What Female Submissives wants to hear from a Dom

[La****]

Ladies, I have been scrolling through Ads on here from men and what I saw was 90% asking for sex (I.e. "fun"). Tell me and them what you want to hear, read, learn, understand, get to know about a Dom from their Ad? Which to me is their first impression.

[Se****]

I have blocked so many due to attitude, a lack of respect, and disgusting behavior.

[Pa****]

THIS... a little help, ladies?

[Deleted Member]

You are excluding what male subs want to learn about a potential partner?

[Hullguy2021]

Not all subs are looking for just sex

[Deleted Member]

It’s the same when you privately message them too.
1. open with an ice breaker
2. Be less ***ful
3. Reiterate what is in your profile or description
4. Have a complete profile
5. Dont ask for sex in the first five seconds

[Pa****]

10 minutes ago, kippi435jj6 said:

It’s the same when you privately message them too.
1. open with an ice breaker
2. Be less ***ful
3. Reiterate what is in your profile or description
4. Have a complete profile
5. Dont ask for sex in the first five seconds

Fair

[Submissive_summer]

When you give someone the blueprint, they might put together something that looks right but doesn’t feel real.

I’ve always been more interested in what people create on their own. That’s where you see who they really are.

What drew me in wasn’t perfection (FAR from it) it was the energy, the intention and the honesty behind it.

[th****]

Please don’t come at me with pet names or telling me what you want to do to me. You’re not going to get a response.

I like when men are respectful and genuine in their messages.

[Ablaze]

While not a sub and looking for a D type male I do want to know their experience in different protocols, marital and STD status, availability for play and how well they communicate.

[se****]

Being a Dom and into fun doesn't tell me anything about how you are a Dom. There sre many different types of doms and they dont always have the same alignment of what the sub is looking for.....sub doesnt mean agree to whatever and I think many "doms" forget that and think it means its just all about pleasing them.

[La****]

I want to know your intentions an unfortunately most men just want “fun/sex”. For those who want something real I’d just like to know about your personality, interests, things that make you, you. You gotta engage my mind before you’ll get access to my body. But I appreciate those who keep the bios short n flirty cuz I know who to skip over. Accessibility is a big thing for me so if you come out the gate flirting I’ll assume you flirt with everyone immediately an now I don’t want it.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, BlackGrassland said:

You are excluding what male subs want to learn about a potential partner?

She's addressing female subs looking for a male dom. does everything have to be inclusive?

[Deleted Member]

Less about what you want, more about who you are would be perfect.

[je****]

I can't stand when guys say they want a "freak" that word just irritates me. Im not a "freak" im a sub, big difference. Take the time and get know me on a personal level before trying to jump in a dynamic, tell me basic information about yourself, like things you like to do for fun, favorite places to go, places you want to go etc...

[Deleted Member]

4 minutes ago, fififufu said:

She's addressing female subs looking for a male dom. does everything have to be inclusive?

Yes, especially if female subs desires are being addressed in a way that deprecates male doms for their desires and completely avoids the desires of lesbian subs as well as the bad faith actions of female "dommes" who are only here things that are a *** of community guidelines. 😉

[FE****]

1 minute ago, BlackGrassland said:

Yes, especially if female subs desires are being addressed in a way that deprecates male doms for their desires and completely avoids the desires of lesbian subs as well as the bad faith actions of female "dommes" who are only here things that are a *** of community guidelines. 😉

It's OK for the OP to have a specific question they are addressing.  You are free to raise your own topic, addressing a different aspect of people's needs in profiles.

[se****]

8 minutes ago, FETMod-RG said:

It's OK for the OP to have a specific question they are addressing.  You are free to raise your own topic, addressing a different aspect of people's needs in profiles.

Exactly they are not asking for the whole of the community but how it affects people like her

[Wh****]

Can I list what I don’t want to hear or see? I want to hear a Dom who is intelligent, can carry a conversation and who can excite my mind. Before we get into kinks and sex talk, I get this is a kink site and we are all kinky but a real Dom gets to know a sub and how her mind works before engaging in play.
I don’t want to see your pics of your dick, you flipping off the camera or your tongue hanging out. Maybe I’m just too picky…

[je****]

7 minutes ago, Whiskeybandit49 said:

Can I list what I don’t want to hear or see? I want to hear a Dom who is intelligent, can carry a conversation and who can excite my mind. Before we get into kinks and sex talk, I get this is a kink site and we are all kinky but a real Dom gets to know a sub and how her mind works before engaging in play.
I don’t want to see your pics of your dick, you flipping off the camera or your tongue hanging out. Maybe I’m just too picky…

I feel the exact same way so no you're not picky, you know what you want....why settle

[Wh****]

39 minutes ago, jengin said:

I feel the exact same way so no you're not picky, you know what you want....why settle

Because I am finding it very difficult to find what it is I’m looking for…

[Deleted Member]

47 minutes ago, Whiskeybandit49 said:

Can I list what I don’t want to hear or see? I want to hear a Dom who is intelligent, can carry a conversation and who can excite my mind. Before we get into kinks and sex talk, I get this is a kink site and we are all kinky but a real Dom gets to know a sub and how her mind works before engaging in play.
I don’t want to see your pics of your dick, you flipping off the camera or your tongue hanging out. Maybe I’m just too picky…

Preach ***

[Ba****]

Coming from a dom, I personally am not looking for just sex. I believe in a more structured partnership between sub and dom. Of course the physical part is important but at the end of the day I also want there to be a flourishing relationship. Dom and sub activities are more than just sex and I feel so sad that most new age does dont understand that

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, FETMod-RG said:

It's OK for the OP to have a specific question they are addressing.  You are free to raise your own topic, addressing a different aspect of people's needs in profiles.

That's nice, but does that mean that as a commenter, I can't freely discuss the topic and its implications?

[je****]

31 minutes ago, Whiskeybandit49 said:

Because I am finding it very difficult to find what it is I’m looking for…

Our time will come and we'll get everything we want and more, we just have to be patient and firm