I need advice

[la****]

You find someone else that matches with your sex appetite, or at least close to it
Otherwise it will always be frustrating

[No****]

Jedster your words definitely resonated with me. I’m here because I’ve been trying to get my wife interested in exploring some fun ideas for years but it’s just not who she is. It depresses me greatly because I’ve just been suppressing who I am, thinking there’s something wrong with me, and I’m just fed up with it. I refuse to live the rest of my life miserable. I want to find someone who appreciates me because I think I’m pretty awesome and I’m sure there are ma g women who would appreciate what I have to offer. Anyways, just wanted to say thanks for your words.

[Pi****]

Get a new boyfriend or a second boyfriend lol

[Deleted Member]

My husband likes to watch me cum more than his own pleasure. He is a pleaser. Seduction takes more emotional creativity they physical for him. You will need to train him to get your fulfillment.

[Slim-7-]

My prior comment wasn't jest. But after thank you although I was just trying to make you laugh a little and bring a little bit of levity to the situation what some of the people have set up top is true I was married for 15 years and 10 before that both of them in not great sex relationships I'm horny all the time for the most part always switched on and my partners weren't they could be a times but there are lots of little things that I noticed between the two of them that they were like that for different reasons and more sometimes than not others. For example my first wife's body image to her have a lot to do with how often she wanted sex as she put on weight she felt less pretty and hit her body from me he was sad to watch and I had emotional roller coaster from mad to sad about it I guess to frustration to kind of starting to understand it and felt sad for her and eventually ended up empathizing with her but it didn't help me either so you can't make somebody want sex but reasons for them not wanting it or all usually unique to the individual my second wife I'm not even going to go there multiple different reasons so I feel for you and I empathize with your situation and I wish that there was an answer the best one I could give you is to see a counselor about it a sex counselor the two of you together and try and find out what turns him on because unless he's a very unique there are things that he likes and maybe you just don't do them and that's not you doing something wrong it's a lack of communication he may tell you that he likes women that wear leather and chains and it might be something that simple or could be something that opens up a whole another box of worms but you'll never know till you try and if you don't try you'll always wonder so there's my two cents I only speak from experience because of sexless relationship does not work it will never work there will always be frustration anger and animosity between the two and somebody always ends up sad and speaking from experience it's a shitty place to be I wish you all the luck hopefully you take some of the things that people said here and you put them into action not just mine but other people's except maybe the giving up on things prematurely guy nothing against what he said just like I said if you don't try you'll always wonder

[Gr****]

Masterbate in Front of him

[Ma****]

My advice would be communication y'all sit down and actually talk about it but you both have to talk and truly listen to the other person and I bet he will tell you exactly what he wants you to do

[No****]

I agree with the masturbate in front of him approach. I’ve never not wanted to have sex with a woman that masturbated in front of me. 🤷

[je****]

Thank you Northernnewbie.
Yeah, some people are just who they are. I have no ill feelings towards my ex wife. She’s a wonderful person and I respect greatly. We are still very good friends.
Accepting who she is and her accepting who I was instead of playing the blame game helped us navigate through the divorce process and held our friendship together.
She is now happily married to someone more akin to her psyche and I’m happy for her. She respects that I never blamed her or got bitter about things.
Breaking up can be hard, but only if you don’t have any empathy or respect..

[Br****]

Find a new boyfriend

[Deleted Member]

November 6, Bikat09 said:

Girl I get 😩 🙄 I have the same problem if you find a solution let me know best of luck

I feel you. The heart is with him, and the girl down stairs says let me free. Im making progress with him it just not fast enough. 7 years married to gether 9 total and a 5 year old while working 50 plus hours. Im 32 and he is 42.😫

[JackJonesHull]

The possible answers are many.
I'm going to weirdly assume you've talked with him about it. Or maybe you haven't.
Anyway, that's your very first step. Any advice you're going to get from anywhere else is pointless before that.