Do any women really like us Nice guys?

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2 hours ago, charlienashville said:

It's quite surprising to see the level of judgment on display here in this thread.

It's not really judgement.  No one is judging him.

Every comment is more about the "nice guy" trait than attacking or judging him.

2 hours ago, charlienashville said:

Could we provide some genuine and thoughtful answers for our friend here?

As you've judged others, but not put in your own  I think folk have

The thing is to not think of yourself as "nice" or "deserving" because that leads to entitlement.  And can often lead of course to being in a situation not entirely happy with (people pleasing, taken advantage of, etc) but to think of what you can actually bring to relationship or what your actual interests are.

 

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4 hours ago, charlienashville said:

It's quite surprising to see the level of judgment on display here in this thread. This platform has been, in my experience, a relatively judgement free zone, where people can express themselves and be open about who they are and what they're into, without being shamed or insulted. Yet, here, we have someone who's curious to know how women feel about "nice guys", and most of the responses address the stigma of overly stressing or communicating the "nice guy" persona. It seems a bit inconsiderate to red flag the guy into oblivion. Out of respect for the poster, wouldn't it be fair to answer his serious question with a serious and informative answer? Maybe someone or multiple people have told him he's a nice guy. Maybe he's not floating the idea as a manipulation tactic, he's just being real and open about his feelings. He didn't exactly overdeliver the nice guy schtick in his post...lol. All that being said...Let's say he really is a nice guy, who doesn't carry a sign proclaiming himself as such...Could we provide some genuine and thoughtful answers for our friend here?

It’s actually surprising that you’re saying people are judging the original poster. I don’t see anyone on here judging AT ALL! I def see that you are judging those that answered and that’s a shame. The poster asked a question and everyone answered honestly. It’s universally known that nice men are not safe men. They do what is considered bare minimum decent behavior (everyone should be nice) then complain and get petty if they don’t get sex. No one said the poster isn’t a nice guy quite the opposite many people were saying I bet you are a nice man.

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Rose here from personal experience men that claim/say they are nice guys are not nice guys

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Also being a nice guy all depends on the person you want to be a nice guy for. What one person considers a nice thing other people might not. Find out what she thinks a nice guy is or would do. For example you wouldn't be a nice guy for what you would consider a complete b*** but someone else might find that complete b*** there sweet little princess

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I love nice guys, had one…. Messed up & I don’t know how to make up for it. Now he wants to do the same thing to me but I think that will kill me inside & cause us more problems.

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Monday at 10:09 PM, wallsandroses said:

Rose here from personal experience men that claim/say they are nice guys are not nice guys

I learned long ago that truly, I'm nowhere near.

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I'm a dick. I'll puncture all four of your tires if you block the fire lane.

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"Nice" is a very bland word to use... if people ever try and use that word when describing me, I feel like I'm no different to a cup of tea or a biscuit 😅

If anyone self-describes as "nice", I stay away from them.
My social circle is full of people that myself or others describe as "Kind", "Reliable", "Compassionate", "A bit nuts but they'd do anything for anyone".
Those sorts of people never describe themselves. Their characters shine through for others to see.

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Ok, so just about every response on here is about the "self proclaimed nice guy" what about the men who aren't self proclaimed l, its just who they are, and woman can see it, without him ever saying it, what do most women think of that guy.

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1 hour ago, Paul77kink said:

Ok, so just about every response on here is about the "self proclaimed nice guy" what about the men who aren't self proclaimed l, its just who they are, and woman can see it, without him ever saying it, what do most women think of that guy.

I think that's also answered.  That if someone can see someone is nice (though, that can be down to perceptions) then it's generally favourable.  But that doesn't necessarily mean they want to fuck him.  

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My man.... You can be nice, but don't be a doormat! Assert yourself when a lady is teasing around disrespect. She is testing you whether she knows it or not. It's how we're wired. Don't be so eager to bang someone that you get discredited. A lot of "nice" guys are really beta af so naturally she's not going to want to be with you.

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I think most women at this point have been traumatized some way by a douche walking around calling them a “nice guy”. When in reality they are only nice because you keep saying ‘yes’ and the moment you say ‘no’ they throw in your face about how “nice they have been to you”. So, I would say we still accept the actual nice guys, the girls are just a little traumatized.

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