We**** Posted October 28 Do all women hate men that are married and looking, even when their wife’s libido doesn’t exist? And, how do you best keep a FWB relationship discreet? Married women with or without a crushed libido get jealous or angry. And, can you explore all the different sexual lifestyles outside your marriage and still come back?
ur**** Posted October 28 I hope your wife consents to this. Because if not that's cheating. I have no idea because I'm not even married.
ju**** Posted October 28 I'm eager to see the responses here...and you aren't alone wells.....same situation im in
Deleted Member Posted October 28 I don't go for a married man, generally just because I don't share, and I am quite attractive enough to have a man who would belong to me only 😌 Another reason is that it causes too much drama if she finds out. And I don't think I take pleasure into destroying somebody's life 🤷♀️
Ch**** Posted October 28 I dont 'hate' anyone who is cheating, its just not something i personally would get involved with. Everyone's situation is different, i dont judge, but its not for me. Could you suggest an open relationship with her?
ey**** Posted October 28 3 hours ago, Wellsborohubby said: Do all women hate men that are married and looking, even when their wife’s libido doesn’t exist? "All" - nope but I guess the thing like a lot of things is... what is the benefit to her? Being aware of women who have engaged with men they know are cheating, it gets extremely frustrating when for example plans change at late notice - or they're basically only really interactive with on behind-back time. It is *slightly* different if done with wife's knowledge, i.e. consent to do things with others. Because then it isn't - looking for a cover story on why out - but - "I'm meeting x this weekend"
Lo**** Posted October 28 No woman wants to find out their partner is cheating on them, so they likely don't want to participate in that dynamic. It can cause hurt and drama for no reason. Just have open communication with your wife about your needs. If you need sex that badly then you aren't compatible.
TravellingDom71 Posted October 28 I am in this situation myself. Im lucky that I work away from home a lot so I can keep separation, avoid doing things on my doorstep and my company pay for the hotels. In my experience very few women are totally anti married guys if you click, but some will just block you.
Si**** Posted October 28 I think most women don’t like married men looking around but some understand if the marriage is cold. Keeping things discreet means respect, silence and no drama. You can explore but coming back takes honesty and a clear mind.
Sa**** Posted October 28 yes its disgusting. work on your marriage instead of being a disgusting degenerate.
tr**** Posted October 28 You’re essentially asking someone to trust you while acting untrustworthy. I was an unwitting home wrecker once, people treated me poorly, as though I should have known better. Think about what you’re asking someone for, and the fairness of the situation.
Ul**** Posted October 28 1 hour ago, LolaLove2278 said: No woman wants to find out their partner is cheating on them, so they likely don't want to participate in that dynamic. It can cause hurt and drama for no reason. Just have open communication with your wife about your needs. If you need sex that badly then you aren't compatible. I couldn't agree more with this. Communication is very important in every interaction. Unfortunately, even with the bets communication with your partner, others will still judge you. During my last marriage, there was a time when our sex life was almost non existent. My wife and I decided to look elsewhere for sexual and romantic interests in an open relationship. There was no jealousy and no hurt feelings because of it. However, my parents got really mad and accused me of cheating on my wife. They said, "how could you do that to her?" They never really understood that it wasn't cheating because there was full communication, agreement, and consent on all sides. So sometimes you can't avoid the judgement, but for all the parties that matter, as long as there aren't any serious reservations and all are in agreement, consent, and communication, then jealousy shouldn't be as significant or even there at all.
Ro**** Posted October 28 They hate cheaters and majority married regardless of their wife's libido are cheating. I'm poly and I don't want someone who could potentially be lying to their partner. I prefer someone who can have hard conversations. Still state their truth. If you are looking to explore but have not discussed then there is something disconnected in your relationship. If she does consent to this then happy travels on your journey. You can explore and go back but not if you are not transparently honest. As the truth of your "explorations" will come out no matter how discreet you are.
La**** Posted October 28 Personally bcs I just dont share. Then most of us also just dont want to participate in indefinitely. We dont want hurt the wife bcs we’re women ourselves. It MIGHT be a different situation if the wives know and then you are actually open about it.
Deleted Member Posted October 28 3 hours ago, SirChaos said: I think most women don’t like married men looking around but some understand if the marriage is cold. Keeping things discreet means respect, silence and no drama. You can explore but coming back takes honesty and a clear mind. Honesty with your spouse?
Me**** Posted October 28 You're gonna hate the answer to this... Honesty. You need to be honest with your wife. If you can't do it consensually, don't. You're not sparing anyone except yourself and what you're doing is selfish and harmful. There are other ways. Rekindle your relationship. Couples therapy. Yalk to your wife. The solution to the problem at hand isn't infidelity. That just likely leads to more hurtfulness, regret, and problems.
Ma**** Posted October 28 Ethical Non-Monogamy is when all members of the relationship are given the same knowledge of what their partner is doing and are in agreement and consent to the relationship. You’re practicing Non-Ethical Non-Monogamy- my guy. Your wife isn’t being given the opportunity and knowledge to and/or not to consent. How would you feel about her getting laid outside your marriage without you knowing…? Maybe she has a libido - just not with you… considering you’re so quick to seek your needs be met outside your marriage - one could speculate that’s why she doesn’t want to sleep with you anymore.
De**** Posted October 28 As a rule I hate anyone male, female, or non binary who cheat on their significant other without consent. I could care less about the justification for it.
Sw**** Posted October 28 Like others have commented I avoid married men, I’ve been the other woman and it’s drama I don’t care to be involved in.
Ot**** Posted October 28 Because cheating is antithetical to the BDSM lifestyle. One of the primary pillars of BDSM is open and honest communication. If you’re looking to play in this community, the people you’re trying to play with expect that level of openness. You’re asking them to trust you to respect their limits and boundaries and out do the gate you’ve shown yourself to be untrustworthy but not honoring those of your spouse, who is subjectively more important to you than a FWB or hookup.
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