Popular Post Ho**** Posted November 7 Popular Post I know that DD and lg normally go hand in hand. But it is possible to have a Daddy Dom without being a little right? And what’s the difference between the two? Are you still considered a Daddy Dom if you don’t have a little? And DD drop your favorite thing about being a Daddy! Subs, tell us your favorite thing about having a DD! Excited to hear from you all!! Loving this community!
Pa**** Posted November 7 I’ve learned that not every girl who thrives under a Daddy identifies as a “little.” Some of us are adults with sharp minds, full lives, and a strong sense of self, who simply soften under the right kind of leadership. For me, it’s less about age play and more about structure, emotional safety, and being guided. The dynamic is defined by the connection, not the aesthetic.
Im**** Posted November 7 I agree completely with ParsleyTree. It is 100% about the connection you share vs a label to mold yourself to. A dynamic is a blank slate for you and your Partner to define in the ways that are most fulfilling and safe for you both.
MasterTalathian47342 Posted November 7 The DD or any other identifiers are just that. Identifiers. You can identify as you wish but it is how you act. To me..... let me say it again.... to ME things like DD and Gentle Dom etc can be interchangeable and can also be part of the other. This is where the "stacking" came from. We, as humans, are complex in how we truly identify our sexuality. You can have tendencies from a multiple of identifiers but just identify as one such as DD. BDSM is simple but identification of one's self can be complicated.
RedFoxUK Posted November 7 For me, being a Daddy Dom is who I am, it's not a role I play, it's my natural state in any walk of life. It's about being a confident, caring, guiding presence in someone's life, someone who can be relied upon to provide a kind, encouraging word when needed. A Daddy should be a rock, solid and dependable. Like anything in life, the meanings are open to interpretation, but that's my take on what being Daddy means to me.
fl**** Posted November 7 As a man who identifies as a Daddy Dom a lot of the time, many of my past submissives did not identify as little, or have an interest in the stereotypical DD/lg dynamic. In my experience, the kink world is a spectrum and it’s never good to get too hung up on terminology. For me, being a Daddy is primarily about the tenderness and care that is given, along with the roughness, if that makes sense
Mo**** Posted November 7 I'm definitely not a sub, but In my opinion the identifiers are only defining the general role but specifics. The specific things that attract you to that role can be different. Personally I don't like that anything sexual has any reference to a child. I prefer mature women.
RedFoxUK Posted November 7 34 minutes ago, Monday7802 said: I'm definitely not a sub, but In my opinion the identifiers are only defining the general role but specifics. The specific things that attract you to that role can be different. Personally I don't like that anything sexual has any reference to a child. I prefer mature women. If I may, DDLG has no reference to a child at all, that is a common misconception... it is referring to a state of mind, a state of well being, more child-like viewpoint. Most definitely not actually being a child. I find your closing sentence both ill informed, and rather offensive.
qu**** Posted November 7 Not every Daddy Dom needs a little. The “Daddy” side of the dynamic is more about the nurturing, protective, and guiding energy a Dom brings — not necessarily about age regression or little space. Some Daddies connect best with partners who aren’t littles at all but who still appreciate that steady, caring dominance. The difference mostly lies in expression. Littles often find comfort or play in childlike behaviors or rituals, while non-little submissives might connect through structure, affection, or service without age dynamics involved. So yes — you can absolutely be a Daddy Dom without a little. The title reflects a style of dominance, not a requirement for a matching role. Favorite thing about being a Daddy? Probably watching someone thrive under care and consistency — that moment when they start to feel safe enough to let go and trust completely.
De**** Posted November 7 I identify as a middle and I'm married to my Daddy. We actually fell into the roles organically over the course of the last 15 years together. The name "Daddy" started from me constantly calling him Daddy in front of the kids (which calling each other Mom & Dad all the time is normal in my damily-even grew up hearing my great grandparents calling each other mom & dad). I just never stopped using Daddy once the kids got bigger. He takes care of me when I can't open my eyes, eat or handle sounds (migraines) and always helps me brush my hair out after I've had a migraine spell. It was through little stuff like this that we kind of evolved i to our roles. I dont say I'm a little because I dont do parks or playgrounds or color.....I say middle because I'm still down for some old school cartoons occasionally but I also feel younger and safe and protected when he is doing those things to take care of me. The roles and titles have moved to the bedroom too which has actually helped me realize things I want that I never knew I wanted. Okay, rant over....hopefully this all made sense. 🤣
ki**** Posted November 7 I call my bf daddy sometimes. But i am not a little at all. I think the wonderful thing about the kink community is you fins what you like and works for you and just go with it.
Pa**** Posted November 7 The submissive im trying to connect with is not a little but likes the attention I give her. The combing of her hair. The comfort of being wrapped in my arms. Bringing her home treats and little tokens of appreciation. She raises my control and lifts me up and I give her peace and sanctuary.
