Why do you submit?

[Deleted Member]

For the precious subs out there.

Why does it feel fulfilling for you to submit?

How can giving up every ounce of your being to someone be pleasurable for you?

[Cyomo]

You can change who you are.

[Bi****]

I'm tired of always having to be in charge in the bedroom I want someone else to do it.

[Da****]

For me, it is the happiness but also the trust and security I find in that D/s relationship. Sure, I give every ounce of myself for my Master's pleasure, but He gives me structure, guidance, strength, trust, caring, and He builds a deeper understanding than others. It is one thing to submit in the bedroom, entirely different to submit completely. As a sub in a TPE dynamic (and yes that can mean different things to different people), you know the outside world is left outside, your stress and worries vanish because your Master has your mind, body, and spirit in His hands for your beat interest.

[Se****]

Even though I'm more of a Dom myself, I love to sub for other Doms I trust and know well..Being a switch has so many advantages like being in a different head space.. I mentally and physically release the week of stress by flogging and receiving.. I have always thought that to be a better Dom, do both, that way you get to really know what your doing..

[fe****]

For me personally its away to release always being the responsible one, the one who always has to make decisions. I work in a management positions, and at home im always placed in charge of making sure everything get done. The moment I walk through the door to my doms house all of that disappears. Im able to relax and breathe and know that someone else has control for just a bit. Im also allowed to be weak and show weakness. Im allowed to break down if needed and hes fine with that as it shows I trust him.

[Deleted Member]

It comes naturally. For me, the level of trust is equal to the level of my submission.

[tw****]

I have to be in complete control in every other facet of my life. Its stressful and exhausting but necessary for things to get done. Having someone else take control gives me a chance to catch my breath because I dont have to worry about anything.

[On****]

My last partner put herself in charge of everything….. outside of the bedroom. She enjoyed the fact that she didn’t have to plan or think about anything. That was my job. All she had to do was what she was told

[AN****]

I get tired of making decisions all day long. It’s a chance for me to completely turn off my brain

[Qu****]

I like the release of control. In all the rest of my life I have to be decisive, lead not only through my actions but also impart new thinking into those around.

[AN****]

I get tired of making decisions all day. It’s the one time I can just turn off my brain

[PL****]

I live a life where I must be in control of everything possible and even have that feeling of control even when I know logically I can't control a situation. Therefore, for me giving that control over to another and having the freedom to not have to make choices but feel that safe that I can release control, is an ultimate way to feel pleased.

[Bo****]

It feels good to let go. To let someone else have the control in a life which can feel like chaos to a lot of people. Submission means energy doesn’t have to flow into care, as someone else can take the reins and let you relax or zone out from everyday life.

Hope that makes sense?

[Wh****]

3 hours ago, Bidude_69 said:

I'm tired of always having to be in charge in the bedroom I want someone else to do it.

This right here. I have a prosperous career am known throughout the city i take care of business. In the bedroom I want to trust you enough to completely let go of the reigns

[Me****]

For me most of my life I had to be in control, the release of that alone is enough to get me going.

[Deleted Member]

I make every single decision, every single day. This is the one time I don’t have to think about what I need to do and it’s so very freeing

[Ar****]

It’s more than sensual control… rather, it’s a culmination of the daily pressures I face. Choosing to award someone else that power, to show my vulnerability, to offer my whole heart—and have it found worthy—that’s what matters, that’s what counts. Certainly, if obedience is earned, I won’t deny it… but it’s about so much more than mere physical pleasure. It’s intimacy and trust and love… It’s an act of my soul, and I don’t take it lightly.

[Qu****]

I am strong independent and in charge all day, everyday. It is a release for me to submit.

[Al****]

As a dom, I have had people say it's about not needing to take responsibility for the subs desires, like eating all the unhealthy foods you wish, but being able to say "it's not my fault". And never assume a sub is giving up anything. In fact, if you look closely, they control much more than the Dom.

[Deleted Member]

For me, submission is very much about letting go and being able to quieten my head through their satisfaction and pleasure. I am very very high functioning and work an extremely high pressure job and as a switch that means it's like being able to choose a persona for the situation. At work, my dominant side is at the reigns - taking control and commanding my floor, but when I get home my submission to takes over, where I don't need to think about a million different things - just how I can best please them, fulfill their wishes and be useful. I find that my brain quitens down and I can let go of my stresses.

[Ro****]

For a little while, I can only be in the moment, and everything else just goes away except them and whatever is required of me. It is a peaceful quiet for once.

[Deleted Member]

I like being able to come back from my stressful job, and be able to turn off my brain and let my dom lead me fully, giving up control can sometimes be freeing

[lu****]

it just feels correct being able to please someone, intimately, personally— the feeling i get when they put me in my place (brat speaking) is just SO nice

[Lo****]

It feels natural to submit