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I am on the side of "talk to him" rather than seek the advice of randoms on a kink site.
3 minutes ago, fififufu said:
I am on the side of "talk to him" rather than seek the advice of randoms on a kink site.

Sometimes strangers give you better advice then people you know. Because the aren't biased

You gotta analyze and breakdown the issue a bit more. Many factors influence ones’s sexual drive. You need to find out whether it’s a controllable/changeable or uncontrollable factor. If its something adjustable, you guys can talk and work towards it. If it’s something like one’s bio tendencies/temperaments, it prob will be difficult.
Find out who the side piece is and get her to cut him off because if a man has a woman wanting to fuck all the time and he’s not doing it then something ain’t right!
1 hour ago, SoftDomHardSpanks said:

Sometimes strangers give you better advice then people you know. Because the aren't biased

Are you looking at the same comments I am?!

23 minutes ago, Lhc2407 said:
Find out who the side piece is and get her to cut him off because if a man has a woman wanting to fuck all the time and he’s not doing it then something ain’t right!

That is not always true very likely but not always true. I was dealing with a lot of stress anxiety performance issues and that caused me to not want to do anything

Ease off the gas tell look don't touch for a week or 2 over something petty. It maybe performance anxiety? Or feeling pressured x
Girl I get 😩 🙄 I have the same problem if you find a solution let me know best of luck
U can try anything and every thing. Talk to him about it, but if something don't change it's on him .
You might just have to start initiating the moves. You know thongs, getting on his lap while hes gaming (I don't know your dynamic), lap dances, try to greet him naked when he gets home from work. Give him random blow jobs when he least expects it... This one is very effective.

It's like when you see videos of people being trained self consciously and they do this by rewarding them with something at a certain time and making that the norm and then when you take it away they kind of show up expecting that reward at those certain times with expectations of you following through which then kind of in this scenario will increase their mentality of wanting or craving more sex, like if they need it
That's a pretty broad spectrum to address and most answers require a professional response to delve into.

So, I think the most important question to work off of is: does he want that and it's just off or is it something he is just wired to not care for?
13 hours ago, makeyoucumz3 said:

Get a new boyfriend

I'm sure that exactly what your girlfriend said. 

17 hours ago, SmashHits469 said:

Walk away. Youre young and wont change someone's sex drive. Move on.

Just cuz no one wants to fuck you, that doesn't mean she should give up on her relationship. 

Talk to him! I remember this with my ex and I mean once every 3+ months I asked him and he said it was his T1D giving him performance issues and anxiety I felt awful after but he upped his game in making my needs met.
You are sexy asf he’s probably inexperienced and nervous. How is the sex when it does happen?

One thing you could do is get him to visit his GP and ask for his Testosterone level to be checked.
 

I know a few people who have been in this situation and it’s turned out that their T levels were low. A bit of prescribed medication and they were changed men and the situation was reversed with them wanting it more than her!
 

It’s worth looking into and if he doesn’t want to go to GP he can get tested privately fairly inexpensively too. 

Him being "the exact opposite" sounds like he's on the asexual spectrum. He may need very specific circumstances to get aroused, or he may be able to pressure himself to please you, if he knows that's what you want. If that doesn't happen, maybe he's sex repulsed or too much in his head to care. Talk to him about it, and possibly consider opening up your relationship for you to find a +1 that will satisfy your needs.
Meet him where he's at. If yall have trouble communicating thats a big issue to begin with possibly beginning there may be the segway needed
you could talk with him about having fwb as a possibility as well, maybe
Honestly coming from a 9 year relationship. It will probably frustrate you more and more. I would say whole heartedly to end the relationship and find someone more on your level. Never settle!!
Hell it's the same for me. Opposites attract. My wife's love language is acts of service and mine is sex. Fire and water. No advice just you are not alone.
You can’t make someone ‘want sex’
They are either sexual or not sexual.
Don’t blame yourself though. It most likely hasn’t anything to do with you.
I hate to tell you this but if he isn’t interested then he isn’t for you.
Too many people waste their lives staying in incompatible relationships and end up depressed, miserable and lonely. You have one life. Just one. Then you’ll be dead forever.
Why waste it hoping someone will change?
Sexuality is more important than people give it credit. It’s who we are, it’s not just about lust or a little hanky panky now and again. Sexuality is hardwired into our psyche. Trying to deny it or suppress it is just a recipe for a meaningless life.
Is your relationship with this man more important than who you are?
Think about that question. Think hard on it.
A leopard can’t change its spots. He might be the nicest guy in the world but if he isn’t satisfying your needs in every aspect of your life then he’s just wasting your time and more importantly, your life.

I am speaking from experience here.
I spent years in a sexless relationship. Endlessly justifying it with excuses such as being a good husband and a good father.

I just spiraled further into depression.
Eventually, I just had to stop blaming myself and move on.
I didn’t give her an ultimatum or ask her to change. What’s the point in that? I certainly don’t want to have sex with someone who doesn’t really want it. Or worse does it out of obligation or guilt. Fuck that. I couldn’t change who she was as much as she couldn’t change who I was.
I decided I would prefer to be alone than in a relationship with little to no sexual intimacy.
I’m happier for it.
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