Mi**** Posted November 23 I would say hard and rough as well. but with structured consent with regular check ins, the rougher it is the more In touch the Dom has to be with her tolerance and where shes at both metaly and physically. Followed by aftercare that designed specifically to her needs.
Mi**** Posted November 23 Im sorry he was abusive love. Your an absolutely stunning woman. and should be cherished properly And used hard, Like an exotic one of one supercar. Built with beauty and power. You deserved better, And I hope you get it.
He**** Posted November 23 I had a play partner we had a S/m dynamic, no sex involved. We could do that for hours, we obviously had safe words, he checked in with me to make sure I was okay, and there was always aftercare. What finished our dynamic was his partner, she wasn't as poly as she thought she was, and I could feel that, plus he had some medical issues which he really needed to take of, so I just let it slide. But that was my last S/m dynamic. If you are with someone who is hurting you beyond what you've agreed on or doesn't listen to safe words, he's just using BDSM as a front to being an abusive Ahole.
Rh**** Posted November 24 I think one answer is: nothing like an abusive relationship. There is no power exchange in an abusive relationship, just power taken away. Even when the *** may start with the trappings of a D/s relationship, the experience will be quite different. No respect for limits, no checks and no aftercare. So the answer to your question is not what a D/s relationship looks like, but what does an abusive relationship look like? That should be your guide. One element of every authentic power exchange is simply time. ***rs can't wait.
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