hu**** Posted November 16 Yeah you're definitely that guy showing the contents of your photo album to the lads
Curiously_Exploring Posted November 16 9 hours ago, Onlykinks said: I’ve wasted my time and the time of the other person through them not sharing a full length image of themselves. She wasted her fuel and time and we both had wasted evenings. Of course I want to see what a potential partner looks like naked. It’s saves wasting each others time Tell me you're a privileged white man without telling me you're a privileged white man... The way that you talk about this woman honestly makes me feel sick.
Curiously_Exploring Posted November 16 12 hours ago, InkedAngel1991 said: I have my reasons. 1 being that i have no body confidence. No one has helped give me confidence the amount ive been ripped apart for my size. 2. The last time someone had access to photos on a site - not this one - they decided to share them across the Internet for a revenge p0rn for no utter reason. Luckily I got him arrested. So yeah im definitely guarded. We don't need to give reasons - our bodies are ours to do with (or not) as we please 🥰 But I am so very sorry to hear that you've had the awful experience of having your images shared... I can't imagine the distress that brought you. I'm glad that you had the courage to stand up to him and get him arrested. Men are trash.
Ma**** Posted November 16 10 hours ago, Onlykinks said: I’ve wasted my time and the time of the other person through them not sharing a full length image of themselves. She wasted her fuel and time and we both had wasted evenings. Of course I want to see what a potential partner looks like naked. It’s saves wasting each others time What a crock, you're superficial AF. Physical attraction is so limited. Mental attraction is everything. Don't get me wrong, I'm a visual person, but if I like you as a person, I'll find you physically attractive, but if I find you physically attractive, there's no guarantee I'll like you as a person.
Ma**** Posted November 16 15 hours ago, Pet_Mimic said: This comes off as either excessively naive or grossly entitled. This is a dating app, not an OF or porn site. Besides, none of those problems are real. . 1. Physical attraction is a key component, but nudity is completely unnecessary to find somebody attractive or arousing. When you take kinks into consideration, nudity is even less of a factor. Compatibility and respect go a lot farther in a relationship than appearance. The only reason a person would care more about nudes is because they're looking for hook ups, not a relationship. That's fine, but people looking for more shouldn't be expected to present themselves the same way. Some people even find it more attractive when a potential partner isn't displaying everything for everyone. Best to just let people be themselves. . 2. That's completely backward. People showing off their bodies get way more attention than those who don't. Nudity makes a lot of losers feel like it's okay to treat the person as a free use slut who should have to give them what they want. On top of that, more images? There are millions, if not billions, of free images and videos online. You think the people here providing or withholding pics is the deciding factor for things like criminal elements? Besides, by that logic, the way to stop all crime is to give everyone everything they want no matter what. The entire concept is absolutely ridiculous. Criminals deserve to be punished, not catered to. . 3. There is a big difference between, "You don't qualify to look at me;" and, "I'm not comfortable with an entire app of strangers being able to look at me naked." The only problems that could be cycled back to are entitled losers getting angry. Hopefully, they just get reported and perma banned. Preach!
ch**** Posted November 16 You have no entitlement to the bodies of others. Even if what you said was true (it's not!) the "it seems weird to withhold nudes from someone you intend to have sex with" part is crazy. How are they supposed to know that's what they want until they meet and discover your personality? Not to mention; sex is temporary but a picture is forever.
De**** Posted November 16 6 hours ago, HornedAdder said: This is the most incel thing I've read all day... It really and in this day and age that’s no easy accomplishment.
an**** Posted November 16 Personally I think those should be reserved for your partner when trust is established but on the other hand you can be proud of your body and expose it in a tasteful way like tight fitting clothing where youre still able to see the contour of said body without exposing the intimate areas. But to each their own.
LadyV Posted November 16 For fucksake, man. The internet is full of porn sites that are full of naked pictures. Go look at nudes there! Look at that, no "discrimination against you" on fucking PornHub. Ogle, leer, and stare to your heart's content with Xhamster. But that's not what you want, is it? Let's sit and really examine that for a moment because this is something fascinating to reflect on. You're complaining that no one is sharing their nudes with you because you want to see nudes. However, porn exists. Your solution to wanting to see nudes is literally RIGHT THERE. A Google search away. But...that's not actually what you want, is it? If it was just about seeing naked people pics, you would just go look at porn. I get the vibe there's already some porn addicted brain rot going on here anyways. We know you already consume a lot of porn. You know where to find easily accessible porn immediately. So why are you so upset you can't get it here from random people when you can get it from a porn site? What is the difference? Oh right...human connection and participation. You already consume an excessive amount of porn. But the problem is that those images and videos don't have a person immediately attached to them that you can interact with. It's a picture or a video with no person attached. You can't reach out and talk to those women who were performing as paid porn actresses. You can't connect with them past the 2-dimensional picture or video. You're visually consuming a sex act but there's no potential for actual human connection attached to it for you. You experience sexual arousal and your own physical stimulation but in complete social and emotional isolation. There it is. There's the difference. That's why you're actually so upset about random strangers not sharing nudes with you. You want porn with a person attached. You want someone to act like that 2-dimensional porn star pic/vid...but also interact with you personal. Talk to you personally. Sexually engage with you personally. You want human connection involved in your sexual stimulation. That's why just going to a porn site isn't good enough for you. You want a person to act like porn but specifically WITH you in a way porn never will. It's fucking sad when you lay it out because it becomes quite clear that you don't understand how to satisfy your very human needs for social engagement, emotional intimacy, or human connection without reducing yourself and someone else to porn actors on a screen. And in doing, you essentially guarantee you're never going to satisfy the need for intimacy that you actually crave cause you don't get the difference between porn and people.
ca**** Posted November 16 If you don't understand why people might not want to have their nudes available to the general public then you can't be trusted with said nudes and are one of the people that they are locked away from.
