Relationships - guys experience

[ze****]

Got lucky once right away prob cuz I was new. Since then nothing, there's 1000 dudes for every girl so the odds are against us on here. It seems pretty pointless

[ab****]

21 hours ago, Aranhis said:

Why not? Who is to say that a male in one of these situations now is unable to offer valuable, constructive insight? You might be missing on the most perfect gem of an answer to top all other answers from a guy with a wealth of relevant experience just because he doesn't fit your criteria now. Women, men's partners, members of polycules and so on may have directly witnessed some of these struggles and/or have appropriate anecdotes the community might benefit from.

 

I'm not actually interested in the answer (or any thread which gatekeeps relevant, respectful responses), but I hope the point has given food for thought.

Pardon late reply.
I was looking to see the experinces of men looking for "norm relarionships" within a kink app.
Does it resemble mine.

[Gr****]

Well, I personally get caught up on the fake accounts and the other half are never online

[Ar****]

1 hour ago, absurdist said:

Pardon late reply.
I was looking to see the experinces of men looking for "norm relarionships" within a kink app.
Does it resemble mine.

I get that and appreciate it, especially the clarification. I hope I didn't come across too harsh - I think my particular train of thought was that as a man with several years of experience looking for norm relationships in a kink space/site, I would hope that if tomorrow my relationship status changed my insight would still be valuable. 

 

I hope that the thread has yielded some of the answers you sought. 

[UK****]

It's weird; I'm an older guy, bald and certainly no gym body and I've had multiple relationships from here in the 5 years I've been registered and some play partners too.

If it's not to do with my looks, I suspect it must be to do with how I write to people. I wish I knew what it was in the way I write, as it sounds like I could make some c@sh from some of you if I knew that secret ingredient.

[Aw****]

nearly impossible

[Ca****]

Nothing really changed same bs that’s on tinder is here. I feel like I wasted my *** to be honest

[Pa****]

I've not had much luck. Things seem to be going ok, and then things seem to go South This is my third go at this site. I cone back mostly for the stories, discussions and Treasure Hunts.

[BD****]

I’m pretty sure a few months ago someone almost thought about messaging me back. It was awesome.

[Th****]

I agree with the above. Lots of scammers

[Lo****]

Yeah I am actually looking for a real relationship. Between the scammers, the nearly blank accounts, the finn doms (not judging, just there seems to be a lot from time to time), and the lack of replies. Not saying I got it all going for me, but even "not interested"or auto block at least tells me it was read.

Nit laying blame here to the ladies, just expressing my side. Lord knows we males know what one another can be like.

[FETMod-HG]

3 minutes ago, LoveandSpice said:

Yeah I am actually looking for a real relationship. Between the scammers, the nearly blank accounts, the finn doms (not judging, just there seems to be a lot from time to time), and the lack of replies. Not saying I got it all going for me, but even "not interested"or auto block at least tells me it was read.

Nit laying blame here to the ladies, just expressing my side. Lord knows we males know what one another can be like.

Please, judge the ***! They are not permitted on Fet so please report them so we can remove them.  All Scam accounts and finds, please!

[Lo****]

2 minutes ago, FETMod-HG said:

Please, judge the ***! They are not permitted on Fet so please report them so we can remove them.  All Scam accounts and finds, please!

Will do. I have been on and off the site for over a year, so something may have happened since my recent return.

[Bi****]

It’s been terrible. I’ve been on this app for months and I haven’t gotten one message back. I mean, I get it, I’m really disgustingly hideous to look at, but I thought this would be the one place where maybe that didn’t matter too much. Nobody wants what I have to offer. It really bums me out. I’m beginning to doubt if I’ll ever even get a kiss again before I die.

[Lo****]

13 minutes ago, Big_Daddy_JD said:

It’s been terrible. I’ve been on this app for months and I haven’t gotten one message back. I mean, I get it, I’m really disgustingly hideous to look at, but I thought this would be the one place where maybe that didn’t matter too much. Nobody wants what I have to offer. It really bums me out. I’m beginning to doubt if I’ll ever even get a kiss again before I die.

Sorry dude not upgraded to message. But you are not a bad looking guy. Best thing I found is to focus on me while I look. Find where I am weak and work on it. Not for your future mate, but for yourself.

[ey****]

2 hours ago, FETMod-HG said:

Please, judge the ***! They are not permitted on Fet so please report them so we can remove them.  All Scam accounts and finds, please!

I would say maybe... there is things that are mutually true.

Like. Any form of Findom, pay-to-play, 'tribute' etc (and probably other words which will get starred out, ha) isn't permitted in the rules of the site and that's fair/understandable

But that these are also very fair and valid kinks, arrangements and dynamics and thus should be protected under the same "kink shaming" as anything else.  Like, elsewhere on the forum we have a guy who was married in a cuckold relationship and he paid for all of his wife's relationship and *that* is also Findom.  

[Bi****]

My, my...they lost the gist of the post.

[no****]

This site is definitely filled with a lot of ghosts… tired of the one sided conversation.. and waiting for a non reply !

[hi****]

10 hours ago, FETMod-HG said:

Please, judge the ***! They are not permitted on Fet so please report them so we can remove them.  All Scam accounts and finds, please!

I've reported multiple fake accounts and they are still here. Must be owned by fet to make them more ***. Only reason I can see.

[ey****]

6 hours ago, hiramcouple said:

I've reported multiple fake accounts and they are still here. Must be owned by fet to make them more ***. Only reason I can see.

you are using a photo which is not you.  Are you owned by fet?

[hi****]

10 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

you are using a photo which is not you.  Are you owned by fet?

We have our personal photo in the gallery

[ey****]

54 minutes ago, hiramcouple said:

We have our personal photo in the gallery

yet virtually all of your public pictures are not you.  Which is against site rules.  The fact fet have not removed them MUST mean you are owned by fet. There is no other alternative.  

[hi****]

58 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

yet virtually all of your public pictures are not you.  Which is against site rules.  The fact fet have not removed them MUST mean you are owned by fet. There is no other alternative.  

Happy to change if they tell us that

[Dr****]

Honestly in any online thing I find nearly nothing but bots or people who back out within a few messages

[Do****]

I mean it’s difficult I know from 2 or 3 people I’ve talked to that most lady’s have probably a half dozen DMs and and the inbox is kinda dry on my half I thought this was a place more to explore and then possibly date. I’m ok with a FWB and I’m not shit off to more if it happens but a lot of people sure don’t seem to care for, or are willing to put in any leg work. Maybe there busy I sure know I am and I don’t have all the time in the world but back and forth messaging seems to be dead as hell. I don’t think low of my self but this app sure has tested my self image I wish things were better but the only suggestion I have is auto deleting accounts after no activity for like 2 months