianity?

Are the 'issues' based on the bible passages or by later teachings (and by whom)?

[Deleted Member]

Catholic here. Not conflicted at all! I am comfortable with who I am spiritually and my desires.

[sc****]

42 minutes ago, ghostface655389 said:

100 percent every last one of you is roasting in hell lol you know what the book says.. don’t play stupid people. there’s no in between sin is sin don’t cry when you feel the heat on judgement day see u all in hell :)

Blasphemy. We are all redeemed in Christ.

[ad****]

As a non Christian, I would make the argument that if you believe you were created by God and your personality shaped by God, then the kinks you have are the work of God.
Whether they are there for you to enjoy or whether they are there for you to resist temptation is in my humble opinion the real question and I suspect different preachers may well give you different answers.

You could probably study for a doctorate trying to answer your dilemma and still be no closer to an answer.

So. Have the deeper chats with those who have offered in the thread to reach the conclusions that settle your mind safe in the knowledge the good people of this community will support you.

[Dr****]

You shouldn't feel conflicted
If you think about it, kink and church go hand in hand.
The Saint Andrew cross, used in BDSM is named after an actual Patron Saint.
Also.. if you think about the Catholic church confession....
Forgive me, father... for I have sinned
Similar to ..
Sorry, Daddy... I have been bad..
Saw that the first time and laughed how it is so similar.
In accident times, Flogging was a form of punishment by religious officials.
There are many similarities in Christianity and kink if you actually look at it.
Only difference is... Christianity preaches acceptance but judges you... if you actually express yourself.
But there is no reason you should feel conflicted.

[Fu****]

God might have said no sex before marriage, he didn't say no restraints and wands are to be used in that marriage.

[Te****]

I feel conflicted all the time 😓

[No****]

I struggle with this as well.

[Deleted Member]

43 minutes ago, FuriouslyNick said:

God might have said no sex before marriage, he didn't say no restraints and wands are to be used in that marriage.

I don’t think God ever said that…

There’s a separation between Gods word and supposed ‘Christian Values’ taught in schools and churches; and there’s often a massive disconnect between the two.

Similarly, some of the most Christian people I ever met were atheists or believers of other faiths - and some of the most unchristian people I met are regular church-going, god-***ing ‘christians’

[Deleted Member]

Yep. Right there with ya

[JackJonesHull]

As a man brought up in the Christian faith, a faith I have subsequently studied, I would say that you may maintain a "Christian" lifestyle and also balance your kinks, as long as you are not damaging others mentally or physically, quite happily.
"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you! Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers. – The Song of Songs 1:2-4"

[Th****]

I’m also a Christian. But I don’t feel any conflict about my kinky side or believe it contradicts my faith. God created every part of you, including your sexuality and kinky side. It’s a part of who you are. And He called that good. Christians are typically taught to be ashamed of sex and their sexuality, never talk about it, and have everything be done in secret. God created sex to be enjoyed with a special person, not to be shamed. Notice that the Bible doesn’t say a whole lot about what is and isn’t acceptable as far as sex positions, kinky stuff, but leaves most sexual matters to the man and wife. With your kinky side being a part of you, you shouldn’t be ashamed to be able to discuss with your man who loves you, as God does want you to be able to talk about that and enjoy sex to the fullest. It is a gift of God’s that is powerful when used correctly.

[so****]

Just embrace the traditional values of Pope John XII

[Te****]

I have the same problem my last Dom was furious about my beliefs and ended up telling me Jesus Christ would have puked at the sight of me.It was sokoto hurtful he had had bad experiences with the church and it was like he wanted to make me responsible for them - he had a drug habit but I did love him very much ( still do)