Observation rant

[Bi****]

So me and wife started this app last week ago. I know as a guy it's a uphill battle to find others on here compared to her. I noticed so can see slaps on the free mode and I can't.

It's not just this app but other apps are like that or clubs. Just venting.

[Tr****]

Yeah it's bs.

[Be****]

It is really rough as a guy on here. I use the free version as well.

I am not taking a shot or stab at the women, but realistically they are getting 100+ aggressive (as in constant) messages a day.

I am waiting for someone to reach out to me. Not worth trying to fight for a spot to talk to someone.

[NO****]

Yup they cater to female profiles as a wat to attract female accounts

[Be****]

😂 Tinder man. It is rough wherever you go. But also just hit your local bar. That works too.

[DS****]

Well, the problem is also the quota.
To make it an enjoable place for women is way harder than for men.
I‘ve read through a discusion recently that talked about how most men, and yes, i will not exclude myself, will write very poorly filled profiles in the hopes of attention.
Pair that with the amount of guys on the dating apps and you see why the devs don‘t have to convince us to stay.
On the other hand, women get more uncanny replies, unwanted pics and empty promises. This spiral is not-healthy. That‘s why I don’t go on here expecting to find the perfect partner just because i find someones picture attractive. Just go in chat rooms, participate or start discussions you find interesting.
Then the experience will really start to be enjoyable

[Go****]

There are also unexplained settings, some people don't look at them but you are default on the "must be subscribed to message me" similar to how Twitter default is only verified people can message you. Idk of this helps any but took me a bit to learn

[Bi****]

2 minutes ago, BeachBoy3093 said:

It is really rough as a guy on here. I use the free version as well.

I am not taking a shot or stab at the women, but realistically they are getting 100+ aggressive (as in constant) messages a day.

I am waiting for someone to reach out to me. Not worth trying to fight for a spot to talk to someone.

I understand they get bombarded just when they have more access than men do, it's turns people away.

[Bi****]

6 minutes ago, GoofyGoober25 said:

There are also unexplained settings, some people don't look at them but you are default on the "must be subscribed to message me" similar to how Twitter default is only verified people can message you. Idk of this helps any but took me a bit to learn

That is one of the most annoying things in here.

[UK****]

3 hours ago, Bidude_69 said:

I understand they get bombarded just when they have more access than men do, it's turns people away.

Really?  Most sites have an issue with the volume on men Vs women.  Does making their life easier make them stay?  If it does, then the men on here benefit.

Also, the site awards people for completing profiles, are you sure she hasn't done more than you and, as a result, got  a benefit you could have got too?

[Tr****]

As a female on here I am not getting 100 hits a day - that’s on me and my bio.
I am reading bios and sending spanks but the bio matters.
Be honest and open.
After that speaking for myself - and I think my bio indicates this -don’t ask me to suck your d$&k and swallow on the first date - it’s super aggressive.
Lastly, if they say no hookup don’t start a connection in hopes of changing their mind - no hookups is not a challenge or dare.
I am very sorry for the sincere men here, there is a load of men out there who have ruined it for you and many of those women you are looking for are coldly cautious because of it.
Just because it’s an alternative sight doesn’t mean we all want to be treated with disrespect and ***.

[HottSoss7pt0]

Totally TRUD

[Ha****]

As i have suggested in other posts there should be a limit in the number of 1st messages that a man can send per day. I would say 3 max. This would prevent the men who aimlessly message every female profile looking for sex, and immediately *** mem to be more selective and only message the women who most closely matched their personalities/kinks/location etc

For the women this would mean fewer, more higher quality messages.

And the men it would mean you were competing with fewer other men to get a womans attention.

[HottSoss7pt0]

Excellent idea … but it would take away from the precious revenue

[FullONFun]

Don’t give up. I found my true love here.

[ey****]

There's an old saying that if you're not the customer you're the product.   And there is this big kinda issue that dating sites generally treat women as the product.

So, yep. Some features which men need to pay for are available for free for the women - and some of this is down to male behaviours which then leads to more-likely-to-pay.   

And it's not that any user is unimportant (ahem) but men obsess over 'the ratio' and to a degree, yeah, if you're a het guy and there's a shortage of women, you don't pay - you don't stay.  So little things that help make women less-likely to leave (or more likely to join) ultimately leads them to being the product for the men.  

[RosineK]

Sunday at 11:37 PM, TranquilAtKaoStn said:

As a female on here I am not getting 100 hits a day - that’s on me and my bio.
I am reading bios and sending spanks but the bio matters.
Be honest and open.
After that speaking for myself - and I think my bio indicates this -don’t ask me to suck your d$&k and swallow on the first date - it’s super aggressive.
Lastly, if they say no hookup don’t start a connection in hopes of changing their mind - no hookups is not a challenge or dare.
I am very sorry for the sincere men here, there is a load of men out there who have ruined it for you and many of those women you are looking for are coldly cautious because of it.
Just because it’s an alternative sight doesn’t mean we all want to be treated with disrespect and ***.

Exactly this.