ye**** Posted November 21 What’s the most exciting thing you think about having your key held or being a key holder? Also who lead you into giving that control over? Was it you asking to have someone hold your keys? Or did someone tell you to give them to them?
TimberTara Posted November 24 You’re a sub it’s always the dominant who takes control and holds the keys and put you in Chasity
aq**** Posted November 24 I once had a domme swallow the keys to my teeth of Kali, while fitted tight and tumescent. Scary but horny .
Ca**** Posted November 24 For the majority of the time I've been caged I've been in cuckold relationships and my gf held and wore the key . We started swinging at university for a short time before we met Dom ( she was also submissive ) I was in awe of how he controlled her end and couldn't join in . It was her who suggested if I wasn't joining in I may as well be caged and it grew from just 24 hours around her meets to full time chastity
Do**** Posted November 24 Love holding keys. Love the feeling of control. Ultimate control. Knowing I have them locked up and owned by me. It’s hot! But has to be the right type of subs. Not just anyone.
Da**** Posted November 24 It can be fun. I have tried it out shortly after we met on this app. My only suggestion would be to give it to someone you want to serve and know on more than a surface level and not just for your kink.
Wi**** Posted November 25 Well its kinky n fun bc if u give ur keys over to someone else then u can't take it off urself if u want.. but thats also dangerous . U should only give ur keys to someone u r committed with n in long term commitment with bc a hospital visit would b very shitty
Ropestone Posted November 25 10 hours ago, DommeDelight said: Love holding keys. Love the feeling of control. Ultimate control. Knowing I have them locked up and owned by me. It’s hot! But has to be the right type of subs. Not just anyone. May I ask: Do You prefer to have a potential lockee purchase a device of Your choosing? Do You have a preference, Ma'am? xx
Do**** Posted November 25 1 hour ago, Ropestone said: May I ask: Do You prefer to have a potential lockee purchase a device of Your choosing? Do You have a preference, Ma'am? xx The most important thing is that it’s a good fit. Not one with space to go hard and get in a pickle with, slide off and things get trapped and emergency unlocking is needed a lot. And not one that fits so bad that the subby is constantly moaning. It should not allow space to grow, for nice and snug but not cut of *** supply, and give a horny ache. Personally I’m not into sissification so no pink ones for me! But the metal/ black cobra/ resin styles are all great if they’re a good fit. I mainly need a compliant subby who doesn’t complain about his cage being wrong, as that becomes very tiresome.
Do**** Posted November 25 7 hours ago, Wickedlykinky- said: Well its kinky n fun bc if u give ur keys over to someone else then u can't take it off urself if u want.. but thats also dangerous . U should only give ur keys to someone u r committed with n in long term commitment with bc a hospital visit would b very shitty Completely need to trust the person holding the keys, in case you get in a mess, have a medical emergency or work circumstances need it removing. Some have it locked remotely within a marriage where the wife doesn’t want to be involved in kink, so an understanding Domme is needed. The dynamic should be framed in a consenting arrangement that suits both people’s life and circumstances. Yes the feeling of having no control is hot, but overall there is equal say in what can and can’t happen, prior agreement and respect for each other. I’ve even heard of Dommes refuse to unlock without m0ney being sent, so be careful. And report them if they do that.
Ropestone Posted November 25 19 minutes ago, DommeDelight said: The most important thing is that it’s a good fit. Not one with space to go hard and get in a pickle with, slide off and things get trapped and emergency unlocking is needed a lot. And not one that fits so bad that the subby is constantly moaning. It should not allow space to grow, for nice and snug but not cut of *** supply, and give a horny ache. Personally I’m not into sissification so no pink ones for me! But the metal/ black cobra/ resin styles are all great if they’re a good fit. I mainly need a compliant subby who doesn’t complain about his cage being wrong, as that becomes very tiresome. Thank You, Ma'am It's obvious that handing cage keys (both of them!) to You would be quite a privilege 😍 xx
Wi**** Posted November 25 Im still trying 2 find a proper fitting 1.. I wanted to do caged NNN 24/7.. but i found it difficult 2 sleep with bc of nite hard ons.. I've now bought 2 cages n I think I need another 1
Wi**** Posted November 25 Just now, Wickedlykinky- said: Im still trying 2 find a proper fitting 1.. I wanted to do caged NNN 24/7.. but i found it difficult 2 sleep with bc of nite hard ons.. I've now bought 2 cages n I think I need another 1 I did make it 23 days b4 failing unfortunately
TimtheMerciless Posted November 26 On 11/24/2025 at 10:42 PM, DommeDelight said: Love holding keys. Love the feeling of control. Ultimate control. Knowing I have them locked up and owned by me. It’s hot! But has to be the right type of subs. Not just anyone. Its kind of obvious but kind of not obvious - that the rituals of kink are really an acting out of emotional dynamics we want to have. (Bows respectfully and cheekily eyes the 'click on my profile button' , with coquettish expression on face) I've been to a fetish event where I was dommed by a lady at the request of my then girlfriend. It was hot and then lady was showing a lot of goodwill by staying in character and interacting with my GF . To be honest I was pretty dazzled by the hotness of the whole situation. But on reflection I hope Dom lady was having a good time . Perhaps she really was what her fet event persona indicated - a ninja assassin with extravagant lingerie taste. But more likely I expect she was a teacher or a geologist or an occupational therapist. But what made it just hot was it was gifted to me by my girlfriend. So underneath the dazzling "acted drama scenario " of the lacy sadistic assassin, there was an actual emotion. I'm assuming some goodwill and genuine excitement from sadist assassin lady , but could relate to my then girlfriend's generosity more because I was more familiar with her and had a more worked - out sense of the kinds of (messed - up but heartfelt) connections drove our relationship.
