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You have to be open minded and strong in the relationship. It can get addictive when all 3 play together, the new buzz of another extra layer of sex..if you’re prepared then it can be a good thing.
It has to be something that both want it... it's about consent... when you bring someone in the relationship.. even if it is play or poly... it has to be communicated, and both of y'all have to have a strong bonded relationship .. .. when you're ready, that's when you'll get to make your rules together..

Like for me as an example.. when I was in a relationship.. we both set rules... one of my partner's rules was that I was not allowed to play unless he was the are.. and one of my rules was he was not allowed to kiss anyone but me..

Just remember it's okay to set boundaries.. and it's okay to talk about it.. and listen to other people's experiences..

But the most important thing is do you want it? That's the ultimate question.
It can be very empowering and amazing to have another partner with your partner.. but it can also fail and destroy..

Take your time. You're doing the right thing. You're asking questions.
Most females don't like it an they get very jealous an hold that inside forever. An it just blows up later. It's best to do that with someone who's honestly more of a stranger then with someone you even have the slightest feelings for.
I only have it twice in a long relationship the first was Rocky because she didn’t respect my spouse
Then the second was perfect only reason we broke the 3 off was I had to
Leave the state for work
5 minutes ago, versace_guy said:
I only have it twice in a long relationship the first was Rocky because she didn’t respect my spouse
Then the second was perfect only reason we broke the 3 off was I had to
Leave the state for work

Yeah.
I have no respect for anybody.That wants to disrespect my spouse..

.........

Now I completely understand breaking the 3 up.Because you were leaving for out of state work... you set your boundaries

Yea this last time it was way better the other female always made sure my spouse was enjoying her self and would do lil surprise things like showing up wearing lingerie.
7 minutes ago, versace_guy said:
Yea this last time it was way better the other female always made sure my spouse was enjoying her self and would do lil surprise things like showing up wearing lingerie.

I always believe that when there is another woman to show affection and treat her like she is a queen....

Know that's just me..

It all depends on what youre looking for and how the other person is wired
My wife and I have explored in that realm and there’s a lot of good and some bad and ugly hit me up sometime I will be totally honest and open about it
Yes it is different, if you are both convinced you want it, your sex life will be so much more enjoyable and satisfying
I think it depends on the third. If they are a good fit then it should make it better. But finding that fit may be harder than most think. And a bad fit can make things bad right away.
I can say that yes, it’s different. And yes, it’s both good and bad. It takes conversation before AND after interactions. I recommend going on dates before the sex. Treat it like a normal relationship if you’re considering a long term relationship type thing.
My husband and I talked for months about it and set hard boundaries. We communicate before and afterwards. To us that sets our relationship even deeper. Strong communication is key.
10 minutes ago, big-rapids81171 said:
My husband and I talked for months about it and set hard boundaries. We communicate before and afterwards. To us that sets our relationship even deeper. Strong communication is key.

Agreed communication is the key

Being a cuckold myself anytime I have ever been cucked it has made sex way more enjoyable between my partners and I. I think as long as you two have communicated what each others needs are and what you both want out of the experience then there is nothing wrong with adding someone else. It’s very normal
I think, if your relationship is strong and has strong foundation it can survive- but even this isn’t certain.

Here is the thing, having sex with a partner builds attachment, through the release of hormones, like serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin, the important one is oxytocin, as this helps build attachment between sexual partners.

Now, if you share this experience with another, your body will eventually develop some sort of feelings- maybe just superficial maybe deeper, but they will surface.

Then, you may see yourself feeling attraction to the person you have sex with after a period of time, it takes time for oxytocin to encourage love behaviour. But, if they are a person who you often have sex with it can happen, then there is a potential during intimacy with your original partner that you will think about the other person, if the experience eventually becomes less enjoyable.

It’s a chain reaction, it stays off small, but eventually the cumulative effect can cause a great amount of small explosions, and if your foundation is shabby consider it done for.

You need to not be naive, and entertain the idea that if it’s your partner having sex without you, or vice versa, they could potentially find new found love with the person they chose. - you need to decide whether you want to risk this, or if you really want to do it, communicate set boundaries- as in, once the other feels feelings you talk about things, an then you may have to decide breaking.

However many success stories there about getting into these situations, there are lots of stories where it ended in tears, those just aren’t talked about- the ability to disconnect feelings like a switch with a person your having sex with isn’t very common, many just develop feelings but won’t admit it.

So maybe the sex will be better, maybe it won’t; but it will definitely change some things - and hay biology isn’t everything, your social connection and bond does play a role, so you may find, even if the sex with the other person is great at first, eventually you long for your own partners touch.



Depends on the third and the chemistry between the two
If it's not for the better then wtf is everyone doing? Better make 100% sure your partner is okay with it, because deep down a lot of people are not, say they are, and it eats them up inside
It’s been different for us, better.. granted we haven’t been open that long but his girlfriend has allowed him to explore parts of himself he was unable to explore with just me. We’ve had longer deeper conversations and our playtime has been put on steroids
We chose the cuckold lifestyle so yes sex was different, as all her penetrative sex came from Others. We loved it it was definitely better for sex and our relationship
Very, easy does it… slowly grow.
Communication is key.
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