I need advice

[Ku****]

I would strongly recommend you don't cheat. There are many things you could try as stated by others. But the first thing you should do is communicate with him that your needs are not being met.

[Ne****]

So, lots of gross, toxic 'advice' being commented here...

If it's always been this way for the two of you, then that's just their libido and you have to accept that and probably should have taken a look at and maturely discussed from the beginning. Ask them.

Had something changed? If that's the case, proceed with ASKING THEM.

A person shouldn't be trying to coerce their partner (or any one) into sex.

IF, by chance*, the wording of this post is just a bit off and the intention truly is just wondering some things about your own attractiveness, or theirs to you, general curiosity toward those ends - TALK WITH THEM and or the***utic counseling professionals.

[Th****]

You have to describe what the bedroom situation looks like. There seems to be a lot of missing info for anyone to give sound advice. What do you mean by "more sex?"


I think its important for each other to have a discussion about frequency expectations as well as each others needs and desires. The more open you are with your partner, the better.

[Bi****]

Change him .

[Deleted Member]

Probably the first thing you should do is not be on cesspool apps like this 💋

[Fr****]

If you want to work things out.. You need good communication. But, with someone as sexy as you are.... I find it hard to believe he doesn't want to unless it's just that he has a low sex drive from something like low testosterone or perhaps medication or something in his brain chemistry.
So, it may be easier to find someone that CAN match your drive.

[Ji****]

Talk with him.. ask him what’s up. Explain to him how horny you are for him and how much you want him. How your needs are not being met an it makes you feel a certain way.. Talking with him about is your best option

[Br****]

As many have said here, there are several different reasons. Let’s start with the most common ones.

Diet and exercise could be a factor. Is he active?

Testosterone levels could be low and should be checked by a doctor. He could just have a low sex drive.

When you first met, was his sexual appetite higher and has decreased over time?

How old is he? Some people hit their sexual peak at different ages. I find that many woman in their late thirties to early forties are the horniest I’ve ever met. Lol

Lastly, as most have said here, communication is incredibly important. You should ask to set aside some time to talk about it and explain your needs and desires. Ask him honest questions, don’t interrogate him. Don’t make this about you with questions like “do you not find me attractive?” Because that will be a big turn off. Just because he is not sexual doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or desire you. To me this sounds more like an issue with his testosterone levels and could be an easy remedy. Hope This is helpful and hope you get to enjoy more of your partner.

[KT****]

1 hour ago, BlackNick said:

You should talk to him about it first. Just be up front about your needs. If he gives you an answer that doesn’t jive then it’s on him and not because of something you did.

100% not too long ago, I was in the same boat (roles reversed). We had a long difficult chat and got out all our feelings and it truly helped! It's an awkward conversation, but its needed and it worked. Just make sure it's a calm conversation and avoid blame, using words that describe your feelings is easier to digest than pointed accusations. Good luck love.

[mi****]

Tell him you need it or you will go get it somewhere else

[ke****]

Blow him. I mean a real nasty and sloppy blow job. One that would make him say omg. If he doesn’t do it then, well maybe you need a side dude

[po****]

Shouldnt take more than a lil wink and a look

[na****]

Suck his dick every chance you get

[Bu****]

Communicate or consider couples counseling or other professional help to find out why.

[Th****]

Get a new boyfriend 🤷‍♂️

[Sm****]

Walk away. Youre young and wont change someone's sex drive. Move on.

[sw****]

Have you asked him what you could do that would get him in the mindset?

[Ra****]

Maybe start engaging in sexual stuff first with him?

[GeneGrey]

There might be an underlying issue on why his libido is low especially at a young age. I would definitely talk to him about seeing a urologist. They should be able to help him diagnose the issue, and possibly come up with treatment for it.

[Cr****]

I have been there before. Is he on any anti depressants by chance? Or is maybe suffering from depression? Also low testosterone or other medical conditions can cause you to have very low libido and never be horny. If that’s the case that he just never has the urge he should get a full *** work up from an endocrinologist or urologist ask for T levels, cortisol etc. 👍🏻

[Cr****]

And from the looks of it you’re super sexy so there’s definitely something going on.

[Si****]

Anal

[Si****]

And facials

[Sh****]

Best way to solve a problem in a relationship is to talk about it

[So****]

I recommend try to have real conversation. I myself struggle with not feeling like I'm not enough. There may be things that he's thinking about things that he's feeling. That are just getting in the way and if he spoke about it and if you learn what it is maybe you can help him deal with it and that would definitely would be an amazing part of your relationship. Being open and honest about your feelings can be amazing for everyone