Deleted Member Posted November 16 Way to make a post to ensure that nobody sends you nudes. Entitled much? I actually find it funny that you would think that a woman or anyone would send you nudes just based on your profile picture itself not to mention this post. I for one don’t even communicate with any man whose profile picture or any picture that he has with his tongue sticking out. I find it repulsing.
co**** Posted November 16 I agree that exchanging nudes can be good before you meet in person, I tend to do it (without face or identifying characteristics) because I want people to be aware of what they're "signing up for" and it can create sexy tension in advance. But I wouldn't want to share them publicly because not everyone needs to see something so private
co**** Posted November 16 Your second point sounds victim-blamey AF though. There is no scarcity of nudes on the internet, and women's nudes still get leaked nonconsensually.
Al**** Posted November 16 Author Yesterday at 06:34 PM, bluprincess19 said: Yeah I knew this was written by a dude. So here is the thing most women I know and myself aren’t shy about sending adult pictures, however this mentality that men are owed our pictures is a huge turn of. If and when I share my body with someone is my own personal choice. And it’s gross for a man to make an entire post about demanding pictures. You know what make us more comfortable sharing ourselves with you? You not acting like we are porn stars. We are people with complex personalities and backgrounds. That girl that doesn’t want to send you a full body nude? Maybe she has scars that she doesn’t want anyone to see, maybe she’s a thick girl and her stretch marks make her feel ugly. And don’t get me started on your reasons. If you can’t act like an adult and not engage in unwanted attention that’s a you problem. And point 3, it’s not always about you. Get over yourself and stop demanding nudes from people. Go watch porn. This is simply a perspective and observation. There is not a single mention of being owed anything.
Al**** Posted November 16 Author Yesterday at 06:38 PM, Lady_Char said: Your take on this blows my mind 🤣 You are surprised that people who want to make a connection on a kink app might not want every Tom and Harry wanking over their pictures. Alternative perspective. The nudes don't exist. Those private pics could be anything. If people haven't shared their private galleries with you, that's telling. Or. People want their profiles to be read and for connections to form person to person, and not to be seen as a piece of meat. Are you conflating a kink app with a porn site? Do you think that everyone on here views it as an online wanking site, or a kinky tinder? For many people, this place is a kink community. That would be the same as suggesting they shove their nudes up on Facebook, were it allowed. If you want to see nudes, use a porn site. If people on here have nudes to share and aren't sharing them with you, ask yourself why. Is it your approach? Is it that you aren't what they are looking for and they actually don't want to throw their naked body out to everyone? It is everyone's right to dictate who sees their body. The surprise is not about the nudes, it's about social impacts that are so entrenched that people are missing the reality of the behavior and it's impact on the views of our own nudity. It's about cowing to social expectations rather than being an authentic human.
Al**** Posted November 16 Author Yesterday at 06:36 PM, m3ssage_m3_f1rst said: This seems very biased towards your desires and fulfilling them, and doesn’t seem to even consider the perspective of the other participants at all I can understand why a question like this may seem self focused, it is not. It's about how we choose to engage. Most of us meticulously craft our profiles to appeal to the largest subset of individuals we would like to invest our attention into. Many, though they won't admit it, browse potential based on images FIRST then read up on the profile (most skip that as well.) these apps are not designed to Garner attention for words, even though WE value it as personal. They focus on the base of physical attraction, and only then offer a deeper look if one is inclined. This in fact has no individual in mind, it is an authentic examination of what seems a self defying act most participate in.
Al**** Posted November 16 Author Yesterday at 06:34 PM, bluprincess19 said: Yeah I knew this was written by a dude. So here is the thing most women I know and myself aren’t shy about sending adult pictures, however this mentality that men are owed our pictures is a huge turn of. If and when I share my body with someone is my own personal choice. And it’s gross for a man to make an entire post about demanding pictures. You know what make us more comfortable sharing ourselves with you? You not acting like we are porn stars. We are people with complex personalities and backgrounds. That girl that doesn’t want to send you a full body nude? Maybe she has scars that she doesn’t want anyone to see, maybe she’s a thick girl and her stretch marks make her feel ugly. And don’t get me started on your reasons. If you can’t act like an adult and not engage in unwanted attention that’s a you problem. And point 3, it’s not always about you. Get over yourself and stop demanding nudes from people. Go watch porn. Sorry for the double reply but please understand this is not an attack, it is a question if trends I see, I'm sure others do as well, dispute the stereotyping being directed at me..Yes I am a male. But it's irrelevant. It is your choice to share the personal pics, that was not challenged was it? In no way was it a demand. I'm not sure you even read it. In fact, with the hostile way you are reading this, I would rather you NOT share any but of your self inflated view of what every human on earth has...your scars are beautiful to someone, and hiding them to cultivate an image because you are ashamed harms you and denies them the right of knowing who you really are. To be clear, omission is a direct lie, and the individual you are hoping to build a connection with is connecting to the lie..not you. You can't see the harm? Body parts don't make someone ugly...how they are valued by all parties does. I did not request a single thing in this post so your attack on 3 seems like you are trying to put this as me forcing something rather than how the post ended with "I would love to hear your feedback" (To the best of my humble education...that's a call for thought on this topic and actual conversation...a question...)
Al**** Posted November 16 Author Yesterday at 06:25 PM, ItsBeeXox said: There’s a *lot* this doesn’t take into consideration or factor in I posted this as a conversation to be had. If you have observations I missed, please enlighten me.
ca**** Posted November 16 I think your post is actually spot on. I think with this site and others it’s important to show who you are!! Not everyone wants too and it’s there choice and indeed there are I imagine a few people that just want to ogle. If you’ve the confidence to show yourself then do it and not hide.
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