cl**** Posted Sunday at 01:08 PM Power exchange, trust and surrender. The physical act is just a symbol of these deeper things.
TimtheMerciless Posted 2 hours ago (edited) On 11/30/2025 at 1:08 PM, clear_spring said: Power exchange, trust and surrender. The physical act is just a symbol of these deeper things. I had a short but epic year affair with a lady I clicked with very strongly. We had very different ideas about career and which country to live in. So it was a time that was short, but sweet. Our play philosophy was unmatchably compatible. I did an absolutely epic year of power related kink ( we chose a short sporting tournament to follow and the winner got to be Dom for a year. Really) . Some of it was ritualised - but the power of the ritual was associated with disciplines and sacrifices that the rituals symbolised. The two derived power from each other. We had some small rituals and observances that were very powerful. But I think the power of them came from the nature of our relationship and the commitment, cruel, curious playfulness and trust in it. The two fed on each other. Ritual was a rein***r of intended action and a celebration of the consistency and reliability of our relationship . Reliability built trust. Trust empowered wildness and made some crazy dynamics a real possibility. It also gave quiet times a frisson of the extraordinary. The trust level was stratospheric. Consequently it was possible ( though not always necessary) for her to be extremely sadistic in a way that wouldn't have been possible had she just been a broadly positive acquaintance. What I really liked was that mostly nothing happened . But there was this possibility of peril hanging over the most innocent of visits to a nice cafe. What might there journey home bring? Probably nothing. But not definitely. Every moment of every day was tinged with epic adventure . Sometimes to clear the space of erotic tension she would say ' we are just being normal for today' or I would request it because the erotic peril was making it hard to enjoy her company on a mundane level. Also because I trusted her I was able to commit to things that were technically not overtly sexy (not the overt indulgence of bells and whistles "domination in lingerie "). We pre-discussed that there would be a possiblity open that there would be no sexual reward for me AT ALL through out the next year. I committed to doing my best to keep to that . So I knew that I had the determination to keep to it because it was her. And the reward for me was genuinely to please her and be amusing for her - even if she was just driven by mischief or if she just abandoned me to nothing, not even passive teasing . So any cruelty , no matter how passive , because a gift. The trust and emotional link created this unique imaginative space where the weirdest behaviour became real. A trust- based hadron-collider in which unstable fantasy dynamics could be sustained in an environment in which the rules of normality no longer apply. In reality there was quite a lot of lush sexuality but I knew she was mischievous, cruel, ruthless and most of all: curious enough, to cut that out at any time and subject me to who-knows-what privations. I knew she would probably want the lush sexuality for us and that the privations she subjected me to were a turn on and a tease also for her self. But I also knew she might be curious enough to see what would happen if she showed some curiousity about having some discipline and exploring the effect of prolonging some privation for months. I promised to work to my best ability to fulfil any instruction that did not impact on uninvolved third parties. She knew I meant it. We were also realistic. If I baulked at something we would work together to find an equivalent as a punishment that matched on an emotional level, and also punished the refused activity. Punishment wasn't inevitable. She was unpredictably lenient. But I knew she meant it. Part of the deal was there was no obligation to be cruel but also not a limit to the amount of cruelty I would be willing to commit my self to. If she had said "cut off your finger" I obviously wouldn't have done it (only dumb people think fantasy is real. Extreme unwise fantasy isn't great fantasy : it's actually dumb acts done in a state of stupidity. The commitment comes from making something which is crazy but not crazy. It's a kind of Schrödinger's s state ) But I would have done my best to take it that as much as I was able I owed her a finger. I would have showed gratitude that she was tolerating non payment . The moral of the story is if you REALLY click with someone as a person spiritually (excuse the big term but I can't think of an alternative) and in terms of sense of humour : things can get VERY weird! Edited 1 hour ago by TimtheMerciless Improving clarity
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