Intro to the Dynamic

[sh****]

What makes a sub a sub? And how do I find a dom for me? Im kind of new to this, the dynamic i have always liked but ive never gotten to experience it to the full potential. I want to embrace this but im having a hard time finding someone, its a lot of trust to put into someone. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance 😊

[FETMod-HG]

Please do not proposition the OP as I will need to hide the comment and issue a warning for each and every one, as per the Forum Guidelines, and neither of us want that 

[Deleted Member]

This is a great question. A sub is someone who desires to submit to someone else. Could be sexual, could not be. Could be kinky, or not. Take the Trad Wife or 50's Housewife dynamic.
If you want to submit, find a cool subbie group or create one in your area. Meet and talk and learn from other subs. A Dom can only teach you to be their sub.

Find out what it is that you want and don't. Set your boundaries and don't be scared to approach Doms for conversation online or at events.
First make a connection with someone, and take it from there. And have more to offer than a hole to fill or an ass to spank. Just sayin.

You will certainly find the right one for you. You may go through a bunch before you find the one. Be willing to do that. Doms are in general a thirsty bunch. Kinda goes with the territory. There will always be plenty out there to choose from.

[sh****]

29 minutes ago, FETMod-HG said:

Please do not proposition the OP as I will need to hide the comment and issue a warning for each and every one, as per the Forum Guidelines, and neither of us want that 

Im confused what do you mean? Did I say something wrong?

[ey****]

4 minutes ago, showboatsworld said:

Im confused what do you mean? Did I say something wrong?

it's not you - it's a warning to everyone else not to go "pick me, pick me" 

[sh****]

1 minute ago, eyemblacksheep said:

it's not you - it's a warning to everyone else not to go "pick me, pick me" 

Ohh ok thank you for the clarification.

[my****]

Set clear boundaries for your exploration. This is a walk don’t run situation. Find someone close by and talk to them, ask questions. If you feel wrong taking it further trust that instinct. Set up a pre play date where nothing sexual is expected. Then discuss your boundaries. If everything checks out, go for it. No bondage. That’s something you should work towards when you feel safe.

[Ka****]

Just take your time, be cautious, and make sure you can trust the person your with.

[dd****]

What empowers you? Follow your excitement