MD**** Posted November 7 For me, it's not about an age mindset or the little activities or anything like that. That is all the littles preference. It's the feeling, the way someone misses you like they will explode if you don't come home right now, it's the jumping up and meeting you at the door because you're important and cherished. It is feeling so big/strong/supportive in their presence of smol/little/needy. It is similar to the hero/princess or pet/owner dynamic. It also stacks as another stated. If you, as the DD, are more into soft/cute you probably lean towards littles. If you are into hard/sexy you probably lean towards something else. For me the first D relates more towards the whole life dynamic and less about just the kink for kink sake. I do see people putting on profiles that so-and-so is their DD but they are not in a relationship and I don't understand that. Like how do you help them with managing finances, college, social skills and making sure they drink water!!! I would say you identify as you feel so it's preference and judgement or labeling 'must haves' gets attacky. My favorite thing about being a DD is helping someone achieve more than they believed they could achieve. Also, I believe, the feeling needs to be reciprocated. The DD is supposed to miss their little/princess/pet otherwise, to me, it seems one sided and may trend towards more D/s territory.
Co**** Posted November 7 I don’t think being a Daddy Dom requires a sub who is interested in age regression. After all, your ‘Daddy’ doesn’t disappear after you become an adult. It’s about a desire not just to control a submissive, but to guide her, care for her, and help her reach her potential.
Da**** Posted November 7 I think we get too hung up on our titles and labels sometimes and end up in a box. You can truly identify with a specific label, but still make it your own. We create our own rules, boundaries, and unique connections. That’s the fun thing about kink… it’s very “choose your own adventure” and you just find those who mesh well with your kind of weird lol.
ki**** Posted November 7 Daddy can be a term without a little. The titles aren't important, the connection between partners is everything. I have a sub, I'm daddy, but I don't like the DD/LG dynamic. As a father, it's off-putting to me personally. (Not yucking anyone's yum, just saying for me) However, for us. Calling me daddy, calling her baby girl or a variety of titles based on what we're doing is what we like. I know it seems intimidating, especially to people who are new to the lifestyle. They are a mountain of titles, nuances, and interests and they frantically try to figure out where they fit...end of the day.... Never get hung up on "titles" and just do what feels right to all involved.
al**** Posted November 7 It doesn't have to be little and daddy. It can be caregiver and sub. Titles are just that titles. It's the couple that define how they play their role in the dinamic
IC**** Posted November 7 As a DD I think a huge portion of it is that it extends beyond just scenes/sessions. You try to care for them, listen, protect them, and guide them through situations that are stressful or difficult. Aftercare is an even bigger aspect than normal as well. Littles just happen to be a perfect foil to that skillset and mindset.
St**** Posted November 8 Yes it is 100% possible to want a Daddy or Mommy Dominant and not be a little. Daddy and Mommy Dominants are simply on the more caring side of things. A regular submissive could prefer that. Me personally I like the stricter side of things with the caring aspect, so I like a good mix of Mistress and Mommy tendencies in a Dominant.
hu**** Posted November 8 The dynamic is what you make of it. Honestly you could do whatever you felt was correct for you. Tbh a daddy is just a caregiver to me, doesn't need to be a little I'm caring for.
Li**** Posted November 8 This area is so wide that of course it still means there are so many varieties of this kink and that someone can crave a little but mabe not in certain ways and same with a Mommy/Daddy. You can identify as a role or multiple roles and for example- have a partner/s/fwb/ons/dynamic/arrangement with someone who only identifies as some of the matching, yet opposing roles. So, he/she could be a sadist and a rigger and a daddy dom but the other he/she may only be a masochist and rope bunny. It doesn't mean he/she still doesn't desire intimacy/connection with that person!✨️ I don't age play personally as a role play, I have age regression naturally in particular interests, behaviours and more. So I know I enjoy a Dom who is a Daddy in terms of a caring, attentive, emotionally invested, open, available, expressive man. Infact, I NEED it or the dynamic and intimacy feels like it has a big hole in it! 😸😿 🥺 🥰 ✨️
gr**** Posted November 8 I mean if you can make it work, but a daddy dom is mostly just a particularly caring dom without the specifics of the little kink
Ro**** Posted November 8 Daddy and Dom are separate in a way for me. Daddy is caring, understanding and supportive while being willing to not feed poor behavior. Dom is getting satisfaction that someone is going to be submissive in exchange for pleasure or release. Obviously the two overlap at times but I get satisfaction from both of the dynamics.
li**** Posted November 9 I enjoy the part of the daddy that knows what he wants and praises when I obey. He isn't too rough or mean. Like a daddy, he knows when to be gentle and when to be stern. I love and desire to find a daddy I feel safe to be with and can trust.
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